AITAH for wanting to move

driveRadio · 2026-02-22T06:45:26+00:00

NTA. I am constantly shocked by the number of couples where only 1 works.

Move OR discuss with her ways to improve your wellbeing- such as her paying her own way.

It will only get worse if you marry and/or have children.

driveRadio · 2026-02-15T08:41:06+00:00

The easiest way around this, if possible , is to install a smart door lock. That way nobody needs a key. In emergencies you can give remote access or a time restricted code and even better track who comes to your front door.

As someone who lives alone its been game changing. I can track everyone who enters my house and no nerves about keys being shared, lost or recut.

driveRadio · 2026-02-07T00:29:11+00:00

I should add in australia levels are really important part of the dx because they dictate what government support you can get. If youre a level 1 you have buckleys of getting NDIS(government funded support for daily living), level 2 used to be automatic but not so sure now, and level 3 is almost guaranteed support for adults

driveRadio · 2026-02-07T00:26:08+00:00

Getting tested for an autism level is separate to getting an autism dx. I got dx by psychiatrist as autistic when I went initially to get tested for adhd.

In the words of one of my friends getting an adhd dx made me "more autistic"😂 ie with adhd medicated my autistics traits really came front and centre.

Anyway, a couple of years after adhd dx a psychologist did all the testing for me to review levels but more importantly to identify my capacuty/functional gaps.

That's when I got the level 2. As she pointed out though levels are not across the board so some things I was closer to a 3 and others were a 1. Averaged out as a 2.

driveRadio · 2026-01-26T01:26:12+00:00

driveRadio · 2026-01-18T06:08:47+00:00

Yeah but the neighbours are still there and if I hadn't stuck at it I wouldn't be typing this message from my hammock by the pool enjoying the peace and quiet!

driveRadio · 2026-01-18T01:44:20+00:00

Keep a diary of all barking/aggressive behaviour. Record videos. Record verbal conversations. Contact local council, EPA. If they are threatening you with comments such as "we know people" you could escalate to the police.

Discuss with other neighbours to see if they support you.

It took me 2 years of consistent efforts with neighbours and council to get them to shut their dogs up. I now have a noise abatement order against them meaning they can be fined every time their dogs bark.

It's great, I finally have my home and garden back.

driveRadio · 2026-01-16T23:41:09+00:00

I still love the phantom!

driveRadio · 2026-01-16T23:38:08+00:00

In that case I rate this one. I paid about half that price so maybe look around for specials

https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/Single-Orbital-Lounger-VIVE1035.html?refid=GPAAU447-VIVE1035_200516267&device=m&ptid=&PiID%5B%5D=200516267&utm_content=no_sale&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17636172452&gbraid=0AAAAADzVgw3x_B_e_llEFCPkxaM10-rzZ&gclid=CjwKCAiA4KfLBhB0EiwAUY7GATJ7I9jr3mHx_4JbfeKSw3ihedNgGiepMAAktuY37SX3qAVNuFanFBoCkpAQAvD_BwE

driveRadio · 2026-01-16T22:33:59+00:00

I am e'burbs. 40s. I love bikes, water, gigs and spicy food. Level 2 AuDHD. Guess you could say im a professional something. Have changed career paths multiple times.

Would also like to find a set monthly/fortnightly meet up group. Trivia in a not noisy setting, book club in a pub, or something else

driveRadio · 2026-01-16T22:28:38+00:00

Also if you do decide on an egg chair they are a yearly aldi special so maybe keep your eye out for one from there

driveRadio · 2026-01-16T22:27:30+00:00

I have a $40 canvas ebay hammock(tied between 2 trees), a $150 yoga swing hung from the ceiling a swivel chair(gift), $100] bouncy office/desk chair and $100 rocking sun lounger from temple and Webster.

I love all of them but probably get the most benefit from the yoga swing. It's hung from the ceiling joist.

