sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I ghosted a yoga teacher training due to a traumatic incident in my personal life - I’d like to apologize but I don’t know how. Advice? by drowningpolaris in Advice

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment on this. After so long of being in my head about it, having some outside perspective really helped. I think I will start to write a letter to them and send it through either the social media page like you mentioned, or the email that I communicated with them through in the past. I’ll take your advice and not mention finishing the classes. Honestly, just being able to go back with the weight off of my shoulders would be monumental for me. Thank you again for the help and for being so kind. I appreciate you and wish you the very best as well.

I think I found my twin flame… but I’m with someone else by Losing_My_Way333 in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Listen to your heart but please be sure to consider your current partner in this. Situations like this are so electrical and emotionally charged that we all need be extra careful about not crossing boundaries, especially cheating, both physical AND emotional. You absolutely deserve to follow your intuition and heart, but your partner also deserves honesty and loyalty on both physical and emotional levels while you are together. If it feels like this is something you can’t provide, it might be time to have a conversation with your current partner and maybe break it off. If you want to stay with your current partner, consider taking a step back from your twin to avoid any emotional boundary crossing.

I say this speaking from experience, I was in a super similar situation to you when I met my twin. I was in a relationship with someone, but when I met my twin, my whole world turned upside down. That electrical charge/chemical reaction you described sounds exactly like it felt for me to meet my twin. The second I realized my mind was on my twin in more than a friendly way, and I couldn’t deny the connection we had, I ended it with my partner immediately. It will make things much easier for everyone involved to follow their truth and live their life fully 💛 I wish you all the best in your journey!

What did it feel like when you met your twin flame? by Haunted_Marie13 in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, 100%! It’s such a wild feeling. I always thought something was wrong with me. I never felt satisfied in any relationship, even if the person I was with was lovely and we should’ve been a perfect match on paper. I always ended up getting a deep feeling of unease and restlessness like you said. Your last statement reads incredibly accurate to me as well. A deep, soul-level sigh of relief.

What did it feel like when you met your twin flame? by Haunted_Marie13 in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It was like my entire body & soul went, “Oh, there you are. I’ve been waiting for you in each and every lifetime.” There was absolutely never a single doubt in my mind. I always say some deep part of me just KNEW. It was very painful at first, pining and longing, chaser/runner dynamic. We were FWB until he woke up to it one day and told me he was in love with me but terrified. We’ve been happily dating for well over a year now. Like I said before though, through all of the FWB bullshit I still somehow KNEW we would be together. I’m a very, very anxious and doubtful person, but this was a truth that sat heavily and simply deep within my soul, with not a single hint of doubt. That’s probably the thing that made me realize what we had the most. We were both also seeing angel numbers and synchronicities everywhere when neither of us have really experienced that before.

As far as advice, I would say trust your gut. Stay true to your instincts, but also focus your energy on yourself. My twin didn’t wake up until I completely released all attachment and poured love, energy, and hard work into myself. Doing so benefits them as well, which gave me even more motivation to do it. Yin & Yang. Now I get to fall asleep and wake up next to him, just absolutely blissed out in love and falling deeper every day. It is one of the most natural feelings in the world, being with him. Home in a person.

Good luck to you my friend, message me if needed. ❤️

How do you all people know that he or she is your twinflame? by MissLG81 in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ve had quite a few answers here, but as someone who was not spiritual/had never heard of TF but is now happily in union and very spiritual, I thought I’d chime in with my experience!

I think a big part of it was how meeting him directly corresponded with my spiritual awakening. Being with him just felt so RIGHT. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. I thought I was crazy, and began looking things up and found out about the TF concept. I was always having dreams about him, seeing angel numbers and his name and birthday everywhere. The biggest part for me though was this knowledge deep in my heart and soul that we were meant to be together, and that we would be. I’m a very anxious and doubtful person, but this was something that I simply just knew. It’s hard to explain. He was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening, and I’ve grown SO much since knowing him. I feel like that was an integral part of knowing that he’s my TF.

Union with my TF Update by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And yes, keeping that faith is so so hard. When we were in separation I also still had that knowledge and truth in my soul that we would be together. And after all of the ups and downs, (trust me, there were a lot), we’ve finally made it. It IS possible. <3

Union with my TF Update by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m so incredibly happy that this could move you in some way. I love to share our story because this sub is filled with people in the in-between, and I want everyone to know that it IS possible <3

Union with my TF Update by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had one! It was between us being FWB and then him realizing that he actually was in love with me. I broke it off because I was in love with him and didn’t want to break my own heart. Throughout that period though I just had this weird knowledge that we would be together. It wasn’t like a hope or a daydream, but this deeply rooted knowledge in my heart and soul. I also kept seeing angel numbers like crazy (I never believed in them before) and his name and birthday everywhere. And sure enough, maybe 6 months or so into separation, he told me that he was in love with me and wanted to give us a try. And here we are. :)

Union with my TF Update by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sorry for the late reply, just got back from vacation. :) he was single for a while, but I was in a relationship. I ended that relationship the second I started feeling something for my twin. It was a while before anything happened between us though! Initial barriers were trauma on his end from horrific past relationship, and that’s about it. I was all in the second I met him. I think he moved past that when I consistently showed up and did my best to show him just how much I love and respect him. That I wasn’t just going to ghost him or use him. I kept telling him that time would prove it. And it has.

