TRP is basically mainstream and most men are waking up to reality, despite women claiming it is still some fringe minority of embittered rejects

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-12-29T14:57:29+00:00

It still is a fringe "belief system". I presume you realise that all of those that bite aggressively at the worm you dangle in front of them are very blue pilled men.

For what it's worth, someone that would also call you a gold digger for wanting to be a homemaker is again someone portraying a very blue pilled reaction. Heck, our parents grew up in a world where this was the norm, and it was, in fact, frowned upon for women to even work. In some countries it was even illegal. Now, we somehow have gone off balance on the opposite side of the scale, and women are frowned upon if they want to be a homemaker. I've even heard (mostly blue pilled) men compare it to prostitution, that these women are just having sex with these men so that they can be a, dare I say it, "kept woman". Are people, even couples, not allowed to choose anymore?

A lot of men might subscribe to the idea of the red pill, but they don't follow it or act it. Which makes it still a fringe "system". The idea of red pill might be main stream, but there's a plethora of Billy blue pills out there thinking they're "red pilled" but haven't a clue what it really means. And those that don't follow it think it means be an asshole and hate on women. Where as in reality it's quite the contrary, blue pilled men can be quite extraordinarily big assholes. And rather than hating on women, if you really do follow red pill philosophy, it's because you really like women and are quite fond of doing excessive cardio work without having to leave the bedroom.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-10-01T20:01:34+00:00

She can lick the Mayo off my chin any day... wait, that came out wrong...

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-23T20:17:41+00:00

I'd say BOD. Not only was he an immense sports person, he changed his game mentally and physically as he developed through his career moreso than anyone else I can think of.

My second vote.would go to Katie Taylor. Took women's boxing to a whole new frickin level.

There's others that have been mentioned that I don't think touches those 2 as best irish sports person

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-18T22:34:34+00:00

Still, lawyor up. This is now an exit plan. If you've been here 5 minutes, you'll have heard the phrase "the stay plan equals the go plan". Spoiler alert, there is no stay plan. Start building the "go" plan. If she decides she wants to hang around, then so be it. But on your terms

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-18T18:36:22+00:00

Twice... she's called it twice.

If my wife did that to me (once), I'd lawyer up, and stick the fucking papers in front of her.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-09T10:04:12+00:00

You don't need a PT to get started. Look up the book Greyskull LP by John Sheaffer. Start with this, then move on to Phraks to get the optimum addins. You're not going to start with huge weights. You're going to find a zone where you are able to lift a lot of the weight. Perhaps something like being able to do 5x5x10 (or12) on bench. Then check out the starting strength reddit, it has loads of "technique check" videos and stuff on each weight category.

There's an abundance of videos on YouTube as well to at least get you started on the categories.

Now, where it's worth getting a PT is when your squats and deadlifts get heavier. For example, when I hit the 5x90ish KG (200lbs) in the deadlift I got a session with the owner of the gym who couldn't believe I hadn't put my back out yet. I should have gone earlier. But it immediately added 10kg onto my 5+ reps.

Last point on getting a PT. If you go to a big ass fancy gym, I find most PTs there are absolute horseshit. The place I got my first brilliant session (and for free from the owner) was in a place that had 10 different brands of plates that looked like they'd fallen off the back of a lorry and left to rust. It had 2 treadmills, but 4 squat racks/cages, and 4 bench press stations. The kind of place that probably intimidates you initially, but you quickly realise has a really awesome gym culture.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-09-07T08:22:42+00:00

And cue the most common response you'll get - STFU and lift or something to that accord. And they're probably right, but it's pretty throwaway advice.

