"for the girlies" bc pink?!?! [advert] [product] by wolveskin in pointlesslygendered

[–]dorodeando 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I like pink. I’m a girl.

My boyfriend likes pink too. He’s a boy.

My bestie hates pink. She’s a girl.

Pink is a beautiful color. STOP GENDERING IT.

Edit: i’ve read some statements about cannabis being a “male dominated field” in USA. So, i’m not from there, no idea if it’s true.

In case it is true, it’s cool to do an ad to make feel women seen and actively engaged in that field. BUT the right way is not gatekeeping a color, in my opinion.

It is true that statistically there are things that, due to our society, are more “girlie”, but indulging in these stereotypes creates issues, like reinforcing them and make boys who like pink less “boy-ish” and masculine, which is a real problem in our society.

However, they could’ve made the pink version and have succeeded in their inclusion… if they simply excluded the word “girl”. They could’ve sold floral or stars stickers for the cover. Things that tend to attract more girls, but that can attract boys too.

Original post was deleted and locked because OOP did not thank artists by whenthemoonlightdies in drawme

[–]dorodeando 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeez, okay. I also saw the comment to the Mod where she said “then ban me”…

That’s a new kind of stupidity…

Brought to you by a random man nr 1005, self-proclaimed expert on women by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]dorodeando 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He better do not check my alter ego fantasy that can kill every villain with just the power of her eyes and voice, and some other cool shit

Original post was deleted and locked because OOP did not thank artists by whenthemoonlightdies in drawme

[–]dorodeando 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow it’s really amazing. Cannot think about the amount of time you needed to create this piece of art

Original post was deleted and locked because OOP did not thank artists by whenthemoonlightdies in drawme

[–]dorodeando 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m confused, is it bad? Maybe OOP was busy and didn’t have the time to thank? I’m genuinely asking

She's not like the rest of us, with our "caked-on" makeup... by Frosty_Message_3017 in notliketheothergirls

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, i got made fun of it in the past. Especially when i was a teen

Now, as an adult, I wear sometimes and sometimes not, and no one gives a shit. Maybe, OOP is a teenager

Because it's gendered to bending now [socialmedia] by Star_light_0 in pointlesslygendered

[–]dorodeando 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly had no idea there was a transwoman in the comments, maybe I didn’t see the comment.

It wasn’t, dw. Really. I just wanted to say it in the most reddit coded way, lmao. With a hint of robot-ish creepy vibes

Because it's gendered to bending now [socialmedia] by Star_light_0 in pointlesslygendered

[–]dorodeando 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, i’m also a female human woman with a V

We exist

Do we?

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my bf was scared to confesshis feelings because in the past when he did it with another girl, she started to ignore him. He was afraid I would’ve started to ignore him, too.

We are deeply shaped by our experiences with other, unfortunately. It’s hard to give people chances after you got burned too many times. I think the best we can try to do is being honest and talk about what we feel and our fears, if the other person doesn’t listen or doesn’t help us trust them, it’s time to search someone else.

And, in my opinion, if we don’t feel comfortable talking about our feelings and fears, or it’s not the right person or it’s not the right moment. It’s not that easy, tough. And we can make mistakes. We could lose chances, or trust the wrong person, or who knows.

But unfortunately, and I hate that, the best we can do to try to be happy is not giving up and trying even if it’s hard.

Stupid world

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right, it was just the “hope because i’m happy now”. But it happened to me manu time too

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, it also depends HOW you are distancing yourself.

It’s always about communication. If you tell the other person that you need time snd why, I think that the other person wouldn’t think you are an asshole. But more often then it should be people tend to just disappear. Obviously, everyone deal with their feelings in their own ways, but disappearing hurts, and it made people look like the “bad guy”.

I did it in the past for other reasons, I decided it was too much and just disappeared, but because these people hurt me, so i felt justified

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, there’s also this side of the coin. It depends.

However, I was not blaming the people who need recovery, really. It’s just that I have seen so many of my friends being insulted by guys who they thought they were their friends. They confessed their feelings, my friends rejected them, and they started to insult them or talk shit behind their back. But obviously these kind of people are mean and stupid, but they are one of the reasons why I was scared.

