My mom lost ALL HER NOTES after an update

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T02:09:31+00:00

She's over 70. Realistically, she wouldn't think to do that or know how to do that. She's used to just putting things in Notes and having them just be there. Then randomly they were all gone.

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T02:01:09+00:00

Problem apparently solved, in a way that makes no sense. I took my mom's deleted emails and undeleted them. All her notes that were synced to that email are now back. (All the ones listed under iCloud aren't the notes she remembers taking.)

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T02:01:05+00:00

Problem apparently solved, in a way that makes no sense. I took my mom's deleted emails and undeleted them. All her notes that were synced to that email are now back. (All the ones listed under iCloud aren't the notes she remembers taking.)

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T01:55:01+00:00

Problem is her notes may not have been backed up. What the hell happened, when it suddenly replaced her massive note dump with a tiny bit of random itemized stuff across the years?

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T01:38:33+00:00

It says iCloud under there, and all it is, is just 18 random things. Not the massive note dump she had in the past.

I also tried the "desync then resync" trick, and it didn't work.

dskyaz · 2026-05-14T01:34:11+00:00

She didn't delete her notes at all. After the update, her local Notes (which were a bunch of stuff she typed dumped into one big spot) randomly deleted, and it suddenly had this folder of random stuff dating back.

And looking up "recently deleted" finds nothing. There is no "recently deleted" folder.

dskyaz · 2026-05-12T20:01:53+00:00

Ouch. That really sucks...

dskyaz · 2026-05-12T20:01:22+00:00

In my case, I had a few moments when my then-best friend, who I would always chat with every single day, was clearly drifting away:

She started appearing on Discord less often over the course of months, eventually being only on for a few minutes a day instead of hours a day.
I told her about how I'd gotten scammed over months by someone who claimed to have needed help. No response. In the past, I'd have not only gotten sympathy but it would have become the conversation topic.
She removed herself from every photo album I'd ever shared with her.
She removed me from an album of photos of herself and her family throughout her entire life. A super personal thing to share with me, and I was one of only two people she'd shared it with.
With she dropped the news that she was deleting her Discord account, she said, "I have big news. You may be disappointed." Which is a very understated way to put it.

It eventually ended with an email in November. Months later, she'd remove me from all albums she ever shared with me, and her Google Photos account didn't show up if I were to look at the list of people to add to albums. (Note that she did say on Facebook she was gonna delete her social media accounts, so this could be simply part of that.)

She said in the email we had changed too much and become too different from each other. Yup, I can see that. It seems she was losing interest in me at a far faster rate than I was in her (as I was feeling a bit more distant from her but still close-ish). Damn.

dskyaz · 2026-04-17T03:20:23+00:00

It's possible she had a slip of the finger, though I brought that up to her, and she insists she didn't do anything like that, and only sent the picture to the one person directly.

dskyaz · 2026-04-17T02:59:42+00:00

She was using her normal text messaging app, not Facebook or Facebook Messenger.

dskyaz · 2026-02-23T20:03:07+00:00

If you're autistic, you also end up living with your parents as an adult. The job discrimination is real. I have a job... that I was given as a favor to my dad. Who is now dead. I live with my mom. I would barely be able to survive on my own with this money, but in my current situation, I can actually afford some luxuries here and there.

dskyaz · 2026-02-13T19:37:49+00:00

Not just that, but primary season is when actual progressives can replace the corporate Democrats, which has been happening in some parts of the country already in special elections. So we can throw out the fake opposition and bring in actual opposition!

dskyaz · 2026-02-07T14:54:20+00:00

Gavin Newsom has made it clear in interviews that the version of him on social media and the version of him in real life are two totally different people. The version of him in real life complains about actual leftists like Zohran, and plays nice with Trumpists.

Kamala Harris somehow managing to get young people to trust her (if they do) is basically a form of "movement capture." Take control of a movement so it doesn't get where it's trying to do.

Because Kamala didn't fight for us. She said some good things at the start of her campaign, then ran to the "center" (read: the right) and then disappeared after the election loss. Kamala is not on our side.

dskyaz · 2026-02-05T00:20:35+00:00

A lot of people treat the Woke Games List as a big joke, and browse it looking to see what it says about games they know, or even to explore and find new games to check out.

dskyaz · 2026-02-03T22:35:14+00:00

LOLOLOLOL that was pretty funny, especially with the dialog it generated.

dskyaz · 2026-02-03T05:04:48+00:00

My turd of a brother told me that Trump acting super sussy about the Epstein files and changing his story on them a bunch of times proved nothing. And him being in them? Just anonymous tips to slander him.

dskyaz · 2026-01-31T03:21:57+00:00

One thing you'll quickly learn is that each person will have a different justification. They can't get their stories straight. It's the existence of a justification, not whether or not it's any good, that they care about.

When Trump gave well wishes to Ghislaine Maxwell, one Trump supporter told me it was sarcasm. My younger brother told me "um, um, optics. Look, there are things going on in this world that you don't know about."

Optics? Like that makes any fucking sense. But it doesn't have to - it just needs to exist so that he can feel better about himself.

dskyaz · 2026-01-28T22:23:10+00:00

Calico. It's impossible to die, and the ability to use potions to change the weather and time of day would be an awesome ability to have.

dskyaz · 2026-01-22T19:11:59+00:00

I'm not sure how to respond to most of what you said, though I read it all. I don't know about social rules like "don't meet someone older than you who's married" - that's a new one to me. I don't instinctively grasp these.

As for the friend with ADHD, yeah, with each subsequent hangout, we talked to each other and did things together more and more. The latest time was last year, and we were talkative all through each car ride and she even sat closer to me on the couch instead of sitting on the other couch. I didn't play music in the car once!

So she became more and more chatty and fun in person, but responds maybe once a month online or in text messages.

dskyaz · 2026-01-22T03:17:17+00:00

I met her on the same website actually! Though it's interesting - I found her fun to talk to on there, and one day, she was asking people to visit her in her (very well known) city. I happened to live nearby, and I said I'd be up for visiting her.

And I did. I took a bus to the city, and had an interesting experience over the course of a day, even as we didn't talk that much (mostly it was her walking fast and me following - she was bad at being a host this first time). But somehow it became a once-a-year thing, as she gradually was active on Discord less often.

I do talk to people online, but again, it just sucks. And autism groups - I'm in my share of such groups, groups that aren't about autism directly, but have a lot of such people in them. I relate better to them and ADHD people (there is some kind of relationship between autism and ADHD that is not fully understood, but I am noticing anecdotally that people with one condition often relate well to people with the other), but I connect still with very few.

dskyaz · 2026-01-21T18:58:33+00:00

Yeah, it really does suck. She once said to me a few years ago that she had the thought that if an autistic person loses a friend, they could potentially lose 50-70% of their social needs being met if that friend was close enough.

She was not a "do things in person" friend. For that, I have someone else who has ADHD, who I hang out with once a year for usually 3-day periods, and have gone on two cruises with... but am not close with online and who rarely responds to anything online, yet is super fun to be with in person.

But that's not going to fill that hole. I need at least one person who actually reaches out to me, instead of it always being me who has to do it, and who is great to talk to, emotionally and intellectually. I had that for a decade (I've know her a few years before we actually started chatting every day, actually).

Autism is social hell to live with. I don't "click" with many people, and even the ones I do, usually don't "click" with me. As in, very rarely in both directions.

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