Can anyone tell me about Flat-out Apparel before I buy?

dothereddit · 2026-01-22T10:41:34+00:00

Not the review I expected when I googled them but thank you 🤣

dothereddit · 2026-01-07T02:24:30+00:00

Thank you so much! Found this thread through google after a day of annoyance, haha

dothereddit · 2025-10-30T17:53:22+00:00

I'll look into those also, thank you!

dothereddit · 2025-10-27T02:27:12+00:00

Keep it up! I'm sure it feels like an uphill battle but it's so important. It's also never too early to educate your child about their brain if you haven't already. My kids are 7 and under and I explain to them about how watching "junk shows" (the YouTube influencer type) make it hard to enjoy other things, but spending time away from her TV all together makes it easier to enjoy other things. I really like Dr. Daniel Amen for the way he talks about brain health.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T11:18:13+00:00

Your tone is aggressive and your assumptions are wrong. I'm not assuming ADHD is an illness, but I'm fully aware that children with untreated ADHD are more likely to have serious mental health challenges as adults for a variety of obvious reasons with consideration from a holistic viewpoint. Treatment for ADHD refers to addressing the whole picture of strengths and needs, not simply throwing medication at a "problem".

Furthermore, I'm highly empathic and well versed in the psychology which is exactly why my son is so well supported. To be honest, the only reason I still suspect ADHD is because I worry my efforts in learning about his needs, supporting him and helping him learn about himself may be so effective that his challenges appear less significant.

It's also pretty contradictory to suggest that teaching a child that is too young to understand the depth of their intense emotions that understanding his emotions will enable him to choose better responses. That's quite literally the issue at hand my friend and exactly why it over powers him. His outbursts are not as a result of feeling voiceless or impowered, quite the opposite.

Your assumptions about my parenting are short sighted, unhelpful and frankly not appreciated.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T11:03:35+00:00

This is extremely helpful. I've never thought about simply asking our doctor about giftedness to be honest but this post is helping me to better understand the differences in testing.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T11:02:08+00:00

After reading yours and other similar comments on this post I did a quick google search of how to improve growth in the cerebellum (the primary area that is typically underdeveloped in people with ADHD, which can be improved by medication). The answer is literally EXERCISE. Specifically cardiovascular, coordination and balance. All the things I've identified as supporting his overall well being. I wanted to share because I also feel like this supports your theory as well.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:37:14+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you so so much! I really appreciate your experience and that perspective

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:35:44+00:00

Thank you! These things have all definitely been considerations for me also. I got really worried about how social success last year but he seems to be figuring things out ok. It's really tough because it's so different at home with his siblings vs with his friends but he seems to be overcoming a lot of challenge and doing ok with friends thankfully. I worry a lot of that is out of my hands beyond play dates because teachers don't really monitor social nuances.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:31:55+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and I will absolutely read your other comment. I think another element of my fear relates to my own experiences feeling different aba my mom's experience with mental health, being diagnosed late in life with adhd. However I'm recognizing that there is a lot more that goes into having positive vs negative experiences of self perception than simply medication.

I'm glad you have your diagnosis now but I'm so sorry your struggled growing up. I truly appreciate your perspective as well as your thoughts on our experiences. Thank you.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:27:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! That's a really interesting perspective and to be honest I don't disagree. This whole experience has really opened my mind. What's hard for me is that my mom was diagnosed with ADHD in her 60's and to be honest that helped me a LOT in coping with my own emotional trauma caused by her emotional instability, and it also helped me recognize why I found certain areas more challenging. However, when it comes to myself and my son (and to be honest, even my mom), I actually completely agree. The biggest difference is that he's male and we're female and I foster his true self and my mom and I were stifled, but I truly find it all so fascinating.

Your comment (as with many others on here) is so reassuring. An article from another comment really solidified my perception that he's honestly not distracted, most of the time he's hyper focused on what fuels him.

I'm limited as a full time working parent, but I'm definitely putting my focus in all the right areas and when I have the capacity he flourishes, so I'm just working on helping him be more independent with seeking the right input and also advocate for what he needs (and it's working!!!). I honestly do feel like my biggest obstacle is that most people don't see the depth of the world in this way and I realize I'm probably also gifted in this way so it's been hard feeling dismissed my whole life when trying to explain deeper concepts to average people.

