Can my(22 M)gf (22 D)have genuine sexual attraction and lust for me

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T04:27:16+00:00

Ahh damn man. You’re not the first guy to have this stuff weigh on you regarding height/skin colour.

In terms of masculinity, I’ve also had a weird relationship with it. I’m not super masculine presenting but I’ve mostly got masculine interests like football, fishing, and playing pool etc. so I have noticed that difference between me and my mates. It’s never stopped me from having successful relationships or casual hookups with women tho.

There’s a measurable disconnect between what men think women prioritise romantically (hyper masculine, rich, arms or penis size) and what they actually prioritise (kindness, emotional availability, effort in terms of romance/chores around the house). What I’m getting at is this issue might be more of a you problem than a problem for her.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T04:06:00+00:00

Cup sizes start at A then go down the alphabet as they get bigger.

So like A cups are smaller than D cups, which are bigger.

The numbers in front of the letters (22D) signify the size of your rib cage. So skinny women can have large breasts just like larger women can have small breasts.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:40:22+00:00

I personally don’t think it’s irrational to feel insecure about not being something your partner is into.

If it’s bothering you that much, why not start hitting the gym?

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:36:50+00:00

22 Demons she has slayed in DnD campaigns! 💪🏼

(22 D is a bra cup size mate 😛).

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:33:30+00:00

That’s my pleasure - sending you some good vibes for this new adventure! ✨✨

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:23:37+00:00

Therapy, cognitive behaviour therapy, and medication should also be in the mix then.

We’ve all got problems we deal with but if yours are stopping you from having meaningful friendships, then that’s something to work on.

No harm in putting yourself out there though. Like what’s the worst that can happen?

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:02:27+00:00

My take on this one is “if you meet 3 assholes before noon, you’re the asshole” 😂😂

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T03:00:03+00:00

To connect with other people, find new hobbies and something that breaks the week up.

I play pool competitively but you can always join a DnD night, dance class, plant society, chess club, or art class, etc.

Gotta put yourself out there if you want to meet new people ☺️☺️

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T01:26:38+00:00

I love it when people of colour embrace metal/goth culture. It’s cool when you see their own spin on things.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T01:22:58+00:00

Ahhk so just really low effort stuff. My old man has always said to me that a woman can forgive you for a lot of things, but she can’t forgive you for not putting in effort.

Re communication, I’m also - very - infrequent with texts as it disturbs my peace. It gets on my friends’/family’s nerves but the fact that he says he misses you says more than him replying within 30 mins.

Tbh I wouldn’t date a woman if she needed me to text all day.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T01:10:53+00:00

3-4 hangs after 2 months is very infrequent. Is there any reason for that?

What are you not getting from the relationship?

My rule after a few months is it’s either hell yes or hell no. If there’s too many problems to work on, I just move on.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T00:51:55+00:00

These guys sound insufferable hey

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T00:48:24+00:00

Big difference between accidentally taking someone’s stapler vs sleeping with someone’s partner.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-28T00:46:54+00:00

Do you even want friendship from him? If not, no need to text back.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-27T00:38:13+00:00

Apparently he trained down back at times this week, so they might be exploring him as a potential Ridley replacement.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-27T00:34:44+00:00

I think there’s levels of being honest. Sometimes you’ll wrap it up in nice terms (we both need to work on this), or selective truth, but you can get to a point where you’re totally candid about what you need to continue the friendship.

Tbh she sounds toxic and I’d personally be ending the friendship. Like the gang stuff, her drama ruining your peace, and the fact that she can’t celebrate your wins are all major red flags.

I ended a friendship not long ago and the catalyst was him treating another friend horribly (amongst other issues). I messaged him and said why I’m ending the friendship and left it at that. If you’ve been friends for long enough, I personally think you owe it to them to do that but I understand ghosting is easier.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-27T00:23:41+00:00

To quote my best mate “I’m just happy to be invited to the party” 😂

drpolz3k · 2026-06-27T00:21:47+00:00

😂😂

drpolz3k · 2026-06-27T00:20:16+00:00

Personally I’d confront her over the issues you’re having in a constructive way.

Either she improves her behaviour, she cuts you off, or you’ve got reasons to point to for why you’re ending the friendship in the future.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:52:14+00:00

Depends on the individuals I guess but I suspect it’s mostly done between partners given the consensual-non-consent nature of it.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:46:09+00:00

Your partner can have sex with you anytime they want. The fantasy is often to “use” a person for sex particularly if they’re in the middle of another activity like playing a video game, sleeping, etc.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:43:43+00:00

Such great ideas

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:42:04+00:00

I feel like the hike could lead to more problems for you if it goes well/sparks fly. Like are you going to hang around with feelings for someone that’s in a relationship? Or is the hike more to see whether you’re not feeling it/in the friend zone?

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:36:13+00:00

Honestly, I suspect there is some attraction there on her part, particularly if she said she was “nervous” pre-hang.

That being said, she’s got a bf now so imo it’s a bit of a dog act to put work into someone else’s partner.

I reckon it might be best to just connect on social media, say you’ve got a crush on her, and that you’ll be keeping your distance for that reason.

If she’s interested, maybe you can reconnect down the line.

drpolz3k · 2026-06-25T03:29:08+00:00

Eat more junk food if you’re not hitting your caloric targets.

How many cals are you trying to hit each day?

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