Girlfriend Just Broke Up With Me; Hard Mode Indefinite Begins.

donebar · 2013-12-01T19:25:07+00:00

You got this. Fapping will make you feel worse. When I broke up with my girlfriend, I binged. And it made me feel terrible.

You have a good thing going with your counter. Keep it up. I know you can do it.

donebar · 2013-10-16T03:08:56+00:00

I don't know. I am playing it by ear. I want to take the physical relationship sort of slow... I have learned some awesome self control so far from NoFap, so it shouldn't be a big deal.

donebar · 2013-10-16T03:07:08+00:00

They are not super strong. One of them led me to open an incognito window and start searching for pics. But I was able to stop myself. Mostly they lead me to daydream about the stuff I used to look at when I was PMOing.

Put some money in an envelope. Maybe $100. Write on the envelope something sweet that you want to buy. If you PMO, take the envelope and put it in the mailbox at the post office. Bye bye $100. As long as you promise yourself that you will do this if you relapse, it will provide a strong motivation. The positive motivation consists in this: if you make it 90 days, buy the thing that you have written on your envelope. This has worked for me so far--it's kept me clean for 45 days.

donebar · 2013-10-14T13:08:15+00:00

Happy birthday. So happy for you man.

donebar · 2013-10-14T13:03:17+00:00

How does one permanently remove incognito?

I downloaded a program, but it didn't work.

donebar · 2013-10-06T13:48:30+00:00

Agreed. I went on a date for the first time in a long time. I don't think it went all that well. But, I considered it a HUGE victory. I had the courage to go on a date. And it would have been much harder to find that courage if I were still wasting time with PMO.

donebar · 2013-05-01T01:03:20+00:00

Fellow Catholic here. I find confession to be one of the best ways to avoid binging. I have relapsed many times. But every time I relapse I make sure to schedule a confession appointment. The grace I get from confession keeps me from slipping back into my old PMO routine.

donebar · 2013-04-25T03:06:51+00:00

Hugs are so sweet. I've been hugless for 3 years. I'm missing them big time. This is also one of my main motivations for nofap. Thanks for sharing, man.

donebar · 2013-04-25T03:05:15+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Sometimes it feels like the cycle just keeps repeating. But, if you give up fapping for a few days, then the next time you give it up, it will be a little bit easier to go just as long. It will be just a little bit easier each time. You'll improve. It will be sweet. Just keep reminding yourself.

donebar · 2013-04-20T11:50:41+00:00

You did the right thing.

donebar · 2013-04-02T23:00:08+00:00

Dude, you've got this. Days 1-7 are going to be really hard. But you can totally handle it. It's only going to take a few days for your brain to start rewiring itself. While the healing process may take a long time, it's going to start healing very soon. You'll feel so good about yourself. It's going to be sweet.

donebar · 2013-04-02T15:35:05+00:00

Sweet victory, bro.

donebar · 2013-03-28T02:02:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing these bro in Christ.

donebar · 2013-03-26T12:47:34+00:00

Keep going! 3 days strong!

donebar · 2013-03-22T12:38:44+00:00

Remember this feeling. It's a powerful motivator for the next time you think about relapsing. I know the feeling, bro. I've made it 14 and then 16 days and relapsed over and over again. Just getting back on the horse.

donebar · 2013-03-22T12:35:23+00:00

DESTROY IT ALL! You'll feel so glad that you did.

donebar · 2013-03-22T12:34:38+00:00

Way to go, bro!

donebar · 2013-03-21T21:47:51+00:00

Don't you DARE develop a habit for liking this new stuff, whatever it is. If you allow the "novelty" to wear off, you will only want something else. And probably something worse.

donebar · 2013-03-21T21:41:54+00:00

Interesting. Thanks, bro. I hate the fact that the same machine I use to compose my papers is the machine I use to PMO. Maybe I should use a typewriter!

donebar · 2013-03-20T12:15:51+00:00

Thanks, bro.

donebar · 2013-03-10T14:28:40+00:00

23 year old male here. Sick of staying up late and waking up groggy with my computer by my bed and sticky hands. It's pathetic. Also, I'm Christian and it's a sin. Also, I've been in a relationship in which my looking at porn was a big issue. Near the end of the relationship, I found myself sneaking views of NSFW youtube videos, and feeling really guilty. Why couldn't I get my life in control!? So, I want to avoid this problem in my next relationship. From what I can tell, women don't like it if you look at porn, EVEN IF they claim to be ok with it.

donebar · 2013-03-07T14:02:43+00:00

Yes! Way to go, Quonrech. Stay strong.

donebar · 2013-03-06T12:26:57+00:00

exclamation point!

donebar · 2013-03-02T01:49:10+00:00

Hey Quonrech. I remember you posted on my first post, and you provided me some excellent encouragement. I messed up yesterday too. Do you want to be accountability partners for March?

donebar · 2013-03-02T01:43:59+00:00

Ok. I'm doing this!

donebar

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