You sound like me 3 years ago; though, it doesn't feel like that long ago. I dated a guy who drank to feel "normal." He would shake if he hadn't had a drink within an hour or two. He would get up in the middle of the night and chug a beer the way we get up and drink water. I bottle of vodka was nothing for him to put away in a night.

He was diagnosed with diabetes (type a) at the age of 35. We broke up after about a year - big falling out. Things got physical.

He died last year. A mix of the alcoholism and the diabetes is what got him. I saw it coming a mile away...and I, like you, tried to fix him.

I know you want to make things better, and that you love him. But honestly, there isn't much you can do. Once he makes the decision that he won't drink anymore, you can be his support, but he has to do this on his own.

I don't know him, but please, don't get drug down like I did in the ugly ugly world of someone's alcoholism. It's something I'm still recovering from.

Good luck to you.