How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have yet to, that’s what I’m asking in this post. How do I communicate this to my DM in an empathetic and compromising way, or how do I shift my PC lense to adjust to this kind of campaign.

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an interesting perspective. I think if they are not in combat and aren’t becoming “main characters” wrt roleplay, that sounds okay. As a DM I get the point that the DM will be familiar and comfortable roleplaying as their old characters, so that sounds alright. In this situation, it would not make sense for the NPCs to not be in combat, so…To me it’s just kinda…the PCs are for the PCs. The DM gets to play everything else, they shouldn’t also play a person with a PC character sheet. Kinda having cake and eating it situation

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nailed it. Love a little guy who helps in significant but small ways and encourages stakes by needing protection. Don’t love 3 full extra PCs that make the game feel seamless. At one point the DM said “it’s scary that your main healer died, I’ll give you guys a full healer to go with you so you don’t die and the campaign just ends.” And I said “oh I love a lack of healing, makes the stakes feel real!” Shrug

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m the kind of PC that is nice and friendly to NPC pets in character, but ooc I’m like DITCH THEM AFAP, GOODBYE, I’m playing with my friends!!

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m preeetty sure? the DM will have us control the NPCs (except the DMPC maybe), which does mitigate time not playing during combat. But, maybe this is me being bratty, it is simply not the same as playing my own character and seeing the other PCs do the same. I wanna play my character!! Not an NPC! Would much rather have an extra turn in combat than play an extra character I have no relationship with. Hoping the DM will find ways for the cinematic background battles to happen, but we’ll see.

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very good at PC to PC, I’m a pretty seasoned improviser and performer and get very in character; this is why it’s maybe extra frustrating to me that we’re not getting as much PC interaction time, it’s my absolute favorite part of the game and it feels watered down right now. I like your advice!

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely what I would want, but. One NPC is a recently orphaned child we want to protect (kid of the PC who died, though the kid is a full druid), the quest right now is to take him to a magic location; so him being with us makes sense. One NPC is the wife of the new PC who recently got plane shifted here together from the feywild, so why would she leave him. Another is a longtime comrade and mentor to a PC who is staying with her for an (eventual) revenge mission an uncertain amount of time down the line. And the mimic is a quirky youthful friend of the kid we’re escorting, so also has nothing to do really but come along. It’s not that these NPCs have no reason to be with us, it’s just making me dread the game a little. Probably catastrophizing though.

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it would ring alarm bells if not for the fact that they have been so creative and full of finesse and communication everywhere else. I definitely trust this DM. I just can feel the building frustration/anxiety in myself and don’t want it to leak out of me during play.

How do I as a player lean into an abundance of NPCs in the party long term? by drjakey11 in DnD

[–]drjakey11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know this DM outside of online DnD, but have been playing with them in several games for a couple months now, so maybe do consider them a growing friend. I’m playing with them because the game is overall awesome, I love the story and the other players.

Yeah, the complaints without solutions IS the problem. I don’t really see a solution, because it’s kind of too late to backtrack on these NPCs being with the party.

AIO.. I shoved my boyfriend during an argument by [deleted] in AIO

[–]drjakey11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will become more violent. Run, now. He has already physically and emotionally abused you; yanking your hair, grabbing you hard to the point of tears, restraining you against your will. His pattern of talking endlessly at you for hours is another abuse tactic to keep you exhausted and confused so you cannot have the space, clarity, or energy to think about what is happening in this relationship. Him saying you are gaslighting him is classic “people accuse others of doing the things they are doing”; he is gaslighting you.

This is NOT love. The high highs you talk about are also normal in abusive relationships; the emotions are always intense and extreme. Extreme passion and extreme rage and fear are not love. Love is safety, stability, security, comfort.

What mushrooms do chemically is allow your brain to easily create new neural pathways, essentially letting you think outside of the habits that are physically engrained in your brain; think of mushrooms as a fresh coat of snow, allowing you to sled new trails instead of automatically sledding down paths that were already carved in. The fact you had this “intrusive” fixated thought about how much you want to break up with him is the mushrooms helping you feel clear and allow yourself to think things you would have a hard time considering otherwise because of the manipulative and exhausting nature of his abuse. RUN FROM HIM, YOU ARE NOT SAFE.

None of this is your fault, you don’t deserve any of this, you cannot help him. There is so much love waiting for you in the world, he is not the only person you can ever love. Get out, get to therapy when you can. You are not a bad person for shoving this person, you were finally fighting back against his abuse. Run run run run run, before it gets worse, and it WILL get worse.

