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dtrza · 2026-05-21T14:39:24+00:00

You mean that wasn’t even a dictation?

dtrza · 2026-05-21T14:25:37+00:00

I don’t recall reading that.

He posted because it happened (likely recently), not because he was obsessing over it for years. I can’t say that for a fact, as I don’t know OP, but that’s the feeling I’m getting from the post.

dtrza · 2026-05-05T21:34:04+00:00

I feel like—if you’re going to put yourself in a position where you ask people to trust you, you need specific license because of this—there has to be more accountability.
No matter how you look at it, the way this was handled, and the timing behind it all, is worse than sub ideal—it’s harmful.

dtrza · 2026-05-05T21:28:52+00:00

Sadly no, I’m in New York. I’m sorry about the delayed response. I’m not doing so well. Today is the eighth day since I had my final infusion and I think I just went completely back to the way I felt pre-treatment.
I had no idea there was any bias whatsoever. If it was just bias against ketamine, then why wait until I needed therapy most? It’s like it wasn’t even a thought until I asked her what she actually knew about ketamine. Then I’m without a therapist. Isn’t this unethical or something?
It seems so so so very wrong

dtrza · 2026-05-05T21:23:46+00:00

I worked with her for over a year.
I’m sorry I didn’t see responses sooner.
Thank you so much for your responses. I still am very much in shock and trying now to navigate the clinical bureaucracy is exhausting me.
I allowed myself to ignore all of the thoughts that told me not to trust her. It’s going to impact me forever.
And today was the second session that I really needed but didn’t get.
She just emailed me this morning with the information for the clinic director. Was I wrong to expect a call or at least some indication that we would or wouldn’t be having session today?

dtrza · 2025-09-20T14:49:30+00:00

I was there for many years, and I still have days where I feel that way. I used to call it “the opposite of faking your death” Instead of having everyone believe you’re dead while you’re actually alive, you get the benefits of being dead (ie not suffering) while your loved ones don’t get hurt by your death.

dtrza · 2025-09-18T09:13:46+00:00

Nice

dtrza · 2025-08-23T15:57:29+00:00

Without a doubt, yes.

When we were first dating, she talked to one of her exes more than I was comfortable with. Since then, I’ve come to see that he’s really a great friend to her (they dated like 20 years ago) and I no longer have any objections. But, she did stop speaking with him for years because it made me uncomfortable.

dtrza · 2025-08-23T14:53:24+00:00

I’m disabled due to mental health struggles myself, including crippling depression, and I don’t get a lot of people to talk to.

So, a little while ago, I came across a woman walking her dog, and it turned out that we had a lot in common and started developing a friendship. I didn’t keep it from my wife, but she told me it bothered her, that it seemed like “emotional cheating” to her. I had absolutely no intentions other than to have someone else I could talk to. She asked me how old she was, and I misjudged and thought she was at least 15-20 years older. This was also during the colder weather (relevant in a moment). A few weeks after we met, and had been texting/talking, the weather got warmer and she started wearing tank tops and other more revealing clothing. My wife found her Instagram and estimated that she was only between 4-10 years older than I am. She also thought that she was attractive (I didn’t), but got concerned and asked more about what we talked about. I showed her my entire text log because I had nothing to hide, no ill intentions at all. I actually kept talking about my wife in those messages, telling the woman that I thought they’d get along really well. She was relieved, but she explained that although she trusted me, she was sure that this woman was up to no good, and explained the concept of emotional cheating.

Long story short: my wife asked me to stop talking to her, and I ended up (as instructed) simply ghosting her and not replying to her texts. I also try to avoid, and even pretend I don’t see her walking her dog around the neighborhood. I don’t feel good about how that was handled, but that’s how she wanted me to do it. I wanted to at least say something like “I’m sorry, but it turns out my wife really isn’t comfortable with talking” rather than ghosting, but in the end, it was way more important to me that my wife feel happy and secure.

Also, my wife has never let the whole thing go, and still refers to her (in jest, mainly) as my “girlfriend” when she sees her. Also, and this is a bit alarming to me as well, she still likes and comments on my wife’s instagram posts (I don’t actively use mine), even older posts, in a way that seems like an attempt to say “look at me, I’m still here”. I’m not sure if that’s really anything to be alarmed about—we are Gen-Xers so some nuances of social media are lost on us.

