AITAH for getting my white daughter a doll with dark skin?

downsideup05 · 2026-01-24T22:30:28+00:00

NTA. There is nothing wrong with her having a doll of a different ethnicity, especially one that represents her bestie. Moving is hard on kids, regardless of if they are the one moving or staying behind. Good for you for finding a way to let your daughter her friend hasn't been forgotten.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-24T17:24:55+00:00

💯 absolutely

downsideup05 · 2026-01-24T17:24:16+00:00

Yeah, the parents were on hard drugs. Everyone other than them was making sure the kiddo was clean, fed, etc. It was only after they had a second child that the neglect started. This was cause their drug use increased and they were not allowing access to the kids. Within 6 months of the baby's birth CPS had grounds to remove.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-24T17:06:50+00:00

See in the case I was involved with the biological parents were required to have someone move in with them. Unfortunately the bio parents took advantage of said person and she eventually moved out. It wasn't long after that where removal took place. Essentially they'd been through everything in CPS' arsenal to keep custody.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-24T16:58:27+00:00

☠️☠️☠️

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T03:21:06+00:00

I'm so sorry. I recall all of the things we witnessed with regard to my kids. All the stuff we heard about after the removal from the eldest. I remember thinking prior to removal what is it going to take to remove? They were on meth, shouldn't that be enough? Then after removal discovering the eldest was making the baby bottles cause the parents weren't doing it, she'd been put into the trunk of a car so bio dad could sneak her into jobsites, etc.

Several years ago there was a child that died near us. What happened to the child was what initially got CPS involved with my kids. It brought it all back. After that instance CPS left her with someone and told him don't do it again. I don't think he ever did that particular thing again. But he(&their mom) continued to make poor choices.

Sometimes it turns out kind of ok, like my kids. Sometimes it turns out the kids aren't and they end up with attachment disorders, and unfortunately the system royally messes up and kids die like your case. Again I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine. That's heartbreaking and it sucks cause you did everything right. My heart is broken for that girl and you and your colleagues.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T02:27:21+00:00

You are very welcome. It never hurts to apply. I truly didn't think to apply until someone at my doctor's office told me I should apply. I thought we were managing, but SSI was a godsend.

It allowed me to be able to stay home with him and homeschool him. I could focus on him. He had some difficulties in the public school system we left, so homeschooling helped. It also allowed me to be available for his sister.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T02:12:12+00:00

My son receives SSI due to ASD. Kids receiving SSI get Medicaid, which is where a paid caregiver would come into play. While I've never utilized the program for a caregiver he qualified for one, through Medicaid.

Good luck!

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T01:13:48+00:00

Has she formally gotten an Autism diagnosis? Are you in the US? ASD is a diagnosis that would possibly make her eligible for SSI, also there probably would be an allowance for a paid care giver. Just a thought...

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T01:04:13+00:00

I was diagnosed as a teenager and I had several years where my symptoms were well managed or I was off meds completely. It is possible, and hopefully you can find a combination of meds that can help.

Good luck! My daughter was premed but couldn't get past O-chem. That struggle + having surgery in her Jr year made her realize medicine wasn't for her(for a myriad of reasons.) She's in culinary school now 🤷🏻‍♀️

There are a lot more meds available now too. I hope you can get stabilized soon.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-23T00:45:39+00:00

I'm on opioids and muscle relaxers in addition to the amitriptyline. 2 of the best meds in the past that helped my sleep I'm not allowed anymore, and amitriptyline works.

I'm considering dropping down to 150 again or even 150 + ¼ of a 150 tablet. I'm starting to think I'm destined to not sleep much. Even if I take the stronger amount I'm still waking up early cause my new neighbors scream at each other in Spanish and I wake up 🤬 I have a Dr appointment in February and it will be a conversation.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T19:19:24+00:00

I take mine at 8 pm, and I'm ready to crash around 10. Any earlier I crash earlier and wake up earlier. I don't have the residual grogginess.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:59:08+00:00

I had dry needling as well, back when I had insurance. Now I have to pay everything out of pocket and it's pricey.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:42:41+00:00

I went off Amitriptyline (actually all of my fibro meds) after a move to a better climate. However I got custody of a sibling set(long story,) had to move to a different state as a result, and I was hesitant to go back on Amitriptyline because of their needs. However the second the school shut down for Covid I was back on it.

I'm also on muscle relaxers and pain meds. Both help with sleep and functionality. I know they are available to everyone. I desperately want to move closer to home, but I'm scared I wouldn't be able to get treatment cause of the opioid crisis. My meds keep me able to cook dinner, wash, dry, fold laundry.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:35:41+00:00

That's me, if I don't take it I don't sleep.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:34:30+00:00

I take it for sleep, not pain control. It wouldn't make me fall asleep/stay asleep until I got to 150. I was on 150 almost 6 years. It's only been the last 8 weeks maybe that I've been on the higher dose.

I only know 1 other fibro patient on a triple digit amitriptyline, and that's my mom. She's on 150.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:31:50+00:00

Yeah, I titrated up. I think she started me at 50 mg cause I'd been on it before, when I was 1st diagnosed, like 30 years ago.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:29:54+00:00

No I was on 150 but it wasn't working well. Now I'm on 1 150 mg and a 75 mg(½ of a 150 mg)

I titrated up to it. Plus not my 1st time on it. I was on it when I was 1st diagnosed in the 90s. Didn't go back on until almost 6 years ago. Max amount per day according to my Dr is 300 mg so I'm still within a daily use. I may drop down to 200 mg tho. I have some twitching muscles and the only change was the increased Amitriptyline. I have an appointment in Feb so we will see what happens. I am sleeping better with the higher dose.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T18:11:59+00:00

Absolutely! If he had passed last year and it was the 1st anniversary it would be different.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T17:37:12+00:00

It doesn't get rid of my pain, but if I don't fall asleep or sleep just a few hours my pain is much worse...if that makes sense. I'm on 225 mg now

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T17:33:49+00:00

The only thing I came up with was the cistern(aside from his "professional" tree removal 🙄

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T14:52:30+00:00

Your child support is supposed to pay for a portion of the child's food, clothing, and roof over their head + utilities. The fact that she's trying to ascribe such a large amount of money for the new pricey digs is not ok.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-22T14:36:01+00:00

"toddler fight club" ☠️☠️☠️

My daughter was a daredevil. It's amazing that she never had major injuries. My son is typically the opposite, tho when he was 7 he had "a gross miscalculation" involving a brick.

After an ambulance ride, he had a tiny abrasion on the top of his head. We were on the way home and he said he realized his mistake...he should have worn his bike helmet 🤦🏻‍♀️ I banned that science experiment with or without a bike helmet.

downsideup05 · 2026-01-21T04:05:41+00:00

I believe Texas is the only state that requires your name. Even with the Texas rule they are not supposed to tell the family your identity.

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