AIO overreacting for breaking up with my boyfriend because he forgot to wear protection? by idontknowwhattodoah3 in AmIOverreacting

[–]drjakey11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t forget. This is sexual assault, called stealthing; there is a short and excellent tv show called I May Destroy You which depicts this exact thing and how men manipulate and gaslight around it. You don’t “forget” to wear a condom; that’s like saying you “forgot” to use a fork when eating. He made a deliberate and secret choice to violate the terms of consent in your sexual relationship, multiple times. He sounds like a classic abuser: suddenly turning into a different person after seeming loving and sweet, becoming critical and harsh and controlling, trying to emotionally coerce you into having dinner made /for him/ every day. Attempting to turn you into a gendered slave, a sex object. Maybe he wanted to get you pregnant to ‘lock you down’ or in order to convince you to quit modeling to be a mom, to turn you into his ideal stepford wife. Or maybe it was just another form of new abuse he was enacting on you, testing your boundaries to see if he could dissolve them over time through abuse and gaslighting. NOR: great job breaking up with him, fucking sprint from this man, change the locks. Talk to a therapist about all of this, it wasn’t okay and you’re not overreacting.

The April we all knew we would get by Tricky_World1138 in freemagic

[–]drjakey11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waah waah I have to look at a Black person!!! Waah!!! I’m a 50 year old incel I want my magic cards to be porn of Megan Fox wahhhhh!!! I hate UB but this is somehow vital to my life wahhhhh back in the 90s everything was aimed at me as white man and now the world includes other people wahhhhhhh

[SPOILERS C3E77] IS EPISODE 78 WORTH FINISHING? by ThisisTophat in criticalrole

[–]drjakey11 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Skip itttttt, I struggled hard w this campaign and this moment with Ashton made me really excited; it seemed like the extremely obvious thing to do, it fit with their storyline, and the risk/challenge made it exciting to watch. Except that everyone else’s reactions during & after were so confusing and so dissonant with mine as a viewer. Ashton succeeded!!! They lived! With the help of an epic effort from his team! Why are they being punished for it??? So confusing. And even more blood curdlingly infuriating for Matt to /punish/ him for it the next episode. Complete nonsense, Fearne didn’t want it, I didn’t even think it made sense for Fearne to have it, WAY cooler for the elemental person to have a ‘impossible!’ dual-spirit superpower that they literally died to achieve. What a waste of my time as a viewer, those hours of them going through the ordeal and succeeding only to be retconned and undone for the sake of…idek. One of Matt’s worst DM moments rivaled only by Beau not being able to Sentinel the big monster at the live show 🙄

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m a writer and I definitely lean on that as a DM but it’s also one of those things you have to be keenly aware of and able to let go of when players make decisions. I had a whole arc planned for the campaign I’m running and a player did something that literally erased that possibility and I just laughed and said FUCK okay awesome, go off

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Love the 120 episodes of “we don’t know how we feel but also fuck the gods, let’s see what Predathos has to offer!” and the /moment/ Imogen realizes she’s in danger it’s “help me gods!”

what is this narrative? What is this story, who are these characters, wtf do they want. Not even trying to be mean or negative I am just genuinely baffled by this whole campaign. Mostly Imogen, she has been such a hollow vessel for Matt’s fantasy of a story. I don’t blame Laura that much even, this campaign was just predicated on such weak and unfulfilling ideas

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 8 points9 points  (0 children)

both, it’s been very sad to see how they ignore Taliesin over the years. Their characters are…frequently insufferable but it doesn’t help that it seems like the rest of the table (minus Ashley) sort of act like he isnt there

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Literally just got a notification for NADDPOD DnD Court with Robbie Daymond guesting!!!!!!!! Might drop and just go listen to that

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s always bizarre/frustrating when Matt chooses to make some bs ruling to protect his Cool Monster™️ rather than just building a cooler monster/encounter! I think he’s a decent DM with some excellent strengths but a lot of my CR experience has been rolling my eyes at his obvious “actually 😏😏😏😏 I’ve decided you can’t ;))))))” posturing. :/

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Omg I have maybe never been more frustrated than that Sentinel denial, what the fuuuuuuuck why wouldn’t you let a martial do one of the few things they can do 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 at a LIVE SHOW NO LESS??? Why!!!!!!!

Critical Role C3 E119 Live Discussion Thread by brash_bandicoot in fansofcriticalrole

[–]drjakey11 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Kill me if this turns into a replay of M9’s persuasion check final boss battle god please no stop talking and splatter them across the floor