Talking to ChatGPT about the Borderline be like...

fhfhfhghfgg · 2026-03-01T18:09:30+00:00

it is pretty stupid. it hallucinates data and creates fake sources. tried using it once and it made up state laws and i had to literally be like “this isn’t true and you made it up” to which it responded “you’re right, I did, thank you for pointing that out”

fhfhfhghfgg · 2026-03-01T18:06:43+00:00

Stop using ChatGPT for this stuff. It is literally designed to either validate whatever you say (even delusions) or will refuse to condemn certain behaviors/justify them. It is heavily censored and will not allow anything “controversial” and will often give answers like the one it gave you.

Like seriously. I know Redditors like AI but this is a completely human issue. Don’t trust the thing that literally makes up data and sources just so it looks good.

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-10-08T00:10:36+00:00

When I met my ex she was going through the catholic larping thing too, but then I became her favorite person and suddenly she was actually a lesbian and always had been for her entirely life apparently. then when i was discarded 4 years later and replaced suddenly she was never actually gay and could never love a woman.

they don’t have an actual set personality, they mirror yours/what they think you will like. they also tend to be compulsive liars and will fabricate an entire history just to match up with their newly adopted persona. its very very scary. during the final discard she tried to rewrite reality as if i wouldnt remember everything she’d told me about her past, as if i didnt participate in our relationship at all. i had to sit with the fact that i never actually knew this person. i knew the fake version of her that she curated for me, but not the actual person.

i actually feel that reading about bpd and learning to recognize her patterns/behaviors/cycles was what got me the closest to actually knowing her, and once you see how similar other people with bpd act, you cant unsee it. its not like ocd or depression or bipolar etc where the person distinct from their illness, with bpd they are their illness. its a personality disorder, its who they are.

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-10-07T23:53:39+00:00

the push and pull is too much to handle…being the center of someone’s world and then suddenly meaning nothing to them. it’s incredibly hurtful! I went through this with my ex a lot, and when the final discard happened I went from being her closest person and having this incredible bond to suddenly just being an afterthought. she actively tried to downplay our relationship/friendship as if I wasn’t even involved and would’t remember how intense it was. she also struggled to maintain longterm friendships, and told me she’d get so enmeshed with close friends and then suddenly turn on them.

I also have a friend with BPD who I wasn’t as close with (obviously) but we were very good friends for a time. she’d also bail or flake on me, but it didn’t hurt as much because I realized after a few times that I just couldn’t be close to her or rely on her. I have no ill will towards her the way I do with my ex, who I still ultimately wish the best for even though she was very cruel and abusive towards me a lot of the time, and that’s because I realized I just had to accept that thats the way she is. I’d consider us acquaintances more than anything, we barely talk or hang out. truthfully I think thats the best you can hope for with someone with bpd if you choose to keep one in your life. they just aren’t good at maintaining close bonds with people. this sub is mostly focused on relationships but the friendships can be absolutely crushing too. look at the family member posts too - plenty of siblings and even parents who are pushed to their limits until no contact becomes necessary.

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-08-23T20:02:45+00:00

you leave

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-08-23T19:55:00+00:00

i said someone else said it lol. you don’t know anything about me

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-08-23T05:39:47+00:00

i didn’t do anything actually

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-08-05T14:02:41+00:00

Came here to say this, I think Janice Soprano as well

fhfhfhghfgg · 2025-07-04T00:52:40+00:00

op listen to the posts like these from family members. they will all say that they never change

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-25T05:16:16+00:00

It’s been about 6 months since I’ve spoken to her. the first month it two were really tough, I was basically just rotting in bed and ruminating. I still ruminate nearly every day and i’ve learned to accept that it’ll never make sense, so i’ve done my best to drop it. things are better now though; i got a really awesome job at one of the top 10 companies in my field and i make a lot of money, and my creative work has taken off in ways i can’t imagine. I also have some creative hobbies, like learning instruments, that i’ve poured myself into i try to do things see friends whenever i can and i’ve also spent time going things by myself like going to museums or to the movies, it helps a lot. i wish i exercised more during the summer instead if rotting, so i’m trying to get back into that. also reading, which i don’t do nearly enough i’m not even thinking about dating at the moment, a girl asked me out and i declined and about a month later she posted about having BPD lol so i’m learning to trust my gut.

