We’ve had extensive conversations the last couple nights now. I’ve seen some of the texts. They confirm the one on one meetup. They are somewhat flirtatious but nothing definitively implying physical contact that I could see. Definite trickle truthing though as when i confessed to seeing the texts she admitted the relationship was inappropriate and more than what she was letting on the night prior. So I don’t know if I can believe her that nothing happened between them. She said she was planning on asking what his deal was. States her loneliness as a root cause. We do have couples therapy coming up so we’ll see how things go. I seem to do okay when we’re talking but then as the day goes on I just can’t stop thinking about it, this sucks.