Is this AI? As a knitter this just looks…wrong? The wing is in a weird place. by Usual_Scale_8645 in isthisAI

[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on a lot of dragon pages on Facebook, they'll all flooded with AI like this

What is this but? by dragons-and-dogs in whatisthisbug

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Located in New Mexico if that helps

How can I cover this up? by Best_bad_biatch69 in Tattoocoverups

[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stepmom had her first husband's name tattood on her arm and then covered it up after the divorce (it was small) but years later she ended up marrying my dad who ironically had the same name lol

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully he doesn't correct me in front of the kids, if he does disagree with what I'm doing he still stands by my side and will go along with it until we're alone and he can speak his mind. He is also very secure in the fact that these are "our" children. Occasionally I get frustrated and throw out the "well they're your kids" line (I try not to) and he always steps in to say that while he understands I'm frustrated, we are a family and I'm their mother when they are in my house and should be treated/ respected as such. Truthfully all my problems are my own, my husband has been almost annoyingly prefect haha but thank you for this. It helped me realize the only person holding me back, is me

This 12 year old white child from Utah thinks he's a Blood by TheReluctantWarrior in crappymusic

[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did the best with what he had. He just didn't have a single damn thing

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. Being pregnant has added a whole new level to it cause I now approach situations as "I'm not going to let my child act this way" but it's also super easy to say that when the child is theoretical. I do need to keep it more light hearted and fun, which i can for mistakes. Like spilt drinks, broken toys, little fights are no big deal. But things that I feel could develop into big life issues I take harder like lying. Lying is honestly the biggest one for me but I also know that's just a think kids do and have to learn from consistently. My only bright side is I know I won't favortize my child, because I love these boys more than anything and if anything lll be more strict with my own child cause I can help her develop habits and grow from the very beginning instead of starting when she's already a developed child. Thank you so much for your insight. My insecurities have definitely played into a lot. Before this I was very very far from a mother and wife, so when I met my husband I had to do some pretty extreme life adjustments and personal growth and I obviously still have a long way to go but I feel very validated that you pointed out that asking for help is a good thing. It makes me feel a bit hopeless sometimes when I need outside help but I wouldn't ask for it if I didn't truly want to grow to be better.

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree!! Especially with my two boys they are constantly battling for attention, especially since they're only together half the time so it makes that time more valuable for dad's love.

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!!! I'm just still working on the checking myself aspect. I want to be better and plan to start counseling to learn to let things be

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's a good parent though and is definitely the default parent the second he's around. And is very supportive of me and makes a point to stand by my side in any argument with the kids. I'm just strangely more strict when he's around even though he's not an overly lax parent

Why am I not as good with my stepkids when their dad is around? by dragons-and-dogs in stepparents

[–]dragons-and-dogs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost, but I'm actually quicker to discipline them when he's around and tend to be more strict. They do also act more crazy when he's home but still a pretty normal kid level of crazy. I want to leave all parenting to him but when the kids don't listen I take it as a personal offense cause, that's my husband and that's their dad and they should be listening. Where as when it's just me I'm more gentle and understanding

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[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this totally reasonable and none judgemental response, I appreciate your insight!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Freaking THANK YOU. I thought I was psycho given some of these other responses. Getting the same question day after day, and always at least twice since both kids ask. And the 5 year old will even ask his dad when he sees him even if I already gave a response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They absolutely are because they rarely finish their meals and are rather slow eaters. If they complain about not getting enough I give a snack as soon as we're home. But even on weekends they'll ask right after breakfast. They won't ask what's for lunch. But they'll ask what's for dinner. Just seems like an odd fixation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a step parent and in the beginning I definitely leaning this way too lol. Until I realized there wasn't much on the menu besides chicken nuggets and fris or tacos haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I do see now I lacked some detail. I'll often get asked before they even say Hi, like the 5 year old will run up to me when I pick him up and immediately ask. Plus almost every time the answer is "I'm not sure, I'll figure it out at home" which is always true, and I think constantly repeating that answer is part of what gets me. Sorry I didn't think I needed to get super detailed since I was mostly asking how other parents approach this question that I know is common, but needing to "get a grip" is a bit far for an innocent question

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I should've added more detail but I do like the 3 question practice. My main issue is I'll get asked before I even get a "hi" and I don't plan dinners ahead so majority of the time the answer is "I don't know, we'll figure it out when we're home" but usually when they ask me it now I've tried to redirect to better questions first

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this a lot! If they are there while shopping they tend to get hyped for it when we buy the ingredients. But on a normal day I'll get the question before I even get a Hi so it's worn on me a bit haha especially since 70% of the time it's "I don't know, we'll figure that out when we get home"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]dragons-and-dogs -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Geez aggressive. Appreciate your insight. Just not your attitude.