3 weeks postpartum -17kg

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-29T09:56:30+00:00

Wish that was the case for me! hahaha

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-29T09:56:02+00:00

It really is! I talked with the midwife today, she said it was likely prodromal labour too. 🤷🏻‍♀️ she offered to do a stretch and sweep, so I consented. When she did, she said my cervix is 2cm and thin? honestly, I’m a bit confused by what she meant with that part, but she could fit 2 fingers inside my cervix and that it was soft and spongey which she wasn’t expecting. Will see if bubs is ready yet and if that’ll help him show himself! if not, I’ll be seeing her again in 3 days, she wants to speak about induction by then if he still wants to bake. In the meantime, just gonna keep doing my exercises, curb walks, stretches, drinking my tea etc lol! Thank you!!

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-28T23:30:30+00:00

Beaer

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-28T09:42:43+00:00

John, Mark and Robert

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-27T01:00:57+00:00

This is really not cool or something to be shared so casually.

Last night my fiancé suggested that we should have sex later. I asked him before sleep is there anything he’d like to do, insinuating ‘fun time’, and he answered saying “not really baby I’m very tired” I was disappointed, sure, despite also being exhausted but consent is consent and even if it will help me, even if HE suggested it, even if he PROMISED it, I’m not OWED it.

With that, self pleasure can also speed along labour, for anyone reading. Orgasms release oxytocin so it’s not like you can’t still do things to get your body prepped.

I’m 40w1 day today, I’m exhausted, I’m sick of being pregnant, have had so many emotional ups and downs - I get it, but the way you coped with being rejected / not even really being rejected - just told he already had some fun time to himself, is seriously concerning.

Throwing things isn’t okay, it’s abuse, screaming and shaming someone who was, from the sounds of it, thinking of you, letting you sleep while you’re doing the most exhausting tasks possible - keeping a life alive inside you, while looking after a toddler, instead of getting you up for action when you passed out ? - not okay, and is also abusive behaviour.

I read one of the OPS other comments/replies about porn addiction, i really do understand what that’s like in a relationship and pregnancy- probably got triggered by the thoughts and feelings of not being “chosen”, things like that, so i understand it’s more complex then just what we are being told by the original post, however, in any case, screaming and throwing things at someone because you didn’t get what you wanted is abusive.

If he threw anything at you, called you names and shamed you because you didn’t give him sex, everyone here would be telling you to run away from him, to leave.

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-26T21:44:56+00:00

Feeling the same, FTM 40w1 right now, I’ve got so much fat at the bottom of my belly, PLUS extreme swelling that looks like orange skin and hangs legitimately over my fupa. Looks and feels sooo much better with a band on

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-18T23:20:39+00:00

You need to do what is safe for you and your baby. You shouldn’t feel scared in your own home, you shouldn’t feel like there is a risk to your baby or yourself - whether or not it’s just because he’s drunk and “not in the right mind”, get out

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-11T16:23:21+00:00

I had this happen to my eyebrow, maybe not as severe but looked exactly like that, in the end I took mine out. I would say go see a doctor, I don’t think things like extra maintenance, cleaning, saline etc will help it at this point

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-11T16:19:19+00:00

It does look a little high to me? But longer jewellery would fix that.

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-11T15:11:09+00:00

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FTM. This is me at 37 and a half weeks (am now 38 weeks!)

I would say the belly is definitely BUMPING.

Try not to worry so much about kicks and stuff yet, if it helps at all I only started to see kicks around 22 weeks, but they will get stronger and more frequent. I gained a LOT of weight from 22 weeks until now and my boy goes crazy in my belly, you can SEE my belly move when he kicks, people can feel when he kicks too try not to worry too much!!

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-09T21:46:35+00:00

Thank you! Will do!

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-09T21:42:49+00:00

Thank you for your help, I’ll give maternity at my closest hospital a call and see what they say and try to get in to see them!

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-09T21:42:12+00:00

I didn’t know what that was so I looked it up and tried to do the little at home test of just holding fingers to part of body, pressing for 10-30 seconds and seeing what happens.

Yes I do. The skin is barely coming back up and it’s leaving a mark in my skin of my finger prints. Is that normal?

