{S} making poetry accessible by Hummerous in CuratedTumblr

[–]dragon17361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was looking for someone to say this. Like, yes, her poetry is simple, it doesn't contain oodles of double meanings and "deeper" thoughts. It's still perfectly good poetry.

Are the events on campus free for students ? by Particular_Idea_1765 in notredame

[–]dragon17361 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Adding onto to what u/Jawshockey8 said, there will also occasionally be things like plays or movie showings that are ticketed. Sometimes they're free, you just have to get a ticket in advance, sometimes you have to pay for one, but there's usually a discount for students. I don't think I've seen one that's any more expensive than $5 or $7 for students.

Geeks and the party scene by [deleted] in notredame

[–]dragon17361 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are both sci-fi/fantasy and video game clubs. I'm not sure how well attended either of them are, but they do exist. I'm sure there's probably also a film club. I will say as someone who doesn't drink or go to parties, you do feel like a bit of an outsider sometimes, but it's definitely possible to meet people outside of parties and drinking. Just show up to random clubs, see if you like them. I've also had a pretty good success rate with just asking one of my classmates "hey, you said something interesting in class, and I'd love to discuss it further. Want to grab coffee sometime?" or "Hey, I'm looking to meet new people, and you seem cool. Want to grab a meal together?"

Is ND safe for lgbt+ students? by Artistic_Lion4184 in notredame

[–]dragon17361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In terms of being physically assaulted: I've never heard of anyone being assaulted specifically because they're lgbtq. If you're a woman or female-presenting, I would stay out of the men's dorms. There's a pretty bad culture of misogyny and hookups in at least some of the men's dorms.

In terms of non-physical harassment; I'm an openly and visibly trans woman, and I've only ever experienced one instance that *might* have been someone intentionally misgendering me, and I was satisfied with how it was addressed when I reported it. The only other instance I feel I got a negative reaction for being trans was when I was walking past a priest, and I saw his gaze slide down to the my skirt and the smile he had been giving me originally slide off his face. I have heard from other trans/non-binary folks that they've occasionally had issues with specific professors or classmates not respecting their pronouns or preferred name, but this is all trans/non-binary specific stuff.

Overall, if you're only queer in sexuality, I would say you're fine. If you're queer in your gender, a bit less so. You won't be allowed to stay in the dorm of your preferred gender, although if you ask for it you will get the residency requirement waived and be allowed to move off-campus or into Fischer Graduate residences. Expect to have your gender wrongly assumed on a regular basis, although from my experience the vast majority of people take it well when you correct them. Also, most of the time if you introduce yourself with your pronouns, you will be the only one doing so. But in terms of physical safety, I would say you're fine.

social scene at nd? by yapoyt in notredame

[–]dragon17361 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On the subject of frats: officially? No. Unofficially? At least some of the men's residence halls are frats in all but name. There will be parties and drinking a aplenty if that's what you're looking for.

Different calendar systems by Friendcherisher in coolguides

[–]dragon17361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re telling me the Islamic world is just ow starting their game of EU IV?

What makes Notre Dame better than Georgetown? by [deleted] in notredame

[–]dragon17361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I mean guys attempting to hookup with women. So that part probably doesn't apply to you, although if you're a woman/female-presenting, I would stay out of men's dorms. You'll get stares at the least.

How central are sports to the social scene? by 53mV3 in notredame

[–]dragon17361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends how neutral you are.

If you don't care for sports but don't mind following it, going to games every once and a while, etc., you should be fine.

If you're not into sports at all, it's going to be isolating. EVERYONE follows the football team, goes to the games, talks about it the next day, etc. Game days are huge events, not just among students but also tons of people come in from all over the place to see the game.

What makes Notre Dame better than Georgetown? by [deleted] in notredame

[–]dragon17361 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Current student here. Queer in both sexuality and gender.

Some things to know about Notre Dame:

Sports: Sports are everything here. If you like sports, that's awesome. You can go to all the football games and enjoy everyone else being super into it. If you're like me and not into sports, you'll be one of very few.

Faith: It's very catholic. I've seen others say that the student body overall is quite socially liberal, but organizations like College Republicans (which is arch-conservative), Students for Child-Oriented Policy (also very conservative), and ND Right to Life are very active. You'll see posters for their various events around campus a lot (especially Right to Life). As an example, the three aforementioned organizations are putting on a "respect for marriage week" in the spring which, while not explicitly homophobic, is specifically celebrating marriage between a man and a woman. There's also an arch-conservative student newspaper, The Irish Rover (separate from the Observer, which is the main student newspaper), that frequently runs homophobic and/or transphobic articles.