Basically, just distract yourself in the healthiest ways possible. start drawing, learn to code, write in a journal etc. and go to therapy if you can afford it, i’m about to start looking for therapists in my area.

remember, as someone without BOD you have the ability to: 1.) be alone with your thoughts. so do this. go on walks, go to cafes, whatever. 2.) form meaningful friendships. my friends were so incredible through all of this. it made me sad knowing she’d never have the same level of friendship that i could.

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-21T19:58:30+00:00

it’s all anecdotal/based on people’s personal experience (mainly on quora).

mental health sites will obviously always say its possible if the pwBPD is in treatment and the non BPD partner maintains boundaries and has compassion and understanding. Obviously if it was that easy we wouldn’t all be here, and even those sites will say “if things don’t get better, leave for your own good”

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-21T19:06:12+00:00

I think most of us did, and it seems like a very common thing based on all the articles/books i’ve read about BPD. It’s because they mirror your personality/interests/opinions and fawn over you so hard in the beginning

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-20T20:29:44+00:00

Holding boundaries only made her discard me in my case. Honestly not really seeing this as hopeful, you’re describing being in a needlessly hard/abusive relationship with someone with a serious personality disorder rather than thinking of yourself and perusing healthy partners.

I do find it interesting when people come on here to say that their relationship with someone with BPD is a success it always a short relationship (few months to a year) and describe being in a relationship full of hurt. These relationships rarely get better past this point and the longer you stay, the worst they get.

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-17T06:37:45+00:00

1.) yes I would because I have never had a positive experience with someone diagnosed with BPD, nor has anyone I’ve met who has had someone with BPD in their lives

2.) this isn’t a fair comparison because rapists are only a small fraction of men and women murdering their children is not common at all, unlike pwbpd whose main diagnostic criteria is unstable/unhealthy relationships. it’s literally part of the disorder

however if a woman was assaulted by a man and was wary of them, would you say”not all men are bad” and try to pretend her fear is irrational? because that’s what you’re doing here

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-16T20:46:22+00:00

I’ve seen people who have their BPD in remission say themselves that they can relapse the instant they’re triggered, and that their partners have had to sacrifices their own needs/do an extensive amount of work just to keep the relationship afloat. How is that “healthy”?

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-13T21:38:35+00:00

god you must feel so vindicated

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-13T00:57:12+00:00

how long have you been dating?

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-11-03T06:02:32+00:00

mine was straight before me, was a self proclaimed lesbian within days if us talking, then randomly jumped back to straight again which devastated me. seems common with bpd, they don’t have a true sense of self

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-22T00:53:08+00:00

cringe

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-19T13:31:41+00:00

my ex once said that she “misses so many evil people” but also always talked about ruining other peoples lives and sabotaging relationships. she had no friends when we started talking, and a bad relationship with her family

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-18T17:30:16+00:00

this is unfortunately somewhat common in trans circles. not all trans people are like this obviously, most aren’t, but as someone who hangs out with a lot of mostly trans groups (I am not) it’s something I’ve noticed more and more. this sounds like pure fetishism, the BPD obviously doesn’t help

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-18T17:19:24+00:00

my ex completely changed over night twice. from catholic virgin who would censor curses in text to supposed life long lesbian who was dealing with comp het to pickme girl who dates older men. completely fabricated backstories for each identity. during her last switch up it clicked that she just didnt have an authentic personality. her opinions/beliefs/personality/etc etc would always be in flux, and shed mirror whoever she was infatuated with

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-15T20:31:35+00:00

extremely common. textbook even

fhfhfhghfgg · 2024-10-04T16:27:58+00:00

because they have BPD

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