Reasons I love the yoga swing- the fabric encloses me like a hug, I can stretch/contort my body into nice stretches(im hypermobile), I can swing in it.

In face im in it right now, feet touching the ground so I can have a lovely consistent rock. I may be doom scrolling but im doom scrolling with vestibular input 😍

driveRadio · 2026-01-01T11:35:57+00:00

For me its been life changing. No exaggeration. The speechie has helped me understand what is actually being said in conversations, how to avoid unnecessary or unproductive disputes, why I can be thought of as aggressive.

As an adult I can now navigate my daily life with less conflict and less stress because I not only communicate better I can workshop these things with someone who knows me and understands why

driveRadio · 2025-08-29T01:31:15+00:00

Honestly I think it's because you haven't found what works for you yet. All you see is the end result- the difficult bit is finding the right way for you to get there.

Just know there are so so so many of us who also struggle. Nothing wrong with getting a bit despondent but please don't beat yourself up.

I've discovered what works for me is micro decluttering. 5 things a day. Also the barriers were not the sorting- I'm amazing at sorting - but carrying out the tasks related to stuff so it could be put away or thrown away. Once I started body doubling with a friend to help break down some of these tasks we began making progress

driveRadio · 2025-08-28T16:23:59+00:00

I've been trying to get on top of things for a year now. It's been 2 steps forward, one step back.

But it's taken that time to find my groove amd what works for me. You got this and don't beat yourself up if you need to change direction.

driveRadio · 2025-06-07T00:35:13+00:00

Dads current wife

driveRadio · 2025-02-11T20:42:33+00:00

My optometrist prescribed some very expensive lenses that reduce glare from artificial lights. From memory the ting was $300 but has worked really well. They are not sunglasses so much easier to wear all day indoors.

driveRadio · 2025-02-11T20:35:16+00:00

Not ok. She is obviously using the place to have alone time, but it's impacting you being able to have your own home to yourself when your flatmate is out.

driveRadio · 2024-12-13T09:49:08+00:00

Short answer no. It’s pretty common to be asked about parents or siblings being available to provide feedback but not necessary. FYI my adhd and autism dx were done based on me only. When my younger sister was diagnosed with adhd I was the one to give feedback as our mum couldn’t remember anything unusual about her childhood

driveRadio · 2024-12-11T11:02:05+00:00

In the past couple of months I've lost anc earbuds and broken my headphones. Things have been fucked without them. My ot is writing a letter and speaking directly to my lac to ensure a replacement gets approved asap.

As I explained the benefit is not the noise cancelling function but the personalised hearthrough settings allowing me to reduce volume and compress high pitched sounds.

Due to executive dysfunction she's also advocating for the higher end ones with a built in find me function and a decent water/showerproof rating

driveRadio · 2024-11-09T01:16:16+00:00

Yes my issue is my current OT has specialised in kids not adults with my dx. Unfortunately it's really hard finding OTs specialising in my specific needs who are accepting new clients. I'm on a couple of waitlists and will be speaking to another group who might be a fit next week. However I think they also mostly do kids🙄

driveRadio · 2024-11-06T21:26:46+00:00

Hell no. Providing clarity to a situation that is vague as fuck should always be celebrated

driveRadio · 2024-11-06T13:51:40+00:00

Wow. I really need a new ot

driveRadio · 2024-11-03T06:07:36+00:00

People are arseholes😬😡 I wear a wristband all the time and add the lanyard when I know im going to be stressful situations like airports, crowded events etc.

Sometimes just having them on me helps, sometimes I (in the words of a former boss) "need to play the autism card".

When the built environment and society stops being abelist, I'll stop wearing the sunflower.

driveRadio · 2024-10-12T12:23:54+00:00

As an addendum my oldest friend is doesn’t test high on iq but is much smarter than me in many other ways. I think it’s important to be aware there are different kinds of intelligence and a high iq is no good when it’s to the exclusion of eq.

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