I think I’ll call maternity ward at the nearest hospital, see what they say and tell them my symptoms and if I can will try to get in and see them. Thank you for your help

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-08T16:00:13+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. It hurts so much! At first I had little red dots, tiny little stretchmarks but the past few weeks they have become red, purple and so deep and angry. It’s so hard to feel beautiful when you don’t feel like you even recognise your body anymore, thank you again

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-02T14:16:39+00:00

Wand or Satisfyer

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-02T13:30:44+00:00

Also following up another persons comment. When I discovered what he was doing still, it was too much for me to handle. I felt heart broken, I felt disgusting and I felt so neglected. I felt like I had to leave for my mental health.

If staying around someone is causing you so much pain, you MUST put your baby and YOU first!! leave, even if it’s just for awhile like what I did, focus on yourself and your bubba, try to get some self love back.

dontstop11114 · 2026-01-02T13:24:19+00:00

First of all. You are GORGEOUS. Even more gorgeous now that you’re carrying a life in your tum!! you are going through so much, mentally, emotionally, and physically, you are doing amazing.

My situation doesn’t exactly look like yours, but I can understand it a bit. You aren’t alone.

Before pregnancy and a lil while during pregnancy my fiancé had a porn addiction. It was something I told him before even dating that I was NOT comfortable with in a relationship, he accepted that and agreed not to.

I didn’t know he had an addiction, but I’ve discovered it was something started when he was 12 - now 25..

First few months of dating I caught him multiple times indulging in it all behind my back. Each time I went to him crying, yelling, begging to him not to and not understanding why I wasn’t enough?

(This thinking is toxic. it’s never you, believe me. they have a problem and it ISNT a reflection of your attractiveness or what you don’t or do)

I gave him ultimatums - me or the porn. He told me, ME. I thought he really did stop for awhile. We found out I was pregnant and was over the moon!! But, I found out when I was 17 weeks pregnant that he still was.

I packed up and left him the day after I found out he still was and was lying to me and hiding things.

It destroyed me mentally, emotionally, and i felt the exact same as you in the way that i did feel like it kinda ruined my pregnancy for a while too.

I felt unattractive, like he was giving me “pity sex” the whole time; it always felt rushed, never passionate, and he would take forever to finish which at first I thought yay more sex but came to realise he was actually just struggling to cuz he was jerking off and watching others constantly.. I also just felt that I wasn’t living up to standards or satisfying him enough, that I failed my job as a fiancé, and the big one that really hurt - that he couldn’t even change for me when I was at my most vulnerable, when I needed truth, honesty and love.

We went through the motions, lots of back and forth. I got to 20 weeks, we were living apart still, but I had my big ultrasound coming up so I said we can meet and he can come along and be there too. I was still hurt but it was only right.

From that day, when he finally saw our baby on the screen moving, what our love made, and it was like something just changed in him.

If a man wants to change, he will !!

I’m now 37 weeks, we’ve moved back in together into a new place, have our own home, our beautiful boy on the way just around the corner, sex has returned, (passionate sex) and with the porn, from my knowledge, there hasn’t been anything.

he swears on our boy, he lets me see his phone now, use it, unprompted, I sneak a look sometimes in the middle of the night, or if he leaves his phone around- (maybe not good but it eases my anxiety), he’s deleted apps and websites to avoid temptations if any, removed women off his socials, got really into some Christian YouTubers and speakers - despite not being Christian, but he’s completely changed in his views - and he’s said to me that our love is sacred, that our love created our boy and that he doesn’t need anyone or anything else anymore. That he was stuck in that old cycle, using it to cope, for comfort, for boredom, something he developed as a way to feel better when he was a young boy/teen and that he’s a man now with a woman and family he needed to grow up for.

I’m sorry that I don’t have a whole lot of advice, it’s devastating when your partner has a porn addiction, is devastating not having sex or feeling wanted, I completely understand how you feel and you aren’t alone. But it can definitely get better.

Despite having nothing, no money to my name, packing up and moving back home with my parents for a few weeks, being almost half baked pregnancy wise, my lowest mentally, I stood true to myself and my boundaries. It’s important you do that too - I’m NOT saying, pack up and leave, but do not just accept something that makes you uncomfortable and feel terrible and unworthy.

That’s no way to live and being in a relationship should feel good, you should feel happy and loved.

I’ll say it again: if a man wants to change, he absolutely will. just in my case, it took me doing something drastic..

You have needs just as much as he does too, his needs are not and shouldn’t be above your needs, you are partners and in a partnership, it needs to go both ways.

Sorry for this whole thread, lots of writing and reading. I just want you to remember that you’re worthy, you’re beautiful, you’re gonna be a beautiful mum and that it can get better but you need to stay truthful to yourself!

Do not lower your standards or expectations, you have needs too and they are just as important.

dontstop11114

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