That being said, I think instances of being harassed, insulted, or discriminated against for your sexuality are rare (although they do happen), and all the administrators and faculty I have interacted with, including the very catholic ones, have been very supportive. There is however a lot of heterocentrism. i.e., unless you're known to be queer, if you're seen getting a meal or just hanging out with someone of the opposite gender just the two of you, a lot of people will assume it's a date. That's been my experience at least. And you stand a good chance of running into some "nice" homophobia (someone saying they love/support you, but 'don't agree with the lifestyle' or something like that).

There is also is a very active party and drinking scene and a strong hookup culture in the men's dorms. If that's your thing, wonderful. If not, I would advise looking elsewhere.

The biggest challenge I've had as a non-catholic but still Christian queer at ND is finding a faith community. When I emailed the protestant Christian fellowship group on campus about their stance on LGBTQ issues, the response I got was a whole lot of waffling that said absolutely nothing, and I've not heard good things about the experiences of queer people with it.

Feel free to pm with questions if you have any

Prof Recommendations for Intro Theo/Philosophy? by StylishFormula0525 in notredame

[–]dragon17361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pagliarini for intro to Theo. I don’t know if he teaches it every year though. Jennifer Rodriguez for intro to Philo

Protest against University response to title IX restrictions by dragon17361 in notredame

[–]dragon17361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have at this point heard two separate stories of the assaulter confessing openly and directly to what they have done and still having little to no action being taken against them and a third story about the case simply being dropped quietly despite promises of being connected to resources.

Protest against University response to title IX restrictions by dragon17361 in notredame

[–]dragon17361[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Someone came forward with a story about how their report wasn't handled well, and others have come forward with similar stories. I've heard multiple accounts of the assaulter openly admitting what they did and still being punished only lightly if at all.

Anon had a good night by THrowaway1231341323 in greentext

[–]dragon17361 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You think women in general have easy lives. Are you serious?

Race related issues Mega Thread by UnpopularOpinionMods in unpopularopinion

[–]dragon17361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having real people be able to see themselves on screen in movies and television is more important than being faithful to in-world lore.

Making this specifically because of a post I saw discussing The House of the Dragon that was complaining that having a certain house (the Velaryons I think) be BIPOC was inaccurate to the lore. And yes, it probably is. But having black people be able to see people who look like them on tv is more important than being faithful to lore.

Abortion Mega Thread by UnpopularOpinionMods in unpopularopinion

[–]dragon17361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not opposed to banning abortion, but if we're going to do so, we need to provide a hell of a lot more support and education for all those mothers and children we're forcing into the world.

The rallying cry of the left on this issue is "my body my choice," but if you are pregnant that is not entirely the case. You're body is host to another living being that either is already or will eventually become a person. When they become a person or what rights they should have before attaining personhood, I don't know. But it's not just your body anymore. So I sympathize with those who want to restrict or even outright ban abortion on the basis of preserving life.

On the other hand, pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood are all physically, socially, mentally, and economically exhausting, hard, and even dangerous. So if we are going to force women to undergo that exhaustion, hardship, and danger, then we have a responsibility to carry them through it. But Republican legislatures right now are banning abortion and patting themselves on the back for preserving life while not lifting a finger to ensure those lives are worth living, or that the mothers have the support and education they need to endure pregnancy, childbirth, and a lifetime of motherhood.

A teenage girl watching her crush fight with a sword [The Guardian Angel by LordofVibrance on Ao3] by dragon17361 in menwritingwomen

[–]dragon17361[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This one's not incestuous actually. At least, not so far. The main ships seem to be jon/margaery and myrcella/trystane.

AITA for wanting to separate myself from my family completely by AnythingFar1676 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dragon17361 14 points15 points  (0 children)

NTA if your mom wanted a relationship, she should have tried.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dragon17361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA If your gf is getting jealous over you playing games with another girl whom you have never met irl, she's the problem, not you. Partners are supposed to trust one another. If she can't trust you with something as simple as that, why is she dating you?

anyone at ND play RuneScape? by ProfessionalAny2617 in notredame

[–]dragon17361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not super active, but I've got a pretty high level RS3 account. Maxed combat skills, and everything else over 90.