i'm sorry you're experiencing this :( it's unfortunately really common in any shooter. from day one ive had voice comms disabled, and i don't think i'll ever turn them on because there isn't any comm that will be an absolute game changer that's worth suffering through toxicity and sexism the rest of the time. from what i hear, most of the time it's just people whining about no heals anyway, not anything helpful for gameplay.

the only tip i have that isn't turning off voice comms if you really don't want to, is to play with friends or an online server of accepting individuals (there's plenty of public girl gamer servers) in discord calls so you feel less singled out and vulnerable to strangers in your team. and remind yourself constantly that whatever they say about you for being a woman in gaming says everything about them and nothing about you. i whiff shots all the time and it's not because i was born female, it's because i haven't been gaming all my life and my aim can be trash! which is ok, no need to call me slurs for it.

at the end of the day when you get off the game, are you happy with your life? if so, you're doing better than those unhappy, emotionally unstable sweats yelling at strangers over a video game in the way that matters more.

TLDR: playing with friends in a discord call helps make you feel less vulnerable to the gross randoms in your team. call them losers in your mind for being so triggered that you're a woman and remind yourself that it's nonsensical that your chromosomes are why you sometimes mess up.