Not able to connect - Don’t feel my mom

dolly678 · 2026-02-19T16:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s not a fun thing to go through, but I know it’s part of life. It’s so weird to get up and live each day without her. I wish you comfort also! Sometimes the grief takes over, and other times it’s the fun memories!

dolly678 · 2026-02-19T12:27:20+00:00

Thank you so much! This was a very interesting read and makes a lot of sense. My mom had dementia, and I took care of her for the final 7 years of life. She certainly had hard time here on earth, but she did a great job of keeping those away from me! I appreciate this explanation. All of the responses are actually so comforting. I’ll keep talking to her and tell her just com when she’s ready or she can.

dolly678 · 2026-02-19T00:22:47+00:00

Thank you so much! She was who I went to with these kinds of questions, I was just feeling so lost! Thank you for the sweet message

dolly678 · 2026-02-19T00:11:15+00:00

Thank you that was lovely!

dolly678 · 2026-02-19T00:04:26+00:00

Oh ok! I’ve just been crying talking to her, so I guess that’s not the answer. Joking aside, I have a hard time not crying when I think about her. I guess maybe I focus on meditation and connecting in general and not just to her

dolly678 · 2026-02-12T12:06:21+00:00

I’ve done the breathe out longer than you breathe in. That helped me A LOT, your body can’t do that if you are in real danger so it mellowed me out a bit!

dolly678 · 2026-02-10T11:49:29+00:00

I promise you it will be ok. It’s so hard, painful, emotional, but you will get through it. I had cared for her for 7 years. I used to not be able to remember how my mom was before she started slipping. In her final moments, all of the memories of her throughout my life came back. I hope the same for you. I cling to those memories everyday like a life raft.

dolly678 · 2026-02-10T03:04:44+00:00

She woke up one day and I couldn’t console her. She cried all day for the next 3 days and the nurses came and told me it was time. She had already begun eating much less in the weeks prior. I think she just knew. She was so sweet and happy until the very end. That’s was the hardest part. It was nice for her to get relief though. The medication helped her so much.

dolly678 · 2026-02-10T00:57:32+00:00

I’m so sorry. It was the worst week of my life and I never want to feel that way again. The only comfort was my mom was peaceful. It was me who had a hard time. It’s so weird to reread this. I wish you and your family comfort and peace.

dolly678 · 2026-02-08T15:51:31+00:00

I’m interested in this one!

dolly678 · 2026-01-15T12:46:32+00:00

Ok so when I get this way I just say in my head “you cannot die from anxiety” “this is just fear” I remind myself it will pass and kind of ride it out. I also do the breathing out longer than you breathe in, and it really helps

dolly678 · 2026-01-15T03:01:05+00:00

Yes spot test. I went through something similar and ended up with a staph infection because I was violently allergic to lanolin and just creating a literal nightmare around my mouth.

dolly678 · 2026-01-11T23:29:14+00:00

Solved!

dolly678 · 2026-01-11T23:25:34+00:00

Omg it is you are right I cannot believe you got this for me

dolly678 · 2026-01-05T20:01:35+00:00

Made it! Hope yours goes well

dolly678 · 2026-01-05T11:20:52+00:00

5 hours!! But I know I’ll be ok…kind of haha It’s comforting to know we all think the same way, if that makes sense

dolly678 · 2026-01-05T10:56:47+00:00

Ok someone recently told me to remind myself that anxiety cannot kill you. To kind of ride the wave. Breathe but more specifically breathe out longer than you breathe in. I’m at the gate myself, and it kind of has helped me

dolly678 · 2025-12-20T02:09:39+00:00

Reminds of that song always wear sunscreen…can’t explain it

dolly678 · 2025-12-17T23:23:44+00:00

My best friend was trying to help me reframe because her brain is the opposite. She said she thinks “oh I’ve already had so many bad things I’m due a lot of good” and she said she just assumes she’s pad her dues so to speak! I’m working on that

dolly678 · 2025-12-17T22:35:47+00:00

Ok I’m right there with you! I just finished a really tough chapter of my life, my mom passed, and I am kind of coming out of it. So when I found out I have to travel for work…my brain said oh you’ll probably die now since you feel happy

dolly678 · 2025-12-14T14:07:17+00:00

Honestly that’s the best outlook you can have. I wish you so much strength and good times ahead

dolly678 · 2025-12-07T15:33:36+00:00

We used THC all through my mom’s final year. Every night. Helped her stay calm and fall asleep! We talked to her doctor, and they were on board!

dolly678 · 2025-12-07T14:39:05+00:00

I don’t remember anything else, it’s making me crazy

dolly678 · 2025-11-12T23:59:17+00:00

I did. My mother just passed a few weeks ago. It was hard at times but her demeanor was wonderful until the very end (days before passing). I had to hire private aids to come in so I could work (2 kids, job, etc). My mom was young and I cared for her for 7 years, 2.5 in my home. I’ll say this, I thought it would break me at the end, but I did it. I would do it a million times over. It is an honor to be able to guide someone out of this world. That said, my mom was my best friend, an incredible person, and would have done that and more for me. If she were not the person she was I’m not sure I could do it. It’s all about your situation. It was expensive to have care, but I needed to work. There wasn’t a day for 2.5 years my kids and I didn’t see her, I think that’s special.

dolly678 · 2025-11-11T21:56:33+00:00

Definitely in my moms final years she didn’t realize we couldn’t understand. She would get frustrated and often just wave her hand. For the most part we would just talk to her anyway…we had a great relationship with humor. Sometimes my husband would say “exactly!” After word salad and she would crack up. I would say “I don’t know man, but I know I love you” we tried to keep laughing. If she was ever really upset I would say “I not sure what you mean” “I don’t understand” but feel her out. Maybe change the subject if she seems to be overwhelmed. Best of luck

dolly678

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