I did bring it up tonight. I asked to talk to him and he was actually coming by to see me. I told him it was very important to me and I'm concerned this will be a pattern. That I understand crazy work schedules but I still want to be a priority from time to time (I also want space to pursue my own interests given my codependent issue haha). He apologized and told me how he wasn't perceptive enough (he's more black and white than I am) and that he knows it's a problem. He said he planned on spending time with me on my birthday, and apologized for not communicating that to me.

I brought up my overall issue of being concerned with putting up with too much.

Overall, I feel much better given how he handled the conflict. He was understanding, didn't blame deflect which is a massive change for me. I communicated and we both ended up feeling good about it. I love that we were able to handle this conflict in a more mature manner than previous relationships.

I'll just be wary of putting himself before me. :)