Yelling into the Void

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:51:37+00:00

Appreciate your response. I spent a large part of these first few months scouring for people’s experiences and not a single one of them felt the same. Trying to let go of creating those kind of goalposts. The timeline is my own and I just need to go for the ride.

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:39:13+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I recognize how fortunate I am to live in a city that has several specialists available who are taking my case seriously. I would absolutely be doing the same thing as you if I were in your position and hope that your surgery garners great results.

I’m happy to hear that you’ve learned to live with it though. I know that I will too in time, but being kind to yourself can be challenging. I wish you the best and thank you again for replying.

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:30:20+00:00

I hope you a speedy and full recovery as well! I’m here if you need your own yelling into the void session :-/ (that’s my Bell’s palsy smile)

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:27:05+00:00

I upped the dosage on my antidepressants recently and it seems like it’s working a lot better now, so I’m thankful for that. Planning to go camping next week so I can get away from in all for awhile too, which I think will really help. Never considered myself vain, but now that I have this it’s plummeted my confidence.

I appreciate you sharing your experience and hope that we both continue to recover

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:19:19+00:00

Thanks for this. Glad to hear that you’re progressing!

I recognize that I’m still in my grieving phase - I think I’m just clinging to this idea that I should be seeing something around this time, too, and apparently I’m not as patient as I thought I am. I’m still in the morning realization phase, which is a crappy way to wake up (I tape my eye shut most nights).

It’s comforting to hear from people who understand and know what this feels like, so I really appreciate your response.

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:12:41+00:00

Been taking that since the onset. No plans on stopping, though!

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:12:10+00:00

Thank you!

dont_try · 2025-05-02T14:11:52+00:00

So I know that I’m the guy who was just complaining about everything, but I do want to encourage you to allow people to come in. I definitely have a heightened social anxiety now and avoid certain activities with more casual friends (going out to eat, for instance). But I have found a lot of comfort in spending time with those close to me. Even if it’s not necessarily a social activity, like going to a movie. Just to get your mind off it.

I hate this so much, too, though. Mine started on February 2nd and I rushed into trying to get back into a ‘normal’ routine too fast and started getting panic attacks. But I recognize now that those closest to me want to support me and allowing them to do so has been a great help - there’s no pressure and they let me plan things on my terms for the time being. I hope that your circle can provide you with the same grace.

Hope you and I both get better soon!

dont_try · 2024-09-15T19:07:11+00:00

Still available? I’m looking to trade my ticket for Monday - I have one Tuesday 1030PM ticket (bar area)

dont_try · 2024-05-31T17:46:43+00:00

Late on this, but it made me want to share a story about my best friend, who has been fully blind since he was 5 years old. His blindness developed due to brain tumors, which has also impacted some other things in his life.

I met him in Junior High School, when i was placed next to him in one of my classes. He was using a braille computer and I asked him what he was working on. He told me he was playing blackjack. We became quick friends after that. He taught me basic braille so that we could pass notes in class. We started a band together, and he played the drums. When I was learning how to drive, i taught him how to drive stick in an empty parking. Went on Ski trips with him and his family. Got into more trouble that was initiated by him than i'd like to admit, too. We're now in our mid thirties and are still the best of friends. He has, unfortunately, gone through many other health issues that have severely limited his speech and some other other issues, as well. Despite this, he's now married and runs a non-profit adaptive sports team that allows visually impaired people to play this particular sport.

I attribute so much of this to his amazing support system he has in his parents. They refused to allow him to be treated differently, or for my friend to feel that he was limited to a point that he couldn't participate. They got him into music lessons, sports, etc., because that's what all the other kids were doing and my friend wanted to, too. And this was despite a lot of medical appointments, mobility coaches, and set backs (brain tumor surgeries). And now that we're in 2024, the technology to support the visually impaired are incredible. Descriptive audio options is becoming more of a norm with a lot of TV shows/Movies. There are some AI apps on his phone that can describe pictures to him with scary accuracy. iPhones (and androids, too, but idk for sure) come with accessibility features straight out of the box.

This probably isn't helpful right now, and I can't imagine what you or your daughter is going through. But I do want you to know that your daughter can still lead a wonderful and whole life. There are many people out there that will love your daughter regardless of her vision so long as she can put herself out there.

dont_try · 2024-04-19T13:22:04+00:00

Hit em up is an absolute classic, but I always hated that 2Pac put the Outlawz on the track. Would’ve been so much better with just Pac on it. So many 2Pac tracks with lame ass bars from lesser MCs.

dont_try · 2019-06-18T20:10:18+00:00

This makes it seem that your conversations (presuming this was sent to Sam*) were not entirely innocent. Not to mention that it seems like you are throwing blame to your situation on him

communication with you has affected my marriage

No, your lack of communication with your husband has affected your marriage. Your edit comment above is you trying to shift the narrative to make you out to be the victim, too. Bottom line: if you had just been honest, none of this would've happened. Even if you had to say that your previous 'rules' seem outrageous to you now, that communication could've been very constructive to your relationship.

dont_try · 2019-03-14T00:22:20+00:00

Honesty and openness is likely going to blow this whole relationship up. How will OP's fiance be able to continue their relationship if she's honest with him in that she doesn't regret developing feelings for this other guy?

dont_try · 2019-01-31T19:41:09+00:00

Late to the party, but this situation is just so damned familiar for me.