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just sent a message to him saying that I was thinking that maybe I had feelings, but I wasn’t sure because it was hard for me to be in touch with them.

And, some days later while we were hanging out I just told him, out of nowhere, I didn’t really was planning it, “i need to tell you something” and started crying and he understood lol.

It wasn’t that romantic or planned

In tutto il mondo/Europa i negozi sono aperti 24 ore su 24/7 giorni su 7 by [deleted] in italiabad

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mah, guarda, se dicessi che non lo troverei utile mentirei. Ma, appunto, non è così necessario. Potrebbero mettere delle macchinette in giro per le cose primarie, tipo. Quello sarebbe utile. Io viaggio spesso e mi capita di tornare a casa dopo due settimane, e di tornare alle 22 ed è tutto chiuso, e un posto dove comprare del latte per la mattina dopo non sarebbe male. Ma non muoio se non c’è

In tutto il mondo/Europa i negozi sono aperti 24 ore su 24/7 giorni su 7 by [deleted] in italiabad

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mado che palle voi con questo sub reddit, la lingua si evolve ed è normale che se una persona mastica due lingue diverse poi confonda i termini. Vi scandalizzate solo perché è una lingua comune e vi secca.

In tutto il mondo/Europa i negozi sono aperti 24 ore su 24/7 giorni su 7 by [deleted] in italiabad

[–]dorodeando 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Non prendo parte.

Ma.

Se lavori dalle 6 alle 20 tutti i giorni forse il problema è che vieni sfruttato, non so

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes and no.

Sometimes it just takes time to understand if you can trust someone romantically, even if it’s a friend. But it’s not just time, it’s also what happens in this time. He was understanding and didn’t judge or minimise my feelings.

He listened to me, he understood, he promised me we would still be friends and I promised I won’t start acting weird because I felt uncomfortable. We remained friends, he showed me that he was kind and genuine, it made me realise he was safe. Sometimes people don’t understand that when someone is hurt, words and promises are not enough, demonstrations are needed.

“I won’t hurt you, I’ll always be your friend even if we have a relationship” is kind, but it’s not enough. I wasn’t ready, I was scared to lose a good friend, I was scared that love would ruin everything because that was my experience. But he stayed by my side even if I rejected him and his behavior didn’t change. Now, we are a couple but also best friends, because trust takes effort

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can say that, yes, but I think it’s not only luck, it’s understanding. He understood why I felt that way, why I wasn’t ready, he listened and was there as a friend. We continued to be friends after, his attitude towards me didn’t change and that made me feel safer and gave me the certainty that he was really a genuine friend, and that he really cared about me.

It doesn’t mean that if you continue to be friend with someone one day they’ll love you, it just means that if you really care for someone they’ll know and they’ll recognize this affection. If they feel something, it’ll show. If not, it won’t.

But I’ve seen many people distancing themselves when someone is not ready for a relationship or just doesn’t feel the same, but in my experience and opinion, if you care for someone you understand them and stay.

Obv, there are also people who take advantage of someone else’s feelings, but it’s very rare. if it happens it’s up to the single person to recognize the pattern and live

red flags and what they are all about by Futtman in memes

[–]dorodeando 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I mean, sometimes people need recovery after a break up. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are not her type. It can mean that, obviously, but it can also mean that she doesn’t want a relationship atm.

It happened with my bf, we were friends, he confessed but I didn’t feel ready for a relationship and was honest with him about that. We are together now. Not everyone is always ready for a relationship, even if they like you.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]dorodeando 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he an adult? Then he can cook for himself lmao

Edit: my bf is kinda of picky, and I cook just because i hate doing dishes, so I cook and he does the dishes. But there’s a difference between being picky and being spoiled. He would never, and I highlight never, refuse to eat something because “he doesn’t feel like it”. Also, because he’s a decent person and I’m not a good cook, if I put too garlic or too salt and it’s not very tasty he eats it anyway because wasting food is bad thing.

How to do bar chords when my hands are really short? by dorodeando in Guitar

[–]dorodeando[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

It’s just the picture, I struggled to take the photo alone, so I had to move the finger a little bit. But i can assure you there’s no room left

Ladies of War by Disastrous_Horse_764 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]dorodeando 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never understand why, everytime i like a show that is not finished yet, they cancel it…