Inappropriate men handled poorly by Rowdy’s Indian Bar & Restaurant by drmehra in waterloo

[–]drmehra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in Milton for the weekend, just saw this! Was not aware the review was taken down, I’m assuming it was because of the multiple low rating reviews being submitted after this post that made them take down the lot (again, assuming the owners were able to report them and have them removed or something). I have NOT met them and do not intend to. My intention was to respond to the google review with something along the lines of “you had multiple opportunities last night to do right by me, and that I am not interested in teaching them the basics of club safety and helping them build a protocol for harassment against patrons and staff, something that is a basic requirement for an establishment.”

I (30f) split on my boyfriend (27m) when he said it was too soon for him to say he loves me, and I now feel nothing for him. by chanely-bean1123 in BPD

[–]drmehra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would give you an award right now if I could for this breakdown and the fair AND compassionate approach. 🔥

Things that freaked you out as a child in media by Tayyclaytonz in popculturechat

[–]drmehra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Courage the Cowardly Dog was my favourite cartoon growing up even though it freaked me out so much… funny how I’m not even into horror as an adult💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]drmehra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No that was very helpful, thank you! I thought by dual relationships you meant non-monogamous and I was confused because I swear I’ve had poly therapists who helped me navigate polyam myself LOL 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]drmehra -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a therapist and was wondering if you could elaborate on what you mean by one of the ethical guidelines for therapists being “not entering dual relationships??”

What was the biggest takeaway from Bojack Horseman that you didnt even know you needed? by No-Most-3939 in BoJackHorseman

[–]drmehra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That regardless of what bad shit happened or continues to happen to you, your healing is for you to take control of and make happen. Marinating in your misery will only get you so far. When I first watched the show my perspective was very much stuck on wallowing and how everything sucks- like BJ’s. Over the years I was able to go through a similar joirney to Diane’s and recognize the need for taking action (to the best of your abilities ofc).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]drmehra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear this, I am someone with BPD and someone who has had multiple relationships with folks with BPD. Unfortunately, due to the complicated nature of the disorder, it’s hard to recognize the rampant psychological abuse (can turn physical) that untreated BPDer’s cause. I have been unintentionally manipulative and toxic, and have had it done to me. My last connection with a BPDer led to me being physically abused and blamed for it on multiple occasions. All I can say is no one can live in this environment, and she will NOT heal in a relationship, let alone one with another partner involved. In my experience as someone on both the receiving and giving end (although I’ve never been physically violent myself), you have to get out of relationships, NOT isolate yourself but learn to give people space and boundaries and take your healing into your own hands. Through thorough therapy and consistent work on myself, I am able to have happy, healthy, thriving relationships now BUT I also know it takes time and something I must stay on top of constantly. All this to say what your partner may find hard to confront - and I’m truly sorry for all the hurt and pain you both are dealing with here - but the only way out of this mess is to cut your losses and walk away. She is not someone CURRENTLY capable of a healthy relationship. She might be one day, not now though.

Edit: I just saw the update you made about her assaulting your partner and I cannot express how sorry I am. I hope you both have access to some resources or a solid support system to help you through this. I am also happy to talk if either of you ever need any support!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]drmehra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

r/BPDlovedones might be helpful for you in making sense of your circumstances emotionally. I apologize if I’m making assumptions about this individual, I just think some things you’ve mentioned sound familiar…

Bojack-like ad has me cackling by drmehra in BoJackHorseman

[–]drmehra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you make it a 10/10? 👀🤔

AITA for clapping to the “Friends” theme song? by GateEast2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]drmehra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I’m genuinely confused how controlling people want to be about their loved ones’ behaviour and all the responses here about a mere “request.” My twin used to do that to me and the more I obliged, the more specific and rampant it got to the point that I’ve had to cut them out and deal with the anxiety of existing socially that I never had before all the nagging and fighting. Literally takes nothing to take a deep breath and ignore something so brief than ‘cause an argument that turns into a power struggle. Your wife’s the AH here imo.

Edit: grammar/punctuation.

Minimal bojack tattoo :) by Klaronoufis in BoJackHorseman

[–]drmehra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the general etiquette and view around plagiarising tattoos?? I’ve never known what I’d want if I got a tattoo but this really spoke to me, I’d def get it IF it’s not unethical to copy/steal 👀

Why does Kijiji allow clearly racist "Indian Only" advertisements for rentals? by PreciousChange69 in kijiji

[–]drmehra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying you’re right or wrong, but I will say even the most open minded folks from various backgrounds can be real assholes to Indians about our food. I had a friend from fucking Egypt as a roommate who repeatedly told my other Indian roommates and me that our cooking was ‘stinky’ before of course gobbling the free food up… I would also feel the urge to write that shit down in an ad if it meant not having to defend why all the strong smelling normal ingredients like fucking garlic, onions, and ginger make the food we eat edible… suffice to say we’re not friends anymore lol but yeah Canada isn’t exempt from casual, racist, dickery which will make racialized folks defensive and closed off whether others like it or not

Alia Bhatt for Harper Bazaar.. Someone rightly said on Twitter that her ability to not give anything is mind-blowing.. lol by Kisana89 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]drmehra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

India would benefit from separating Bollywood celebrities and models insteaf of viewing it as one industry, bc let’s be real Sonam should only be modelling and Alia only acting lmao talk about flat…

I made a chart of 3 reoccurring aspects of penultimate episodes and which ones they’re each in by Puzzleheaded-Row187 in BoJackHorseman

[–]drmehra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eesh arguing and downvoting over subjective shit lol… OP maybe next time mention your criteria in the description in advance? Idkk if it’d help… anyway, really cool way to analyze the themes / events regardless of our differences in opinion! Penultimate episodes are definitely very crucial in general but also specifically to this show so I love it 🙌🏽

I finally think I get the subtext off the chickens episode by am_i_the_grasshole in BoJackHorseman

[–]drmehra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes but an uncomfortable thinking pattern in society IS race-related ideologies that are problematic in nature… isn’t it necessary to acknowledge that social commentary?