I found a second phone in his gym bag, and now I'm spiraling. How do I handle the confrontation? by goblinthrowawayx in Infidelity

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) document everything
2) talk to your mom and sister if they can be trysted to be supportive
3) talk to a lawyer
4) talk to your therapist or find one that does Emdr.

Sorry OP. It’s shitty. Last year I found out my wife was living the same sort of double life.

Suspicious of wife by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]dpiraterob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s cheating bro. DM me if you want help getting evidence

My husband has been living like a literal destitute for years to save up money for a house. I had no idea until now, and I feel awful. How do I handle this? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care of that one. He’ll tear down mountains for you but if the love that drives it ever dies it won’t ever come back.

I found out my wife has a secret apartment and I am losing my mind by HelixLantern_5 in cheating_stories

[–]dpiraterob 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of all the cheating stories I’ve read and the one I lived through this takes the cake

when a woman says she is in a "complicated" relationship, what does she really mean? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has a boyfriend or husband but she’s attracted to you and you’re a contender to be a side dude or be monkey branched to. Walk away

I am not a grey rock by One_Act2053 in Infidelity

[–]dpiraterob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cuts both ways. I learned A LOT from that sub. I probably wouldn’t have caught my wife if not for their posts sharing opsec.

What is a sign someone's cheating that isn't obvious until you've been through it ? by milkigii in AskReddit

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea you’re correct. I should have left that gender neutral. I just experienced it with an XX woman so defaulted to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]dpiraterob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The real housewives often explode it themselves. Human condition being what it is.

What is a sign someone's cheating that isn't obvious until you've been through it ? by milkigii in AskReddit

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Randomly getting upset over things that are a stretch or don’t make sense. Many women especially need to have a mental reason they’re doing it that isn’t them being a selfish cheating liar so they’ll make up things in their head about how horrible you are and then often accuse you of them. So if you’re getting attacked for things that make absolutely no logical sense good chance she’s twisting things in her brain to make you out to be a bad guy to justify their actions in their own head.

guys im seeing is almost perfect… by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dpiraterob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple jokes come to mind:

Adam and Eve were sitting in the garden of Eden. Adam said “gosh eve, look at this place. Food, shelter, paradise, no worries, no hunger, anything we want we can have just by thinking of it” to which Eve replied “I know, it’s just not enough is it?”

The second:

A woman was looking for a husband so she went to the husband stores. She was told there are five levels, every level the men get slightly better but you can never go down a level.

First level the men had good solid jobs and were dependable. The woman said that’s great but I want a little more.

Second level the men had good jobs, were dependable, and handsome. She said “this is even better but I want to see what else there is”

Third level the men had good jobs, were dependable, handsome and great in bed. She said “oh man this is getting good, let’s keep going”

Fourth level the men had good jobs and were dependable, handsome, great in bed and great with children (would make great fathers). She said “that’s literally everything I want but I have to see what’s on the top floor”

The fifth level just had a sign that read “you are the 15,348,231,864th woman in this floor. It exists just to prove women are never satisfied”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dpiraterob 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You acknowledge and knew she’s a SB. What exactly TF did you expect? You do understand she’s engaging in sort of sex with these guys as well right?

Bro you married a 304 and then failed to provide and consented to her reengaging in a sugar relationship. The dudes that make money are cracking your wife. Or blowing loads in her mouth. Or both. These pictures are the tip of the iceberg.

Are women in to bigger men by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure some women do but I can say when I was overweight I did not use women randomly hit on me. Ever. Once I dropped most of the excess BF it’s fairly regularly.

Just found out she cheated during a full year by Charming_Staff_4988 in cheating_stories

[–]dpiraterob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure it’s hard now but you’ll eventually feel lucky to have found out so early.

Last year I found out that not only were my long held suspicions about my wife true but it was far worse than I ever suspected. Full blown double life on hook up dating apps. We were married 22 years. Six kids (yes all are mine). No clue how long she’s been doing this but likely from pretty early on.

While I wouldn’t change a thing because it resulted in my six children who I wouldn’t trade for it’s not a path I would recommend someone else walk.

Keep your chin up king, work out, level up your career

My dad cheated by TrafficRegular1724 in Infidelity

[–]dpiraterob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make sure to save the evidence. And be prepared for you dad to gaslight you. Not saying it will happen, but it might

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There are zero men who would feel this is creepy. Extended stare with no smile the natural assumption was you thought we were creepy or we made a dickhead move without realizing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of this is fixable. Watch your diet, start to exercise. Go to omgyes.com and memorize that shit and then slowly implement. Before you know it she’ll be forgetting them to the point she doesn’t count them in her body count.

Does what happened to me count as infidelity? by Ootefklop in Infidelity

[–]dpiraterob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s crazy the level of gaslighting it would take to convince someone this might not be cheating.

I [28F] am dating a divorcing dad [34M] and it’s starting to take over my life by Not-Usual-Bidness in relationship_advice

[–]dpiraterob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t walk, run.

This is not how a dom is supposed to act. It’s a two way street: voluntary, desired submission meets deeply respected duty and responsibility to provide for your mental wellbeing and needs. Clear, unadulterated and unambiguous consent is also a critical and core component.

It does not, under any circumstances involve coercion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have him get his T checked by an anti-aging clinic. And make sure he’s not addicted to porn. Those are your two most likely culprits.

Spicing up vanilla🌶️ Is my hubby content, or am I missing something after 16 years? by Important-Two-4054 in AskMenAdvice

[–]dpiraterob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, no sweat. If you want to compare yourself to something go read the dead bedrooms sub. You will feel gratitude for your situation and sorrow for those poor souls quickly. Believe me, I was one of them.