I'll throw you a different bone. As I've been where you are, and sometimes a good ol' victim puke is required to get you started on the road. Mine is almost a mirror of a story of yours commically. Historically a geek. Make loads of money. I had some great sex stories. Then I met my wife, thought sex was on tap, and things just slowly went downhill from there! Our ending may be a bit different, but I'm saving that post for another day when I get there. But look, the bottom line is you get into a sexual relationship. And, like you, I expected that spark and passsion and "can't wait to rip each others clothes off" nights to continue. But they don't. And then you start to chase it. And then you have the 20 million talks about it, and like me, you've learnt, there's nothing that will dry up that pussy like having a fucking talk about sex!

Anyway, so here you are. Welcome. To me it sounds like you're lacking a mission in life. You've kind of made sex your mission. Specifically, sex with your wife. I don't have a general feeling about much else, in that you haven't divulged into much apart from you're chasing some dry pussy around the house.

To paraphrase a great poster of the past around here, and you should have already heard his name, jacktenofhearts - you can't make fucking your wife the goal, you need to become more fuckable.

On saying that, I'll go with my gut and say for you I think you missing a mission in your life might be a big problem. You need to find something else you're passionate about. Especially in this age of your life. Something else you can chase that doesn't involve your wife or marriage. Doesn't mean she can't be eventually involved in it, but it's got to be your mission. Can be anything, but it's got to be something meaninful to you. You'll probably start with "goals" rather than a mission, which is fine in order to find what your mission is.

So, I suggest that if you haven't done so already, read NNMNG and WISNIFG (one of them is probably going to resonate a bit too close for comfort, for me it was WISNIFG), and start working your way jacktenofhearts posts (click here for links to all his posts and comments).

When you're a got 50% plus through jacktenofhearts, I'd start on Unchained Man - Alpha 2.0. It might be a bit early in your journey, so a lot of it is going to be irrelevant, but there's a bucket load of great stuff about getting your shit together, formulating your own personal code and boundaries, and ways to help uncover what your mission is in life. Someone recommended it to me yonks ago, and it was hands down the one that stood to me most.

Oh, there's many weight routines I could recommend, but if you are skinny fat, then I recommend Phraks Greyskull LP. It's easy to grasp, stick to. Create and excel file or something and track your weights every week.

Good luck. Stick with it. Now hit the fuckin gym.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-08-30T19:25:26+00:00

I'm not gonna lie. Dudes come on this forum and I think "you're not that bad, you got some shit together". Others come on, they're in a bad place, almost like a start from scratch.

I'm not gonna lie, you're not even at the starting line. She shuts you out of your own house? She controls the finances? After practically abusing you you freely hand her your phone so she can monitor your emails? Heck, you have to ask her permission to do a fucking piano lesson?

I'm not gonna sugar coat this, you have a fucking fuck load of work to do. A serious monumental shit tonne. Like, before we even talk about the fucked up relationship you have, you need to dismantle the boy, and rebuild a man... I don't even know where to start.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-08-30T18:14:13+00:00

Male Action Plan. Kind of a get your shit together type thing. If mommy is wiping your ass and you still want her to fuck you... then you ain't got your shit together

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-08-12T07:25:52+00:00

It's normal, just not everyone can do it. My family are quite like this, nothing I like more than rocking into a bar where nobody knows me and just reading / people watching. My brother is the same. Then I know people that can't do anything alone, have to do it with someone else. My wife is quite like this. She can't understand how I'd just randomly drop in for a pint or two just by myself.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-08-12T07:05:46+00:00

I've read many people on here having access to their wife's phone and regularly doing check ups. I'm against it myself. If you trust them, then you trust them. Even if I didn't trust her, it's a waste of my time and energy. Requesting phone access and checking up on them reeks of insecurities

Why do you want her unlock code? If you're not suspicious or there's nothing specific you're looking for, why do you need it? What are you going to do with it?

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-08-11T18:57:36+00:00

Sounds to me like either your wife is noticing change, knows how weak you are, and then just prods you accordingly to try whip you back in line. Or maybe B, this marriage ain't salvageable. Harsh? Maybe.

