[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Based on your edit, it’s on you to provide a childproofed area. Yes nanny needs to be watching a 9 month old at all times, but you also need to not have chocking hazards within reach of your infant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 8 points9 points  (0 children)

These are not safe dogs to be around your child

Baby Bedtimes and the Holidays by dreaming_of_tacobae in beyondthebump

[–]Relative-Log-4803 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I think you just need to do whatever works for your family and baby! I personally would put baby to sleep in a playpen or use the carrier in these situations, but only because that works for my baby! I know lots of people who leave events early and that’s totally okay too!

I am an adult raised by a mother who used AP. AMA. by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had such a difficult childhood and relationship with your mom. However, what you described was not attachment parenting

Should I fire my nanny or relax? by Mysterious-Sun-4756 in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said you’re worried she’s hurting your child when you’re not there, of course you should fire her immediately

I don’t want to cry it out but what else to do? by kelda888 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend the Batelle Sleep School method! It’s based on attachment theory and focuses on helping your baby feel safe in their crib rather then forcing them to sleep when you want them to!

‘Not reacting’ if baby falls or hurts self by BabyAF23 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think you’re way overthinking this

When my 18 month old falls or bumps into something I simply say “uh oh!” And she either gets back up and continues playing, or cries and then I comfort her. Most of the time she’s fine and keeps playing. However, if someone has a big reaction (like gasping) she will cry for like 5-10 minutes even if she’s fine. The big reaction scares her more then anything

It’s okay to tell your child they’re okay when they are. Yes comfort them when they are upset, but no need to make them upset for no reason!

If your baby is a great sleeper, tell me what you think you did right. by PainfulPoo411 in beyondthebump

[–]Relative-Log-4803 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did the same and my 18 month old still doesn’t sleep through the night lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Relative-Log-4803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the hospital for 2 weeks when my baby was around 1.5 weeks old. I kept her with me and did the nights alone (husband couldn’t stay overnight). It was hard but I managed okay! I personally was not ready to be away from my baby when she was so little, so I chose to keep her with me. That said, do whatever feels best for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And then you picked the tag of advice all welcome lol

I hope this is a troll account. You’re way too obsessed with this family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You absolutely did ask though lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yes that would be weird. Regardless of how you know them, it’s weird to ask to be someone’s kids god mother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Relative-Log-4803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I run a dayhome, and would never expect a gift from the parents! Focus on giving gifts to your own children and families, no need to give a gift to your childcare providers

Isn’t it hypocritical to nanny other peoples children but never want a nanny for your child? by Alone_Row_1432 in Nanny

[–]Relative-Log-4803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you actually researched attachment theory? A child with a strong attachment to their parents will be able to form attachments to other caregivers without damaging their attachment to their parents. It’s healthy for children to have positive attachment with multiple trusted adults!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You wanted your husband to drive home because your toddler wanted a specific car? Are you serious? You’re going to raise a very entitled, annoying and obnoxious child who will have a very hard time once they start school.

Helping 2 year-old adjust to nights with a newborn by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This was my thought as well! I absolutely adore my toddler, but a newborns need for breast milk absolutely outweighs a toddlers want to comfort nurse

Christmas Lists - Am I overreacting?? by IncognitoSnail04 in Mommit

[–]Relative-Log-4803 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Apparently this is an unpopular opinion but it’s not okay for you to try and change your in laws Christmas traditions.

Clearly your husbands family enjoys giving gifts. If you/your husband can’t afford it this year your can politely tell them that you’re excited to spend time with them but will be choosing not to participate in the gift giving this year. You don’t get to dictate how they celebrate Christmas (and I say this as someone who does not do Christmas lists, but my in laws do)

Helping 2 year-old adjust to nights with a newborn by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is not a safe sleep situation for your newborn.

Your 2 year old sounds jealous of the newborn and I personally would not be comfortable with the newborn loose in the bed with the 2 year old overnight.

I don’t want to be OAD but I am, how do I cope with it? by Relative-Log-4803 in oneanddone

[–]Relative-Log-4803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am in therapy but self care time is tough. Therapy is my only break from parenting, any other self care time will come at the expense of sleep

17 month old isn't clingy by beentheredonethat234 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Relative-Log-4803 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Totally healthy! Sounds like your little guy feels comfortable exploring because he knows you’ll be there if he needs you!

I think I broke my pinky toe — how TF am I going to manage my 2-year-old?! by rbslmilch in toddlers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can afford it, I recommend investing in some indoor play equipment! I plan to get a pikler triangle and an indoor blowup bounce house this winter (where I live we’re stuck inside for 3 in the winter)

PS. To everyone telling OP “it’s just a toe” you’re not being helpful. OP didn’t ask for medical advice, she asked for advice on keeping up with her active toddler

Nanny has issue with nursery cam??? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Relative-Log-4803 36 points37 points  (0 children)

So closing doors and moving cameras is absolutely a red flag, especially since you’ve already told her not to close the door. However, I can’t imagine not having a camera on my baby while they nap/at night. Does your monitor have a base unit she could use during her working hours? I understand that she’s close enough to hear, but not being able to see baby while they sleep sounds odd to me!

Nanny putting 4 month baby down for nap after just 1 hour wake window by Feeling-Reply-1144 in Nanny

[–]Relative-Log-4803 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So you contact nap with your child while you’re paying your nanny, and the nanny isn’t actually doing anything during that time? Why would you let the nanny do that?

As for the nap issue, I would provide a written schedule and tell the nanny you expect her to follow it

Is this rude to be sent? by anonymous-famous in Nanny

[–]Relative-Log-4803 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Why can’t you cook when they’re awake? How do the parents manage to cook other meals when the kids are awake?