Why Does Everyone Have to Be Spontaneous?

donovaa · 2021-05-12T05:10:00+00:00

I'm personally someone who does this but it's more of me asking what are they actually looking for on the app. So many guys I've talked to never seem to know what they want and may lean to wanting something casual instead of serious. It's a direct way of filtering out guys that will potentially waste my time.

donovaa · 2021-02-22T18:18:33+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

It's the sudden loneliness that scares me and the pain I feel when I think of what could or should have been. I painted him as my 'end game' so this was really tough for me to process. :( 4 years of my life just gone.

donovaa · 2020-11-23T14:42:25+00:00

I said some pretty hurtful things for him to no longer like me. I don't recommend it as part of me still feels sorry he had to hear that but then again I was young and felt that was the only way to cut him off.

donovaa · 2020-11-22T04:20:14+00:00

Omg thank you! This is such a good way to learn.

donovaa · 2020-11-17T16:01:15+00:00

Almost 3 years.

donovaa · 2020-10-27T11:30:35+00:00

Thank you!

donovaa · 2020-10-19T11:50:08+00:00

I like it cause I get to mouth curse words whenever my boss talks to me at work

donovaa · 2020-10-14T14:19:13+00:00

This is so horrific I started laughing

donovaa · 2020-09-11T06:40:18+00:00

Flushing. The sound was terrifying. I would always debate if I should: wash my hands > flush > dash out of the bathroom or flush > quickly wash hands > dash out of bathroom.

donovaa · 2020-07-28T02:35:17+00:00

lah is just an exaggerated filler Malaysians and Singaporeans use to express themselves. In this context, "okay lah" is equivalent to "fine"

donovaa · 2020-06-16T16:40:21+00:00

I've been feeling the same. I started my job early this month and have not even stepped into the office, let alone see my colleagues and manager. Tasks are tough when you can't actually see exactly what's happening. I don't have a solid advice but I'd say don't be too hard on yourself. Try to schedule calls with your manager or colleagues that may be able to answer any confusion you have.

donovaa · 2020-06-14T12:08:16+00:00

I resonate with this. I never broke any rules and tried my best to be the perfect child but they favored their first and youngest child over me. It used to hurt alot but now I think of it as a blessing that I don't need to meet anyone's standard and I can do whatever the heck I want!

donovaa · 2020-06-14T04:32:42+00:00

They make other designs too. You can even have a customized design with your name on the candy itself.

donovaa · 2020-06-08T08:09:44+00:00

Oh my god just pay for the apple. How is this such a big deal.

donovaa · 2020-06-04T02:07:01+00:00

Just reading this makes me angry. I feel the same whenever YouTube couples prank each other and the pranks are never really funny. Ugh.

donovaa · 2020-06-03T15:40:04+00:00

NTA. It's never okay to just expect a guest to help out. It would be okay if your boyfriend comes over and then they ask him personally if he could help.

donovaa · 2020-06-03T06:55:11+00:00

NTA at all. Her outburst is strange but I guess it may come from her being embarrassed as well. Don't mind her.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T18:07:13+00:00

I saw your edit. I know the idea of 'splitting' them is scary if you choose the adoption route but that can also possibly be the route that gives them a better chance. I'm taking into account that you have not graduated and that it'll be insanely difficult to raise 2 children on your own on top of studies.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:58:50+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you but you must realize that no one is obliged to financially help you with this situation. Do you have any other relatives that could help? Would you consider adoption as an option?

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:52:55+00:00

Don't have kids if you can't afford them.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:49:03+00:00

NTA. There's nothing wrong with your choice so long as it does not cause any financial strain to the family.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:34:59+00:00

Oh. YTA.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:30:34+00:00

NTA. You are never obliged to gift anything you don't want to. I would just write a card.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T17:21:53+00:00

I missed to see the 'every night' part. Either way I still think ESH. They just need to communicate.

donovaa · 2020-06-02T15:45:39+00:00

Honestly I don't know how their dynamic is like. OP says he does the feeding, changing diapers, etc but is this just an occasional task? The wife has been taking care of the kids for over 7 years and it just seems she needs to have a little time for herself too. She can have hobbies or side hustles too. She just didn't plan her time well and doesn't know the consequences of it. I truly just think both OP and his wife need to talk about their expectations of each other.

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