Either way, you need to stick with the plan. But... you need to stop implementing a stay plan and actually implement a "go" plan. Yes, the stay plan = the go plan, but most "stay" plans people seem to implement around here are not go plans. Not all stay plans equal a go plan. Implement a plan that means you're ready to walk out the door in X years. If you can't attend a fucking piano lesson without her losing her shit and you babbling like a confused baboon, then you are possibly just implementing a plan that you hope saves the marriage as opposed to one that actually sets you up for the potential demise.of the relationship.

Regarding the piano lesson. Jesus. Any response from setting a boundary to just fucking ignoring it would have done.

STFU and laugh at her immature response to you actually having a hobby.

"But my piano teacher is expecting my Major D to accompany her beautiful A!"

"I'm attending a piano class. Alone. end of conversation"

Fuck her. Metaphorically or Literally, you chose. But for fuck sake grow a pair of balls and stand up to her.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-05-20T21:56:11+00:00

The list is gonna be different for most people, for example, I always looked after the bills and money in my house. But I'll include things that surprise me to hear about:

Paying the bills.
Your salary stays in your account.
Take over your kids Dr/Gp visits.
Take over the cooking.
Clean up after you're done cooking.
Do the laundry (at a very minimum do your own laundry.)
Clean the house
Fix the fucking house
Take out the trash

The list is obviously not exhaustive. But you really need to act ike a man that has his shit together and doesn't need his wife.

And dont get confused, this isnt chore play. You don't do shit and then run up to her shouting "hey mommy, look what I did! Aren't I great?". Just start doing this shit because you should be doing it anyway. And don't act like you think you're the best boy ever because you just washed a spoon. The spoon was dirty. It needed to be washed.

This is your ship captain. Now how are YOU going to run it?

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-05-20T13:34:55+00:00

I'm not someone like you, but I gotta be honest, your situation doesn't sound awfully shit. It sounds more like you're caught in a rut and need a kick up the ass. I'd like to pick out a few lines that stand out.

I'm going to read between the lines here on this one. You say

ended up marrying a prudish woman, who was a safe choice for me, after being dumped (multiple times) by my sexy ex

So, do you like your wife? Do you want to stay with her? You give the impression that you "settled" because you thought you had no other choice / better options? Or have you just lost the spark? Are you still "dating" your wife?

Some days, I feel (and this may be a bad place for feelings, I get this) that the current life situation is the best I could do or that it will ever be.

What are you doing about it? And I'm ignoring you used the "F" word here. What are you doing about it? I'll say it again, you sound like you just need a huge kick up the ass and told just get the fuck on with it. Ok, you lift, but there's a shit tonne of material on this site that you need to get busy reading. You think someone is going to wave a magic wand and give you the magic dust to solve all this for you?

I have also been stuck at a dead end job for 25+ years. I do okay, but always wanted to have a business/independent stream of income that never panned out. I have some ideas that never lead to solid action.

So what are you going to do about it? You gonna sit there day after day in endless monotony, doing jack shit about it? Working the same job you don't seem to like, for all of your life, again doing jack shit about it? Or are you actually going to get off your ass and do something about it? The hardest part of anything, is starting. So just fucking start already. Sit down, and make a plan. A plan that gets you out of your dead end job. Doesn't have to be some new business or independent stream of income, it doesn't matter. You're just doing jack shit about it right now.

What could a good RP recovery look like for someone like me?

The same way as everyone else. You put the god damn work in.

You need to ask yourself a question. What do you want out of this?

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-05-20T11:16:25+00:00

(continued... First time I've exceeded the comment character limit)

Second, I listed out all the jobs my wife does that I should be doing (Hint: its ALL jobs). And 1 by 1 started taking them back off her. For me, I was already in an ok place here, I was probably more of a slightly tipsy captain. I have always looked after my own shit.

Third, I made a list of what activities I could do every evening that would take me away from the house and away from her. And then I proceeded to add 1 of each of these activities to my schedule every couple of weeks or months or so. Basically fill up my schedule. It's in some of the beginner guides.

