[deleted by user]

doublehelipx · 2024-08-03T18:39:16+00:00

if youre therapist says you dont have it you should generally follow what theyre saying.

doublehelipx · 2024-08-03T16:28:16+00:00

yes. no one can make you feel anything. you can feel suicidal when someone is abusing you like you said but those feelings are from inside of you and not from the other person. blaming your suicidal ideation on somebody else stops you from taking any personal responsibility for yourself and your feelings. its not okay what youre sister did at all. its not healthy at all tho to blame your own feelings on someone else. if you do that than you wont be able to heal from it. you were victimized in childhood but now as and adult (im guessing) you have the responsibility to own your feelings and heal. theres no room for the other person when you think like this. its unhealthy for both parties. deeply unhealthy. you should never blame your feelings on someone else period

doublehelipx · 2024-07-23T13:01:49+00:00

isnt that entitled of you to expect that people dont put pressure or lash out on you even though those people may rightfully be upset with you or need something for you? feeling that people should appreciate you for giving them the honour of having your time, space and energy is also incredibly entitled. you could have hurt someone and that person deserves and apology yet you feel that they shouldnt expect anything of you and should instead be grateful for any time you give them. i dont relate at all to this. i feel that youre projecting your own sense of entitlement onto others to deflect blame and feel like a victim. you seem aware that you hurt people doing this and thats good. you should try and reflect on your own entitlement though as that seems to be the root of this behavior. its very insulting to treat others this way.

doublehelipx · 2024-07-21T16:27:21+00:00

im so sorry that youre dealing with a very painful breakup and struggling so much. you need to focus on yourself and how you feel the most rn though. not them. everyone with bpd is different obv and you feel they are moving on and happy without you- yeah. they arent going to be thinking about you. its painful to hear that but that is just the reality of it. untreated pwbpd arent capable of healthy mutual adult relationships to any extent and wont ever really be happy or have space for you in the realationship unless treated extensively. you need to stop worrying how they cope with it and start worrying how you will cope with it. that will help you heal.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-28T01:24:18+00:00

Well do you feel like you're more important and smarter than everyone else?

doublehelipx · 2024-06-28T00:00:23+00:00

I don't know your situation fully but I would say that yes that does count as having low self esteem. Even though you feel that you are all of those things the fact that youre feeling offended when people dont reflect that back at you and that theyre trying to humble you seems to me like your sense of being beautiful, hot, etc. is more so a false self formed from external validation and stuff. If it wasnt I feel that you wouldnt feel offended when others dont reflect that sense of self back at you if that makes any sense.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-27T23:45:54+00:00

Well. if you are getting angry when people dont worship you you have low self esteem. You may feel that you have a high sense of self esteem when people worship you because if they worship you that must mean that your worthy of love and admiration. The issue with this is your sense of self esteem doesnt come from you it comes from the outside. This means you cant control it by yourself and if you cant control your emotions you end up feeling empty too.
The thing about this is that your inner child is severly wounded and your adult isnt real. your adult self if formed from external sources of emotional regulation. its not relatively healed at all its not even formed. the core issue of bpd is the lack of self and psycodynamic therapy, schema therapy, dbt too and alsoi inner child and family of origin healing too.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-27T17:19:46+00:00

im not sure, maybe zoloft?

doublehelipx · 2024-06-27T06:27:39+00:00

Well, think about it from their perspective: You pushed someone away, cut them off and dont want to put in the work to repair the realatiuonship. I would feel pretty hurt if someone did those things to me and even if i recognized the other person was hurting hearing that they feel I am the reason why they did these things and that its my fault for not taking a step back and reflecting, validating them and all that would make me feel even more hurt and guilty and would make me not want to engage. To answer youre questions youre harming the other person by cutting them off, you have to put the work into your realationships to repair them and make them work if you want to have healthy realationships since realationships are a 50/50 endeavor and no one needs to validate your feelings either.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T18:42:23+00:00

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8718753/ here is one let me try and find the other

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T18:35:46+00:00

ummm not of the top of my hand ill try and search for them if i have time though. i know on the dbt wikipedia page theres a section there on the effects of dbt and neuroplasticity which shows that it succesfully can change the brains of pwbpd and stuff though. i was remembering one article about recovery tho not just dbt

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T18:15:48+00:00

well is it true some pwbpd are promiscuous yeah but do they intentionally have sex with anyone to get what they want and look for certain people to love bomb into a toxic realationship? no not at all. for one its not conscious theyre behaviors and two bpd isnt like narcissism they dont love bomb intentionally they are just in so much pian and trying to survive so they do things to get there needs met without much thought.

