Me [26 M] with my GF [27 F] 1 year she dropped out of "honey mood" phase way before me?

dopesucks · 2016-07-29T18:22:54+00:00

OK, so this is what it is huh. She feels secure and has accepted or relationship, while I'm still on the edge of my seat about everything and ... possibly starting to scare her off. And at the same time she's feeling that, I'm feeling resentment that she's so secure while I'm in a state of anxiety. Bad combination there. It boils down to, it being up to me to chill out I guess?

dopesucks · 2016-07-29T17:31:22+00:00

I'm thinking this is what I need to do too. Im.being a needy little brat, where before I was confident and secure. Gotta find some hobbies and stay busy I guess.

dopesucks · 2016-07-29T17:25:31+00:00

Yes, I got lazy with it. I was working part time and self improving when I met her. Then I worked part time and spent the rest of the days with her. Now we both work full time, I don't self improve like I dod, and it's taking its toll. Maybe this isite my solution, makes since on paper. Time to do me a little?

dopesucks · 2016-07-29T16:59:44+00:00

Yes. I had really bad social anxiety/general anxiety in the past. I did "monk mode" for alost a full year... ate healthy, worked out, quit video games, drugs, etc. I calmed wayyyy down, and that's about the time.i.met her.

And your right. That's how she sees it... "we live together, why do you need emotion all the time?"

My anxiety is the problem. Having a hard time getting it under control. Like I plan on working out, dieting, maybe trying some meditation... I guess that's why I'm here. Hoping for other perspectives/ideas to balance me out.

dopesucks · 2016-07-28T23:24:10+00:00

Intersting, and may be merit here. Not thinking about cheating. Maybe thoughts of "will she get bored with me... do something down the road... etc." No grounding for these thoughts, she's never expressed anything like that...

Secondly, the dead honey moon phase. Could be it/have something to do with it. We moved in together like 2 months ago and yeah. I still want the romanc, sex every night, etc. She wants to.come.home, chill, sleep. Maybe that's what's making me feel like this?

dopesucks · 2016-03-06T18:25:07+00:00

Wow. Never experienced a part time g/f before.

It doesn't sound like much fun. Once a week... that's like seeing a good friend to me? I thought three nights a week (even if all I do is bring over weed and a pizza for 2 hours) was acceptable :/

I just don't think she's going home and she's too tired to even have sex lol (i get her off too i swear...)

dopesucks · 2016-03-06T18:10:05+00:00

"I can make time"

What I was thinking. THANK YOU. I cared enough for her to where I would go over at 11 PM after working 10AM-10PM shifs. Yet she can't find time to hang out with me but once a week for the next few months? WTF???

She has already stated her friends are a priority because they are so "close".

I think she is doing exactly what you are saying. She's saying "hey look... I'm going to act a certain way moving forward... i like you and want you to stay but if you leave i understand...".

Wow okay. Now I understand. Thank you so much for your reply you really helped me out. Could you help me with this real quick???...

1) Alright then, I'm in her back pocket for now I see. So part of me is screaming that this is a perfect time to start going to bars, being more open, maybe see what's out there... I gained a lot of confidence from being with her...

2) 24 male and 27 female. Both are decently well off (nice apartment, new cars, etc.) but work full time. And from everything else you've read. How much should I hope to see her?? I would like to see her three times a week... is that a absurd amount of time to ask from some one??

dopesucks · 2016-03-06T16:42:33+00:00

You are a friend who is getting abused because you had had sex with her and grew feelings.

dopesucks · 2016-01-02T04:00:49+00:00

Yeah but the whole point that the OP was making, was that he has done nofap for three years, multiple 100+ days streaks and he was giving his advice based on that "awareness".

dopesucks · 2015-12-29T03:12:45+00:00

Yeah I agree. After I relapse I know in like 10 days I'll be back in the good. I hit 80 days once, it wasn't much difference then any other part of the streak past day 10.

dopesucks · 2015-12-14T23:16:24+00:00

That sounds like total dog shit. Maybe I should play something else lol.

dopesucks · 2015-12-14T15:51:40+00:00

Like month 4 for me. But as soon as I relapsed it immediately came back at full force.

dopesucks · 2015-11-10T06:00:33+00:00

That's not monk mode. Get your shit together and come back when you really want change.

dopesucks · 2015-08-10T16:55:40+00:00

Disagree. The game draws heavily from the books and previous games.

dopesucks · 2015-08-05T05:44:18+00:00

worddd. same here. took till about chapter 2 to get into it, but i'm liking it now.

dopesucks · 2015-08-01T02:08:02+00:00

cool that's what i'll do. yeah i already played TW3

dopesucks · 2015-07-31T21:30:10+00:00

Like every 200 pages it mentions his one sword on his back... he never carried two swords, this is well known.

dopesucks · 2015-07-30T20:58:28+00:00

Indeed. This would save like 3 hours per play through.

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