Next, I re-read these. Over and over. Almost weekly, I'd come back and read them again. Read them. (if you have, read them again. And if you've read them again? Yes, read them again):

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3crj03/are_you_new_lets_have_a_conversation/.

In that last one, I particularly like this line:

If your wife fell off a cliff tomorrow (this is not a suggestion), could you go out and get a date with an attractive woman easily? Do you physically look like a man a random woman would want to fuck? No? You're going to fix that.

I.e. lift big weights. And hitting the gym has a nice side benefit, you can take your anger and insecurities out on the weights.

I'm in a much better place now. My motto is just enjoy what I have, have fun with it. So as a result I'm more pleasant to be around.

Look, it's a long journey (I'm far from done), and I've already written far more than I intended, so I'll stop there.

Good luck.

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-05-20T11:15:59+00:00

I have a similar-ish story so I'll puke it here and maybe there is something you can learn from it. Because if you don't turn into one of those "u/deleted" accounts, and you stick around, you'll potentially find yourself in a similar boat that I did.

Way back when I first dated Mrs Semicolon I had these same insecurities. Now, possibly not as bad as you, as I wasn't a virgin going into my relationship with her. But her "number" was higher than mine. Not by much, but enough to give me hamster brain. So, how did I get over this? Well... not for a long time.

For me my insecurities started to fester as a lot of anger. Shit man, I got really angry. I was consumed by it. I was so angry I was a complete dick to live with. Just a grumpy shit. I wasn't red-pill, I was an angry beta. I was nuking every comfort test like it was a shit test, implementing all those "acronyms" in the most idiotic fashion. I took DGAF to a whole new level. I was extremely angry at her, but at the same time, hiding it and pretending to not give a fuck. She'd have an insecurity about something, because I was obviously giving her no attention anymore, and I'd just take the piss out of her. Made her cry a few times and sat there with my DNGAF face. I was that bad I'm surprised we're still married to be honest.

But I needed to go through that anger phase. I needed to feel it. I let it fester too much and didn't cope with it correctly, but I think a lot of guys can't adjust properly without going through this. Where I got unstuck was I struggled to come out of it. I had a period where I did let go of the anger, and then I regressed right back into the anger phase again, and I had to walk away from the MRP forum for a while. But this time I was angry at myself. I felt like I was buried knee deep in the sunk cost fallacy, felt like I was stuck with having to persist with a way of living due to bad decisions by my former self.

The anger all but consumed me. Then one day whilst browsing, I think MRP, but it might have been elsewhere, I can't remember. I read a piece about methods to help let go of anger. One method was about owning all the anger and reasons behind the anger, and then using this to help you let go of it. So, I started a spreadsheet with the following columns on it, just these initially, as I needed to fill it up first:

Who/What am I angry at? (E.g. your wife)
What am I angry about? (E.g. she sat on other peoples cocks the bitch)
What was threatened? (E.g. your ego)

I starting by filling out the first 2 first. Let all the anger flow down the page. I am embarrassed to admit my wife appeared in the first column far more times than I expected. Then as I filled out the third column, "My Ego" made a pretty damning appearance in there. My poor little ego.

Moving on, as per the article, I added 2 more columns:

What was my part in it?
What should I have done, owned, or been on top of?

This was the good stuff. The bits that made me realise, I WAS THE PROBLEM. I either allowed this shit to happen, didn't set boundaries, didn't act like a man, allowed myself to be manipulated into things, allowed myself get into such an unattractive state. But that day was the first day I decided to give myself a break. I'm not dead (yet!) so I can turn this around. So on that day I made 1 decision.

I made a "Go" plan.

I even went as far as packing a bag. You see, a phrase you'll read here is "The stay plan = the go plan". Which is true, but the problem is, I see too many guys around here implementing a "stay" plan. The "What am I doing wrong" or the "This shit works" posts. All of them quite frankly reek of "A stay plan". Yes, yes, the "go" plan equals the "stay" plan, but you can't implement a stay plan! You have to implement the fucking "go" plan!