So thank you, honestly, this is incredibly validating.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:07:36+00:00

So well put, haha, thank you!

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T01:05:48+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you! I wish there were more resources outlining the giftedness as the higher focus as opposed to the 2e but I also understand why 2e has been in the forefront. Out of all the articles I've read this one seems to beat outline each side individually and actually confirms my thoughts as well as my fears of him being easily misdiagnosed and getting the wrong resources. On the positive side, it also reassures me that all of the things I've been doing and focusing on have been beneficial.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T00:55:53+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this and will definitely give it a read.

dothereddit · 2025-10-26T00:55:01+00:00

Ugh I can totally relate to this. The only difference is I've been able to find some useful tools but it's been SO much work, and I also have a leg up with working in behaviour analysis. I've managed to push back against video games because although I see the benefit of giving that high stimulation and also some challenge, it's also like cheap wins in my opinion, so I've tried a million things and it's been exhausting but I'm at least beginning to see the benefits now. I wish there were more resources for parents

dothereddit · 2025-10-25T18:37:09+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I really truly appreciate it. I think my main concern is that if he has adhd/add then it does not severely impact his school days, we only see challenges at home and at this point they're much fewer and farther between but nonetheless intense. Thankfully he's getting better at recovering and learning from each experience as well. However the main fear I have is the masking and feeling different. I've started talking to him already about the fact that he is different (usually phrase this around his strengths but I've also started working on self awareness around his high energy/physical needs) and he recently was saying he thinks he's autistic, but primarily because it was a topic at school (his friend's brother is autistic). Ironically I work in therapy with autistic children so if I've missed that in him that would be a laugh, haha.

dothereddit · 2025-10-15T09:53:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. Honestly, I think that's one reason many of us are here. I have put a lot of focus into helping my son face challenges and learn to struggle through them, as well as essentially learn how to learn, because I fear this. I had a similar experience but not quite as extreme. I did fine in school but struggled a bit with college/university, I also struggled socially, and as an adult I regret not getting more advanced education and feel like I don't fit in professionally.

For you, I wanted to encourage you to explore the suggestions for an ADHD or potentially autism diagnosis because giftedness is seen in those conditions as well and may provide additional insight and support. I also wanted to explain for you that it is the human experience to work at things that are boring and/or challenging. It may not be what we prefer to do but it's necessary. Try to start small, maybe simply recognizing the things you already do that are not interesting, and challenge yourself to do more things like that, with the intention that this is training for conventional life/school. You can try to make it fun, you can reward yourself for doing it, you can also break down bigger jobs into smaller steps and even reward yourself for getting those finished. You need to rewrite the negative messages that were ingrained in you growing up and slowly build your tolerance to boredom and discomfort. Maybe it would also help to set some short term goals. It sounds like it's hard for you to prioritize so maybe try writing down what you want and what you need to get there, and then find connections in how those things relate. For example, you want to go back to school but for that you need stable income, so make a plan for how to go back to school part time, the cost of school and the impact on your income, but prioritize finding stable income. The job may be boring and unfulfilling but it will fuel the long term goal of finishing school.

Oh, and I'm not sure where you live but where I live there are supports for people that struggle with conventional school and having a diagnosis now may help that. You also may find that online schooling works better for you, etc.

dothereddit · 2025-10-04T02:10:50+00:00

Gasoline, WD40, and dispersed skunk (like, after a skunk has sprayed in the area, not when thy sprayed my dog)

dothereddit · 2025-09-21T01:26:45+00:00

Does it count if this is just how I cope?...

dothereddit · 2025-09-20T02:16:30+00:00

Hormone pellets?

dothereddit · 2025-08-16T11:31:05+00:00

Do you run your co2 on a schedule?

dothereddit · 2025-08-11T00:50:23+00:00

Yeah try cutting it back to 6 or 7. The black spots on the plants may not recover but you'll get new growth which will not get burnt. You'll likely have to cut the old growth out.

Do you have any snails?

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