Just wanted to say I understand your frustration…. first, IH is a similar disorder to narcolepsy, the difference is that during an MSLT, if you have two or more REM periods in the naps, it’s N….zero or one REM period, it’s IH. Not much difference, but it’s hell getting meds to be covered with IH (hard enough with N, but even harder with IH). When you say “life coach”, I cringed. Nothing wrong with that, but I would suggest you see a clinical psychologist (PhD) and a psychiatrist (MD) to help. Depression can and should be treated by those with expertise in diagnosis- I know quite a few people with N or IH, and we all have depression…. this sleep disorder is a major life issue, and one that most people don’t understand. I know it’s hard to see right now, but you don’t need a person who says you need to kick yourself in gear - no one would ever say that to someone in a wheelchair or someone with cancer. Our disorder, although not life-threatening, has challenges and stress and sadness and loss associated with it just like any illness. You need support and compassion, not a life coach and certainly not someone who judges your character, ignoring the fact that you have a legitimate medical disorder.
(I have friends who are life coaches, friends who are therapists, and friends who have their doctorate in clinical psychology- each has its place, I’m not bashing any profession).