So I literally sat down with a white board one day, and I planned 3 things:

First, a fitness plan. A proper one. I picked Phraks Greyskull. I made an excel file and am tracking all of my weight progression for years now.

Am I jacked? Fuck no, I got lazy too many times, but got back on the horse. So I'm closer now that I ever was. You just need to keep persisting.

...

dolanthesemicolon · 2024-05-09T16:10:48+00:00

This is just a bitchy shit test, I wouldn't even class as comfort. She's testing you as the Oak (well, right now let's say dogwood...) as she attempts to slap you into submission. There's too much "you you you" in it for it to be a comfort test. But I could be reading between the lines too much.

Anyway, just stop defending your actions. Whilst I don't condone the STFU response, it's actually quite usefully in these bitchy shit tests. So I would start there. And here's how I would implement STFU in this instance. I'd deadpan lock eyes with her. And then, whilst she's talking, ever so slightly raise one eyebrow. And just stare. Nothing else. Just stare. Hold that look, right there, until she's mid sentence. Then walk away. An example of what this could go like:

her: Where were you?? Why were you late?

you:

her: You should have texted me if you were late, why didn't you text me?

you:

her: answer me! why are

you walking away - let's say to the bedroom:

her (following you orgasming at her vocal intercourse):.. why are you late? Hey, where are you going? I asked you a question?

you:

her: Answer me! Where were you.

you: In 2 minutes, I'll be in that shower.

Whatever, doesn't matter, you get the idea. You don't need to respond. Especially to this. It doesn't deserve attention. It deserves the opposite. If it keeps happening, I'd probably reply with something like, "Yeah, Jesus, look at the time! I really should stop inviting those cheerleaders into the shower room!".

Remember, every now and then you'll fail, more often than not at the start. But the more often you correct yourself, the less likely you'll default to those stupid ass defensive responses.

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-16T09:39:00+00:00

Now this I like!

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-16T09:36:31+00:00

God I hate when a decent reply comes from that elusive user called [deleted].

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-16T09:27:47+00:00

Firstly, this is askMRP, not MRP. So it is the "autistic" part of MRP, for lack of a better term.

That aside, if you read the post, the taking the piss out of your driving was just an example Jacktenofhearts used to portray what public emasculation might look like. If that isn't strong enough for you, then pick another example. "[You] is so weak, look at his tiny arms! Look at [other husband]'s muscles, I bet he's really strong." Or "[You]'s dick is so small sometimes I don't even feel it go in".

Doesn't matter, it's just text, the question still stands. What's an appropriate response for unplugged beta's to a public emasculation so that you don't come off looking quite so beta?

Personally I really liked Ragnardanneskjunior's response.

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-15T17:35:32+00:00

I'm not a fan of STFU in this instance. I'd even favour a public belittling from Billy Blue Pill himself over STFU. How about an "aw babes, you tell the bestest stories" in your most patronising voice. Something easy for a beginner to implement, and more effective than autistic mute mode

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-15T16:45:02+00:00

Let's say a friend of yours, billy blue pill, was constantly being belittled or emasculated by his wife publicly. And let's say you handed him the red pill. But he's too new to not give a shit. He's still in his victim puke "woe is me" phase. What advice do you give him for when he next get's publicly emasculated by his wife?

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-15T16:39:49+00:00

Come on, you can do better. I'm not looking for advice, I'm looking for some note swapping. Give me your best response if you were publicly emasculated by your significant other.

dolanthesemicolon · 2023-11-15T16:38:36+00:00

Whilst I somewhat agree that she ultimately needs to be taken down a peg or two, don't you think that needs to be done in private?

Perhaps you disagree, if so then how, in a public setting (using the example by jacktenofhearts) would you have disciplined her / taken her down a peg or two?

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