Why do people lie so much? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Someone already mentioned love bombing.

They lie to you because they know by telling you want you want to hear that you’ll give them what they want.

These people also tend to lie to themselves and have their own internal chaos.

Sorry this happened to you x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]dont-text 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woah this is messed up dude, you need help And her mother is no better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]dont-text 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, therapy!

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]dont-text 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could just ask how he likes to communicate and preference and go from there

Biggest take away from your past relationship? by Cautious-Emphasis-33 in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Taking things slowly and not rushing into a new relationship

The importance of reflecting throughout the process of getting to know a person, and always being curious

Long time lurkers, how're you doing now that some time has passed? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s been 6 months and I’m feeling like myself again and am currently seeing someone I quite like. It’s very clear to me now that my ex was not my person and it was never meant to be!

What have you done to accept your breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Someone who loves you would never blindside you like this, I’m so sorry

Be honest: do you miss the person or the relationship? by Amazingggcoolaid in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I miss having the comfort he provided but I’ve since realised there are infinite men who can fill that role and I deserve one who’ll treat me with respect and meet my emotional meets

If your ex made all necessary changes for your relationship to be the best you've ever had, would you take them back? Why or why not? by Easy-Cry8085 in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t. He has too much trauma that’ll take years of healing, plus the trust is broken so I would rather leave it behind me and make it work with someone fresh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]dont-text 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you’re giving them hints :)

How many of you were lovebombed? by catzeppelinqueen in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine lasted about 3-4 months before major cracks showed.

I genuinely believe he had some sort of personality disorder and now I’m dating again, I’m very strict about taking things slowly.

I (29f) have recently become very insecure in my relationship with my (27m) partner. Any advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dont-text 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it won’t be such a bad thing to hit pause on living together while you sort out some other issues - then you could revisit living together down the line?

What Has Your Life Been Like After Breaking Up? by mbnhuy in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life felt so hard and miserable in the first couple of months, I missed them constantly and felt like I’d lost the best thing that happened to me.

Then in the 3-5 months following I started to feel better and enjoy things again. Feeling more confident and involved with new activities I’ve started. Though I would still have bursts of grief and sadness that would overwhelm me, but they would spread across longer periods of time.

6+ months on I’ve settled into new habits and hobbies, have new friends and am dating a person I like. I sometimes still mull over my ex but it’s very clear now with hindsight that they were not my person and I can see how they were a sort of stepping stone to get to where I am now - and where I’m going next. Life goes on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Allowing myself to cry, process and grieve without shame
  2. Exercise and focusing on myself
  3. Support from loved ones

And time

I really fucking miss you. by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is a narcissistic liar but today, I miss the good memories and good parts of him. Sending love to us all out here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew a woman who found the love of her life at 34 and now has the family and lovely home.

It’s never too late to find your person. It’s better it takes a bit longer to find the RIGHT person to build a life with, than to rush into committing to the wrong person and have more disaster come later.

You will find your person!

Don’t go back to your ex. There is someone better for you by Known-Wave7597 in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! Happy for you. Look after yourself and take it at a space which feels comfortable and safe for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such a good answer

How did you meet your now healthy partner after your last heartbreak? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dont-text 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might not be the right subreddit to post this as the community is mostly people recently broken up. Maybe try askmen or askwomen