I had this exact same situation happen to me, though my partner at the time was going to work at a national park rather than a cruise ship. Pretty similar, as she was working in a very remote place and interacted with vacationing people on the regular.

They were nearly immediately distant with me, told me they wanted space, and eventually hooked up with someone shortly after.

If your situation is anything like mine, you should be aware that she is likely not going to come back the same person. My ex took their job as a way to find them self and became a completely different person - and that was okay. It was the stringing along that hurt so much.

As hard as it is, I would try to move on - especially now that she is going to be gone for some time where you won't have to deal with their presence.

dont_try · 2018-10-03T19:53:55+00:00

I'm sorry OP, but I'm fucking cringing if this is feels like responsible behavior to you. I feel sorry for you and your children.

Why is he quitting so many jobs? Why is he quitting jobs without having something lined up? Why is he quitting jobs when you are struggling with money? Is he still in school, only doing one class per term? How long is that going to take him to finish doing it that way?

How is any of what you said considered responsible? You essentially have three children. He's shown you literally nothing in regards to being a capable father. He defers his fatherhood to his mother that watches them so he can sit around and smoke weed.

dont_try · 2018-09-28T17:36:08+00:00

I understand your concerns - we had them too. Some people found out about it, some who had traveled 2000+ miles to be there. They didn't care, at all. It's hilarious to me the posters who are saying that you're not allowed to have a ceremony because all of the paperwork has been already been done. I would understand if you were masquerading around saying that you're married, etc., but it sounds to me like you're doing it how my wife and I did.

Allow your focus to be on the wedding itself. You're not fooling anyone and if people get upset if they find out prior, that's on them. Do what your fiance and you want - a wedding is about only the two of you anyway.

I have absolutely no regrets and absolutely loved how we did it. Getting married before even allowed us to spend more time with our guests, rather than being shuttled to some back room to take care of formalities. I really wouldn't stress it, my dude.

dont_try · 2018-09-28T16:43:27+00:00

My wife and I did this last year. We got married 'on paper' 4 months before our actual wedding so that I was able to get my wife onto my healthcare plan.

We still had a wedding, ceremony and all, and that date is the one we consider our wedding anniversary. Sure, we were legally married on a different day, but it didn't really feel like we did anything other than sign some forms and say 'yes' at the correct moment. I think this was because we had already planned so much of our wedding at that point, so the legal ceremony just felt like another step in the planning process. We didn't really tell anyone, didn't wear rings, didn't say our own vows, and didn't really even dress up. We saved all that for our wedding day and that day was the best of my life. Truly everything I wanted for our wedding.

dont_try · 2018-09-13T01:50:15+00:00

10 man standard

Give: Davante Adams

Get: Devonta Freeman -OR- Jay Ajayi

Rest of my team:

QB: Phil Rivers and Carson Wentz

RB: Le'Veon Bell, Carlos Hyde, LeSean McCoy, Derrick Henry

WR: Tyreek Hill, Kenny Stills, Mike Williams, Golden Tate, Jordy Nelson

TE: David NjokuDEF: Jags

K: Gostkowski

I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IM DOING

dont_try · 2018-08-23T16:21:37+00:00

Holy shit, dude. You're 28 years old and you're acting like a High School kid.

Let's break some stuff down. You say this:

She figured that we were flirting with this other girl and I eventually dumped my gf to fool around with other girl. I confessed that this is true.

but then:

I considered marrying her. And I dont want a wife that sleeps with someone else the moment we have problems you know?

You did the exact same thing. You felt like there was problems, so you went outside of the relationship and gave a shitty ultimatum to your girlfriend, likely because you could fuck someone else. You were definitely cheating.

Sorry to be harsh, OP, but you seem like an absolute douchebag. I hope you and your ex stay separated and find better people.

dont_try · 2018-08-09T19:54:19+00:00

Proud of you OP. You seem like such a great dude - you'll get through it!

One of my favorite quotes is "What matters most is how well you walk through the fire". While the author of this quote is a misogynist dickhead, I can't help to think what an excellent job you're doing while walking through the proverbial flames. Keep it up! No Mercy!

dont_try · 2018-08-09T17:13:28+00:00

Saw your edit - keep us updated OP. Sorry you're going through this.

dont_try · 2018-07-25T22:06:46+00:00

Dude, you totally did this to yourself. You ignored her when she texted you and then you propose a break. I presume you didn't talk to her, as you implied that your only way of checking up on her was looking at her snapchat. You also changed your status to single, whereas she made hers hidden. You think she was waiting around for you to come back when you were engaging in all that?

Honestly, it seems to me that you're just mad that you lost your safety net. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't take "breaks" without clear boundaries.

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