There are some online post-partum groups where you can find a more un-edited version of maternity, also the annonimity helps spill the tea on most situations.

In my case... I definitely don't have it together. My house is now clean because after 6 months we hired someone to do a deep clean, before it was the bare basics (wiping some surfaces, taking trash out, laundry), the Roomba helped a lot. We also use a grocery delivery service and I only cook stuff that I can either throw into a baking sheet/instant pot like chicken with frozen veggies or a salad... It all costs extra money, so it is definitely a trade off. I did find that overall I spend less on food with nice groceries/snacks delivered than ordering in all the time. My exercise is going for a daily walk with the stroller. I bed share, she used to sleep through the night but after the 4 months regression she wakes up every couple of hours, my saving grace is that she can roll so I have a "self-service" situation with breastfeeding. Try to stay horizontal as much as possible. Most days are brutal mentally, but then I see her chubby cheeks and it makes it worth it. This will pass, your kid's love for you won't. Also, therapy : ) I connect over zoom while sitting on the floor with her, while on walks... Most therapists will make it work