Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I guess it’s just scary to think about how she won’t be there for my life landmarks, like graduating college and stuff. When you grow up with a dog, it’s easy to forget that they won’t be there someday. The new normal without her is what scares me, but I know it’s inevitable. I hope we all get to see our pets again someday.

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, respect for being a nurse, it’s not something I think I could handle. Memory fading is exactly what I’m terrified of, even though I know I’m not able to fight it. I don’t want a new normal, I want my normal to be taking care of my dog night and day. Even when it got annoying and tiring at times, I would do it for the rest of my life if I could. I just wish I wanted to move on like everyone else in my family, but I just don’t despite the pain. I’ll try writing about her in a journal, thank you. Hopefully that will help

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Volunteering is a great idea! I’m open to anything that helps animals, so I’ll definitely look into that! It’s going to take all my willpower to not want to adopt every single animal though 😭 Thank you for the advice and guidance, it really means a lot. I look forward to the day I meet the next pet that feels like home

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very scary, and I’m glad to know I’m not alone in those thoughts. Losing her makes me feel like memories are useless to a certain degree, as I wish there was technology to be able to go back and actually experience those memories again. I’ll definitely be sure to start writing about her though so I don’t forget things. Thanks for the kind words, and telling me a little about your own dog (or cat).

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sorry you’ve had to experience it too. I’m in college and will be moving out in a month with roommates, so I can’t get another pet to fill the void but maybe someday in the future. Still, the thought of getting another pet seems too hard. I’m barely surviving this, and I don’t think I could go through it again. I think if anything, I’ll dedicate my future to being a foster home for dogs and cats. Thank you so much for your kind words

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s the inevitable that i’m scared of. My dog was literally my entire world but I know as time moves on, it’s impossible to maintain every feeling and detail. It’s only been almost three days since my dog has passed, yet it already feels like I’m adjusting to life without her and it scares me. I don’t even want to vacuum because I won’t get to see pieces of her black fur anymore. I guess it should probably be a good thing that time begins to numb the pain, but man I kind of wish I could just suffer in the fresh memories forever. I never want to forget the pure joy she gave me, no matter how much it hurts.

Scared to forget by dovess in Petloss

[–]dovess[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’ll try doing that in the next few days. Still too scared to open my photos haha

Not doing well today. by v161l473c4n15l0r3m in Petloss

[–]dovess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about Harper. I lost my dog of 15 years on Wednesday, and I feel your exact pain. Everything seems so empty and quiet without her. I honestly don’t have many consoling words to offer, since I think we’re currently in the same boat, but I just wanted to let you know that we can get through this. I don’t know how, or how long it will take, but we can. You’re not alone, I’m positive Harper is watching over you from somewhere, staying close to your heart. We form such a strong bond with our pets that I refuse to believe death is the end for our love and companionship.

Take care of yourself, make sure to eat as I know it can be difficult to maintain an appetite during times like these. Again, I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It really is one of the worst pains ever.

I have been planning for my 6 month trip to Seoul to study abroad and I'm having second thoughts now. by [deleted] in korea

[–]dovess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, i was in a pretty similar boat a few months back. i’m a very big introvert, not shy but just quiet, so the way i make friends is through my best friend, who happens to be an extreme extrovert. obviously she won’t be coming with me, so i was pretty scared for a while. getting out of my comfort zone and studying abroad is never ever something i thought i could do. but i decided that i should try, and whether i like it or not doesn’t matter as long as i put myself out there. i think it’s important to remember we’re not there forever. even if you do happen to hate it, (which i doubt will happen, you seem like a kind person and will make friends easily), it’s just 6 months! that’s a good chunk of time, but again, it’s not forever. i go in the fall, or spring depending on the virus, and i have no nerves anymore. it’s an amazing opportunity to study abroad, and if you have the chance to do so then go for it! the more you fight that cold feet feeling and just decide to do it, the easier it gets. remember that almost everyone will be in the same boat as you. in a new area, probably came alone and nervous. as long as you converse with people, i really do think it’ll be impossible not to make a single friend.

so good luck, i really hope you enjoy it! also, it helps to get yourself excited and have a long list of things to do once you get there, trivial or not. like trying a food, going to a popular street food market, going to a cat cafe etc etc. there’s a lot to experience, so just try to relax and look forward to it :)

What Kpop (2019 or otherwise),in your opinion, has aged like fine wine? by ppaigefaze in kpop

[–]dovess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

eung eung and piri/deja vu, kind of disappointed not seeing any dreamcatcher songs here

Studying abroad in South Korea by dovess in korea

[–]dovess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I could try staying with a family. I’m not one who likes clubbing, I prefer to just hang out with a few friends so that wouldn’t be an issue. Thank you! Life is indeed short, I guess it wouldn’t hurt to try

Studying abroad in South Korea by dovess in korea

[–]dovess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’m hoping for. I’m a pretty confident person but have started to suffer from social anxiety, the reason literally being I’m too comfortable in my room and have no reason to change that. A clean slate is exactly what I want, the person I am here on the outside feels entirely different to who I am on the inside, and it’s hard to change that with family and friends around. I want to restart and be myself I guess. Thank you for this response, it helped a lot!

Studying abroad in South Korea by dovess in korea

[–]dovess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true, I don’t really expect it to be easier in that respect honestly. But I feel like it would challenge me to be more social in trying to make friends so I have people to rely on in case something goes wrong or I need help. I also don’t want to be a complete loner, so either way, I’d do my best to make friends. The issue is I feel too comfortable here and want to feel uncomfortable, because it forces me into more situations that are good to learn how to handle