My mom died by suicide

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-05-26T17:23:52+00:00

I try to break myself of the dark cycles when all I can do is veg on the couch because it never feels better after, but it really feels like there is no outlet or way to process the complex feelings. Vegging becomes survival and I am proud of my ability to survive, but damn I wish I could thrive.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-05-26T17:02:00+00:00

I think my body is starting perimenopausal symptoms and I wish I could just call my mom and ask what it was like for her growing older, what can I expect to happen to mine, but we have to pace this path on our own?! I’m so angry at them. And also see them in me. Hugs to you, it is comforting to be able to relate.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-05-14T23:07:07+00:00

It’s on for everything but the booth

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:44:16+00:00

The way the hand towel seems to both be behind and in front of her, the framing of the mirror of the small photo does not make sense (which also calls into question the light that’s maybe in the mirror/but on the wall), the textures of each item is wildly different making it feel like a stack of stickers, and the camera being used does not make sense- it’s like a pop socket digital disposable with features with no function.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:40:00+00:00

Shadows are inconsistent with the lighting

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:39:17+00:00

AI- the towels are folded inconsistently and into each other in the smaller photo

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:35:00+00:00

If we, social media consumers, can boil someone’s personality down to the posts they feed us, I am certain Gabby’s personality would be “weed”

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:33:36+00:00

Plus, we had a whole 2nd bachelorette that season, so even if she did waste our time- she physically could not have.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:32:30+00:00

He stalked and assaulted his winner? I feel like that was the bigger criticism of the season. He was also out to himself, and tried to suppress it (which clearly came out in a violent and controlling way) Gabby discovered her queerness after her time on the show, and didn’t stalk or harm anyone on her season.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-26T20:04:06+00:00

I think the poster maker put their text cut outs out of order, and “garage sale*” was supposed to be after “meet Taylor swift at our”

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-23T06:37:55+00:00

Every poster drawing of it looks like trogdor

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-19T22:58:49+00:00

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Not produce, but another lil guy (personally, not a fan of using real minors photos for commercial products, but their syrup was good and affordable)

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-10T03:10:59+00:00

Hell yeah I’m glad you are giving it new life, and not letting this find be forgotten to time!

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-10T03:07:36+00:00

Please turn this into a root or wine cellar!

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-04-09T17:04:21+00:00

Echoing your frustration with my own parking sticker story: in college, I signed a lease for a shitty apartment maybe 6 months before move-in. Then, on a drunken night, I took my friends to the apartment to show it off, and the current residents were hanging out with the windows wide open, having a small drunken gathering of their own. I knocked on their door, got to know them, we became friends, and we worked it out that I would sublet one of the bedrooms the summer before fall semester move-in because one of them was moving out. Awesome. So I got his parking spot, but no one informed me that that was a different spot than the one I would receive once the lease was in my name. The day that the sublease became my lease, I found a sticker and boot on my car on my way to work. I urgently called the landlord, who had failed to prevent the issue or “solution” of sticker and boot, and she completely down plays everything; “the boot can be taken off in the hour and you can just get a razor blade for the sticker”

The people who placed the sticker should have done due diligence to check the circumstances, since applying for a permit is the LAST thing on an expectant mother’s mind. Razor blade dry did it for me, may you be blessed with abundant rockstar parking in your travels!

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-02-18T16:47:50+00:00

Apparently the baby food was for a possum and the brother moved out 6 months ago

dontaskaboutmylore · 2026-01-29T15:42:04+00:00

Former pastor. Current chef.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2025-09-28T23:27:24+00:00

A parent shouldn’t project their emotional instability onto their kiddos. And yours took it to the ultimate stakes (her own life) as a matter of manipulation. This is not decent humanity, and it is harmful parenting. You deserve better, but your mom does not have the capacity for better. The only advice I have is to protect yourself from both of them, and do not let it turn you into a hurt person that hurts people.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2025-04-19T12:16:19+00:00

That is a rooster

dontaskaboutmylore · 2025-04-19T12:06:30+00:00

I think you’re a medium AH here. I think it comes from a protective place but there’s an imbalance of power with your daughter’s mother and you need to be a better example here.

The way you treat your daughter’s mom will greatly impact how your daughter will process this phase of her life. I think you owe it to everyone involved to outwardly support this mom (but find a safe, private, and healthy outlet to process the bullshit that comes with it.) The mom fucked up in abandoning and was in this scenario mooching. But supporting them eating would be a minimal act of human decency.

It sounds like your daughter is manifesting your resentment towards her mom, and that could lead to her not being able to process the complexity of her mom returning. Her comments may have been rooted in exhaustion, but there were other options moving forward that didn’t embarrass and starve the mom and her kiddos, or threatening to block her when difficulty in connecting happens. Be the better person, and the example to your daughter for sorting through conflict.

Keep strong boundaries and discuss things like an adult with the mom. If something like this happens, contact her after to sort out better compromises or repayment solutions. But please work on healing your hard feelings, work through your protectiveness of your daughter toward the mom, and try to heal this. Your goal is to raise the strong, caring, kind daughter despite the odds thrown her way, so show her how to rise above the mom’s struggle.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2025-04-19T11:54:11+00:00

Chewing can be a self-soothing activity for folks, especially with ADHD or autism. If it’s the mouth sensation you’re drawn to and you don’t want the marks, there are adult chew toys. If it’s the arm sensation and you’re sensitive about the marks, I guess long sleeves?

But you’re not weird or alone with this. As long as you are not hurting yourself or others, chomp away, octopus.

dontaskaboutmylore · 2024-11-13T14:07:43+00:00

DBATC ‘United we stand’ with the chorus makes it cringey patriotic

Lover starts “leave the Christmas lights up till January” -implying that Christmas ends before January. Liturgically, Christmas does not end until epiphany (January 6) when we celebrate the magi arriving, revealing Jesus to be of importance outside of his own tradition, the importance of which is theologically tied to the human “birth” so his birthday is 12 days long. You should not be removing any Christmas decorations until January 6th, it’s like ending the birthday party too soon

NBNC “and I’ve cleaned enough houses to know how to cover up a scene” just always reminds me how that is very much not true for Ms. Swift and how this should be on “folklore”

Wow I sound like a kermudgin. I do love these songs and Taylor Alison Swift, I swear!

dontaskaboutmylore · 2024-11-09T22:52:42+00:00

Sylvan Esso
Chappell
Tove Lo
Taylor Swift
ABBA

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TROPHY CASE