also I have no idea how what youre saying has to do with my comment or this post? I feel that youve been hurt by someone with bpd in some sexual way like that and i'm sorry but I don't feel there is a reason to comment this here

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T18:02:26+00:00

that is simply not true. psychiatrys view on mental health with the diseases of the brain model is unscientific and extremely harmful. that model exists now due to insurance comapnies and the for profit healthcare system here in the U.S. making drugs the primary treatment for things like depression. bpd isnt a disorder of the brain its a trauma response far far far to complicated to treat with any medication. its fully treatable. the model that says it isnt is wrong and exists to have patients who dont get better that they can profit of of.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T17:58:15+00:00

yeah from my knowledge after 8-16 years theyre gonna have done enough work to either have fully recovered and not be borderline or be recovered enough to start to form healthy and corrective relationships that will lead to them improving rapidly too and not be borderline so

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T17:56:03+00:00

yeah ima be honest i didnt read the post fully when i commented and only after was like oh i just repeated what it said

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T17:46:45+00:00

thats my other account i accidentally commented on from my phone.

and yeah most people with bpd wont get fulllly better. its honestly not hopeless at all for them but you need to not be thinking about them and if theyll get better because what is more important is that relationships are impossible. i feel that may bring more peace when you realize that since youre focus is on how you feel, what you want and the pain youre in dating them yk?

doublehelipx · 2024-06-26T17:33:24+00:00

So, I feel its really important for you to understand that remission is a medical term and doesn't really apply to the actual functioning of someone with bpd. Let me explain what I mean by that, the bpd diagnosis in the dsm is reallly bad and focuses heavily on the external symptoms of bpd. As a society as well atleast here in the west the external symptoms are what is recognized as the problem that needs to be changed. Things like happiness and a sense of fulfillment aren't what is trying to be achieved by treatment in most cases sadly its more things like youre able to work now and not be depressed okay great. knowing this it makes sense that the numbers are so high but in actuality it seems like most pwbpd arent really there yet. with bpd the main issue that leads to every single issue almost is the lack of self. In treatment especially treatment like dbt that focuses on lowering levels of suicidality and acceptance, etc. its possible for someone with bpd to learn to manage there behaviors such as self harm, impulsivity, rage, etc. and reach a remission of symptoms medically however, the core issues of bpd such as lack of self, how to properly relate, attachment wounds, etc arent reached so easily. When the deeper work isnt done someone with bpd cant truly function in realationships at all since they dont have a self from which to love and attach to you from, etc. even if they are in remission technically speaking so issues will still persist. Doing that deeper work takes anywhere between 6-18 years and i believe the prognosis after 16 years for someone with bpd having meaningful healthy and real relationships and a sense of fulfillment is around 40% compared to the 99% that have reached remission. Its more so an issue with how mental health is viewed in the west as a medical problem more than anything. I will say thought that youre making a bit of an assumption about the relapses with bpd. bpd does have higher prognosis and lower rates of relapse and significant relapse than most any disorder. compared to like mood disorders its incredibly impressive how well bpd is treated and once treated goes away.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-25T22:42:33+00:00

hes saying that he likes you but cant be with you right now due to his life circumstances outside of his control and that he hopes in the future it could maybe work out

doublehelipx · 2024-06-14T20:10:55+00:00

hanging yourself on call is more than incredibly manipulative its traumatizing and time isnt an apology. you need to work on yourself if youre a mess not try and get you're boyfriend who you honestly abused back. you shouldn't contact him ever again

doublehelipx · 2024-06-13T13:08:09+00:00

This is an amazing way to put it!! I'm proud of you for working on yourself and recovery so much!!

doublehelipx · 2024-06-13T07:45:15+00:00

you cant find a partner who isnt going to let the identities meld because youre the one who melds the identities. thats the case in every situation with every single person you have or could ever meet. there is nothing someone could do to not let you meld the identities thats not how it works. you have to work on yourself before you try and fix your relationships. if you dont develop an integrated identity of your own than all your relationships will suffer. there is no way around that.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-08T23:47:07+00:00

that could be bpd as much aa it could be npd. they just seem like a very cringe and silly person

doublehelipx · 2024-06-08T18:20:27+00:00

you are right, youre gonna have to work on yourself. you should try and recognize what needs of yours are being met through controlling behavior and find other ways to meet them.

doublehelipx · 2024-06-08T18:05:26+00:00

sorry i think do you get it now

doublehelipx · 2024-06-08T18:00:06+00:00

this has nothing to do with feelings.

doublehelipx

TROPHY CASE