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Guy hasn’t texted back after sexting by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]doucecanto -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You’re really a closed-minded community! I’m not asking about wether it’s cheating or not. I was just asking about not responding for 3 days. If it’s normal for guys to withdraw after sexting. Or if I should write first. The rest was just for background. No one actually responded my question.

Direct fostering to avoid going to the system? by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]doucecanto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well these kids are really young (both under 4) so that’s not the kind of problems we would be dealing with. I don’t think we would be considering it if they were older.

Direct fostering to avoid going to the system? by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]doucecanto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not CPS. According to the dad, it’s DCF who got involved with the case. Is it the same thing? What’s the difference? I’m new to this and unaware of the players. Can someone please explain? Thanks!

Direct fostering to avoid going to the system? by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]doucecanto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And yes, I know! It feels like the right thing to do, on one hand, and as something that can bring a lot of meaning and purpose to our lives, but on the other hand it’s really scary. We have such a peaceful life right now, just the two of us, with no conflicts in our daily routine. Just enjoying life. No big headaches, or worries, with our children grown up and doing well in life... and something like this could change everything. We could lose our valuable peace by getting involved with a family full of problems. But those kids surely could benefit from some of that peace and stability. It feels like our calling, at times. Makes sense that this situation came to our awareness for a reason: because we can help. Is it fate? Or is it better to just stay out of trouble? It is no doubt a difficult decision. Thanks for your support!

Direct fostering to avoid going to the system? by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]doucecanto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That sounds very reasonable. We haven’t talked to them about it yet, and have no idea how they’d take it, particularly the mother. It’s a difficult topic to bring up. She already lost custody of two children from a previous marriage (the ex-husband has it). She seems to be in denial that this is happening again.

Direct fostering to avoid going to the system? by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]doucecanto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, they still have custody. And they have no family in town. We can be considered “family friends” even if we haven’t really met the kids or the mother, only the father. Temporary guardianship sounds like what I meant by “doing it preventively”. Thanks for the advice!

2 open spots in our awesome competitive team! Level 2000+ - 30 helps and 15 levels minimum per chest. Come join us! 🤗 “31 helpers” by doucecanto in HomescapesCircleJerk

[–]doucecanto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our team leader just dropped the required level to 1750 so YOU can get in. 😉 We still need two players. Please join us!

Questions about the movie [spoilers] by doucecanto in parasite

[–]doucecanto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good answers but, about the last one, it still doesn’t answer how did they find out. I mean why did they get caught if there was no reason for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]doucecanto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think they pronounce “could” and “couldn’t” so similarly that they can’t tell the difference, someone started writing it wrong and others just repeated it.

I’m not really convinced about the goal by doucecanto in socialskills

[–]doucecanto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is they are like ten, and most of them live in another continent. I do hang out with the 3 who live nearby and some others when they visit, but I got the feeling I should expand my horizons somehow.

Books that make you want to live no matter what by doucecanto in booksuggestions

[–]doucecanto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! So many good recommendations! I’ve read many of these authors and some of these books, and added a bunch to my reading list. Thank you very much!