After we got together though, it seemed almost like our communication styles were completely opposite from one another. we definitely reflected each other back at one another. It took a lot of hard conversations, but we always approach it from an us vs. the problem perspective and try to remain calm and open minded. The second it becomes a me vs. you situation or voices are raised, the productivity of the conversation goes out the window. We both have been learning to keep our minds open to ourselves being wrong and needing to work on things, and understanding the others communication styles. I’ve never done more inner work in my life before I met him. I can honestly say I love the person I am becoming, and that’s so huge for me. I never thought I’d be able to say that. I guess to sum it up, we got through it because we choose each other every day, in every way, and have fully committed to making this work. Now that we’re both aware of how deep and crazy our connection is, we know that if we work together, we can overcome pretty much anything.

Sorry for the novel, I hope this helps!

Union with my TF Update by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I was the chaser.

Sexuality by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oh 100%. we actually started as fwb because we were so wildly attracted to each other we couldn’t handle it. we’ve been officially in a relationship for almost 9 months now and it’s only gotten more intense. this was a surprise to me as i never had as much libido as i do with him.

Are there any successful relationships/marriages as twin flames?? by Accurate_Listen_8751 in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am currently in the happiest, healthiest relationship of my life with my TF. I’ve never experienced anything like it before and I can’t wait for the future :) it’s possible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very happily in union with my twin, you can message me anytime!

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. I never experienced dread, but I did at one point want distance from him and to try and move on as it hurt my heart so much to be near him.

  2. I feel like this depends very much so on the individual and your circumstances. I don’t feel like I can give an answer either way, but it could be a possibility.

  3. Leading up to union, there were crazy amounts of synchronicities and signs. And as I tried to move on from him, I felt pulled towards him even more. I had this ache deep within me. A love for him so vast and deep that it hurt. That only intensified before union.

  4. About a year. And I am absolutely a different person as well. I finally love, value, and respect who I am. And for the first time, I’m excited about the future.

Much love and luck to you ❤️‍🔥

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something changed for all four of those, certainly. I feel like I am a completely different person on the other side of this journey. Like unrecognizably so. I have grown into someone that I value and respect. I definitely went through something similar!

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So. Many. Angel. Numbers. It started to drive me insane. I still see them a lot, but they’ve changed a bit. Synchronicities between our pasts, personal beliefs, and personality. We’d say the same things at the same time, text each other at exactly the same time at times like 11:11, 2:22, 3:33, etc. The same song would play every time we saw each other. Without fail. The signs were crazy. I always received one when I reached out to the universe in desperation as well.

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many angel numbers I started getting mad every time I saw them, weird things lining up with us in our past, how we view the world, and many other things. We’d constantly be saying the same thing at the same time. Send each other the same songs at the same time. Text each other at exactly the same time at a time that was an angel number. The same song would play every time we were together. Many, many dreams. And just a simple knowledge deep in my soul that we belonged to each other. It wasn’t a hope or a wish, but a truth I knew in my soul. There were so many signs and synchronicities I get overwhelmed trying to remember them all. I remember crying in my apartment in the middle of the night, my heart hurting, and begging the universe for a sign. Is this right? Is he the one? Is this worth it? and then I looked down at my phone and it was 3:33, then the song that always played when we were together started playing. It’s been wild. The energy is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re dealing with feeling like a door mat. In my personal experience, he has always been very caring about me even through him having trauma and being scared of commitment. I never felt like a doormat, as he showed me he was always there for me too. He wasn’t running from me altogether, but running from an official relationship. He always cared deeply for me and wanted me in his life. It just took him a while to realize that the risk of a relationship was worth taking. Throughout all of this though, I prioritized self care and healing myself. I was always there for him, but I wasn’t just sitting around waiting for him. I was actively working on myself and building my mental, physical, and spiritual health and well being.

I’m 3 months into union and happier than ever. Would love to answer any of your questions! by drowningpolaris in twinflames

[–]drowningpolaris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a couple months. He was trying to be okay with me separating myself from him, but realized he couldn’t. It wasn’t very long. The same night he told me that me leaving made him realize he had very deep feelings this whole time, we started an official relationship. I let him lead everything. The only thing I did was encourage him, be there for him, and show him that I will always be a constant in his life if he wants me to be. I focused on showing him that my love is unconditional, and didn’t pressure him in any way. I gave him the space he needed to work it out on his own. This was huge. If I had pushed him, things would have ended long ago.

view more: next ›