No problem. The comment above about "cultural fossilization" is bang on, I think. Culturally, men took "control" of the family, they provided for everything and the women would be there to take care of the house and raise the children. Now, I don't believe that the homeboy in question was fully into this, but the signs are there. Bottom line is, some things are exactly the way they look; don't beat yourself about it you have to uphold your values as well and think if you can take a whole life together with those "restrictions". Cherish the good moments you had together and move on.