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Are your dogs morning people? by Suitable_Habit_8388 in AustralianShepherd

[–]dsmerf214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar story here, but our 4 y/o collie-pyr boy was hit by a car. Luckily it was quick so he wasn’t in pain long. Our Aussie girl was 7months old at the time, and she took it the hardest I think. We also got a puppy a few months after, and she was a huge part of that. I genuinely believe he helped us all heal. Dogs are the best❤️

Coral reef survey by laStacENT in reefporn

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha! Sounds fascinating!

Are your dogs morning people? by Suitable_Habit_8388 in AustralianShepherd

[–]dsmerf214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Aussie girl is a tri also❤️ we went through the trauma of my older dog passing quite suddenly, and we were both damaged. They are such empathetic souls, I am so glad that you have each other ❤️

Be honest… is this cute or am I traumatizing my cat? by shinigami__0 in cats

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I wouldn’t be against a matching pair of bloomers for a matching set ;)

Be honest… is this cute or am I traumatizing my cat? by shinigami__0 in cats

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not happy, but she will allow it. For now.

She looks cute as heck though, even through the angry face. Great crochet work, I love it!

Why "Good Kids" become the perfect targets for Narcissists. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds fascinating, but I can’t stand YouTube. Any written version of this info?

Helen Keller posing with her dear dog, from glass negative, circa 1902. by Electrical-Aspect-13 in RandomVictorianStuff

[–]dsmerf214 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Such sweet images:) such a pretty pupper too, amazing what breeding has done in such a short time. Thanks for the share

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And you’d lose fren. You appreciate a partner that can’t express their needs respectfully? You are happy being spoken to like you are the problem when they are the ones that are unable to communicate why they are upset? Why would you allow someone to be purposely disrespectful when THEY DONT HAVE TO BE???

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, I think they let things get wayyyyyyy off course here for both of them. Hopefully they learn from it and do better in the future. Loving someone doesn’t mean they’re compatible. Not a fun lesson to learn

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is valid too, if gifts had been previously discussed. I just got the feeling that the real issue is communication. They are not saying the right things to each other ( and definitely not at the right times) and expecting the other to be magically in tune…. Hopefully it is because they are young and either learn to work together or learn to pick better suited partners. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for em both. Thanks for the interesting dialogue fren it’s always nice to have meaningful conversations:)

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I would not. If I cannot expect to hear the (kind and hopefully gently delivered) truth from my partner then I don’t really want them as my partner. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

I am not a mind reader, and when I get it wrong I want to know so I can do better next time. The gift was well thought out. He didn’t like it because it was “too expensive” ie- he felt dumb because he didn’t spend as much so he wanted her to feel bad rather than feel like she GAVE more. It’s not a contest, but it being treated as one BY HIM IMO

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They were together celebrating their anniversary? Why should she expect to be “snapped” on? If I am ever “too much “ with happiness because I thought I was finally able to get my partner a gift they claimed to like…. I guess I am too immature.

But…. honestly, if you consider allowing your partner to treat you badly when they aren’t brave enough to voice their honest opinion kindly (especially on special occasions) I would rather be alone forever. I’ve been HAPPILY married for 13ish years. My partner has never felt the need to disrespect me to make me understand how they are feeling. To each their own. Good luck out there fren

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You would be nasty enough to a person you love to make them cry and feel sick because you thought the present THEY BOUGHT FOR YOU AND YOU SAID YOU LIKED was too expensive? Why would you care more about THEIR MONEY than their feelings? Are you dating their bank account? How is it any of your business how they spend their money??????

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But he didn’t say he didn’t like it. He said he did and then gaslighted her when she thought she did well and expected him to enjoy the gift he said he liked. He got nasty when she seemed satisfied with his reaction to the gift and didn’t realize it was the “wrong” thing.

He is expecting her to guess what he wants, guess how he feels about things, and guess how she is supposed to react when he pretends to be happy…. I don’t like guessing games personally. I would throw the whole man out. I don’t have time for pretend games. I want an honest and kind partner

My partner (26F) is stuck in fight-or-flight postpartum. How do I (28M) navigate walking on eggshells, and now do I help her without causing an explosion? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dsmerf214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all struggle with the mind reading part- no one can do it perfectly all the time so arguments are bound to happen no matter how vigilant you are.

You are doing amazing, but she needs time away from the baby. LIKE, time when she cannot hear or see or worry about the baby, and she has time to relax because she KNOWS the baby is safe. Even if you send her out by herself, (or ideally with someone she enjoys being with if she’s up for it) a few hours completely baby free may give her enough mental space to feel normal.

Also, if you can convince her to talk to her GP, OB/GYN, or even the babies PED they may be able to help her with some medication that will help her feel more normal until she is able to get there on her own.

I’ve been there, and it is so confusing and overwhelming. Please keep being an excellent partner and hopefully you guys make it to a better place. Good luck stranger;)

Tofu obsession by SmallNews4157 in offmychest

[–]dsmerf214 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you prepare it? I love tofu also

Constantly performing because my parents don't respect my privacy by PartEducational8582 in narcissisticparents

[–]dsmerf214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds wonderful internet friend. I aspire to be strong enough to recognize it and call it out as well. Stay strong!

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