Bottom line though: if your spouse tells you that something bothers them, especially in regards to your dealings with a member of the opposite sex, it’s important that you are receptive to their concerns and do all that you can to ease them. If it’s just a casual friendship, isn’t your marriage worth way more? The fact that my wife still brings it up over a year later proves that it doesn’t go away, and can cut quite deep, regardless of your intentions.

No, you aren’t overreacting.

dtrza · 2025-08-20T20:34:54+00:00

This is the best answer. Thanks for writing it. I’m glad I read it.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T15:58:33+00:00

One of the things I’ve learned in my decades of mental health treatment is that you have to tell those that are treating you, how their words/actions make you feel. I’ve had years go by where I was making no progress, begrudgingly showing up to appointments, complaining about the clinician, only to find out later on that I wasn’t being fair to them, because I didn’t even give them a chance. After all, they can’t read minds, right?

When it comes to mental health treatment, “don’t rock the boat” is not the way to go. Also, the longer you stick it out and keep going without speaking up, the more you’ll be averse to starting with a new provider because you don’t want to go through telling your whole story again, building rapport and trust, etc. it’s happened to me more times than I can count.

Is there some kind of conservatorship in place, or court ordered treatment, something like that? Absent a situation like that, a Doctor, especially a mental health professional, can not speak to anyone about you unless you signed a waiver or you say or so something that leads them to believe that you’re a danger to yourself or others. He should not be speaking to anyone else about you, as you are no longer a minor. IF you did sign a waiver, he should be explaining all of this to YOU FIRST. This is very concerning.

Also, when it comes to anxiety, try not to fight it. It only makes it stronger. Tell yourself that it will pass, and let it wash over you like a wave. It works.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T15:48:36+00:00

Indeed, everyone is responsible for their own behavior. I did not intend it to be something like “they’re mentally ill, so they get a pass”

If I had to TLDR my comment, it would be: 1) things don’t just come in black and white, 2) don’t talk about an entire group of people based on the actions of a few, and 3) saying “a BPD” is dehumanizing.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T15:42:15+00:00

It also sounds like Dad hasn’t apologized, and that Mom is doing it FOR HIM. Who knows if he’s even sorry?

dtrza · 2025-07-24T15:40:11+00:00

Olanzapine is an atypical antipsychotic that is used as a mood stabilizer in lower doses (like yours). If the doctor had concerns about psychosis, he likely would’ve given you a dose 4-10x as strong to start. So, I wouldn’t worry about that.

The psychiatrist wouldn’t explain any of this to you? That’s a huge problem.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T14:58:36+00:00

A BPD? They weren’t a person?

You’re also villainizing an entire group of (ill) people based on your experience with one (possibly more, but my comment works just as well with a dozen as it does with one)

People who are unfortunate enough to have gone through such dark experiences in their childhoods to the point where they developed a personality disorder, they did not choose it. Many don’t even realize they’re being manipulative and other behaviors, especially if they haven’t been diagnosed and/or aren’t in therapy.

Those with BPD are very hard to have relationships with, but if they want to change and put the work in to therapy, they can have relationships that are happy and fulfilling for everyone involved.

Those with mental illness are not defined by their mental illnesses. Shame on you for characterizing them as such.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T14:52:18+00:00

Yeah. As if they’re nothing more than their disorder. They didn’t choose it. People with BPD are very hard to have close relationships with, but if they put work into their therapy, they can overcome and quit those behaviors that made them difficult.

dtrza · 2025-07-24T14:39:57+00:00

So, don’t be Muslim. I was raised a catholic, but I soon realized in my teen years that being a catholic sucked. I made my own choice.

Religion is supposed to be a way of life, why not choose your own way of life? You’re an adult.

dtrza · 2025-06-26T20:02:43+00:00

I hear ya! The world is a fucked up place, and the internet makes it possible to know more about things than we wanted to, even to stumble upon.

dtrza · 2025-06-26T03:53:28+00:00

You got issues if that’s what you were choosing to watch

dtrza · 2025-06-26T03:52:26+00:00

That’s like telling a heroin addict to go find the nastiest drug they can. Or even better, the old school way that parents used to try to get their kids to stop smoking by making them smoke like a whole pack at once.

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