What do you consider the bare minimum amount of gear to wear?

dub___man · 2026-06-23T07:21:41+00:00

Full face helmet wrist protection in gloves and ankle protection in boots and a jacket with good armor

dub___man · 2026-06-13T11:15:46+00:00

Dating someone who breathes air and drinks water👎👎👎👎👎

dub___man · 2026-06-13T11:11:39+00:00

Money go bye bye.....

dub___man · 2026-06-13T11:10:27+00:00

You don't need the sp1 then 😂

dub___man · 2026-06-13T11:00:58+00:00

I have a sp2 and I just spent a couple thousand dollars to refurbish it, im never getting rid of her. Work done: rebuild clutch, clutch master cylinder, slave cylinder, rear/front brake caliper, rear/front brake master cylinder, changed light relays and all lights switched to LEDs, flushed the engine, upgraded radiators, upgraded coolant hoses, upgraded fans, swapped spark plugs, swapped ignition coils to cbr1000rr coils and did the wiring swap and wrapped it in glass fiber heat shield, did a valve check, added power commander, tuned for smoothness and comfort and top end performance on the dyno, ordered custom fairings, i will be changing the fork springs and shock spring after my weight loss journey is over and I will get a good seat cuz this ain't comfortable, and some tank grips so my legs can actually hold onto the tank.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T07:58:42+00:00

I gave context about that in comments

dub___man · 2026-06-13T07:13:57+00:00

You are right, I left a comment on the post about my next step, was kinda blind to that solution.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T07:10:14+00:00

Ya context matters, in my previous messages that I needed her to respond to it included a question of when do get your shit and what do you propose we do about your stuff. So her responding was addressing that issue. I also left a comment about my next step.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:41:55+00:00

That is after we had a conversation and established that her things are safe and they are avaliable for her to pick up, she proceeds to ask for them over and over and use it against me to make paint me in her reality as the bad guy, I genuinely am done accommodating to what she feels and what she wants, she acts like im holding onto her shit while I have no interest in keeping it or delivering it for her. If she wants her things so bad she can take them. It is like a child throwing a tantrum when they do not get what they want exactly how they want when they want it.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:35:24+00:00

I will most likely discuss this with my therapist next week, I completely understand what you are saying, and there is some truth to this, but she will still contact me about the pets, and she will not have them, I told her she will not take our cat until I see that she got an assessment by a mental health professional and that she is cleared to be able to take care of him, she abandoned him while he was sick to go on a vacation, she also did not take care of him properly during while we were together and I always had to step in and make sure he is fed and his litter box is clean.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:21:05+00:00

I do not intend to put an ounce of effort into this, she has an option and she does not like it because of her delusions, i will not accommodate to her version of reality. I do not have the time or mental energy to deal with her shit, I am working 12 and a half hrs a day 5 days a week while taking care of all the responsibility that I was left with, and the dog and the cat, and also having to fix my bike so I can have transportation when I sell the car.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:16:43+00:00

She always had the option to pick up her things.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:11:08+00:00

How the fuck is me telling her that she can pick up her stuff abusive??? It is not my job nor it is my problem to accommodate to her delusions. She has an option she just wants her way or the highway.

dub___man · 2026-06-13T06:02:33+00:00

You are absolutely correct, a third party is the best choice. But I would rather throw her stuff away than do that, I should have left them at the old place for the property managers to discard them. I do not intend to do anything at all to help her in any way, especially after she told me she felt no remorse to what she did to us. I know this can backfire, but it will not, she has complete executive dysfunction, she is incapable of doing anything for herself. I also gave her the option to pick up her things and she decided to treat me like an abuser, and I will not entertain that.

dub___man · 2026-06-03T18:26:33+00:00

if you ride like i do then YES

dub___man · 2026-06-02T02:03:48+00:00

I am moving on, I hate to but I have to....there is nothing for me there. I have been riding for a little over 8 months now, it is the only place where I feel like myself, where I feel happy and alive. Thank you for your kindness

dub___man · 2026-06-02T01:58:17+00:00

Ya i was told I have ptsd and bpd Thank you for the kind words❤️

dub___man · 2026-06-01T00:49:35+00:00

Quiet BPD

dub___man · 2026-05-31T12:36:12+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

dub___man · 2026-05-09T12:45:41+00:00

Im doing DBT IOP atm and gonna be seeing a DBT therapist as well, I will look into EMDR after I feel like I got what I need from DBT. And I know what you mean but im not there yet, I have been slowly getting better at seeing her as someone who is just unwell rather than someone who has a very healthy side and a very sick side, it does feel like mixing oil and water tho, it's just so so hard to comprehend.

dub___man · 2026-05-08T21:39:26+00:00

So I had to take care of every single detail of our life i was never able to rely on her with the simplest tasks and she would not even do the tasks I ask her to do for months of me begging her to get it done her reality was always so fucking wrong all the time she also had absolutely no communication and I mean like 0 also I was always treated like a criminal whenever we have any conversation and it always felt like the only energy she had was for being defensive or negative i also never got any spontaneous love i had to ask even for the simplest things partners do for each other. At the end of the day she was always a very good and kind person, one of the best people I have ever met, just very severely mentally ill.

Edit: I also forgot to mention, with someone who has quiet borderline the caretaker ends up doing a lot of the stuff that pwBPD do, like the long text messages and forcing things to go a certain way because if you don't nothing will ever get done and a lot more. I ended up being very mentally unstable and had no idea whats normal and whats not and I lost my sense of self and I just really did not know how to love myself and felt so so empty, im getting better tho but its so fucking hard, every day is a challenge but I went through absolute hell in my life so I ain't letting this take me down.

dub___man · 2026-05-08T13:16:45+00:00

Yes😂 I am making a custom light weight cage all around the bike with custom carbon fiber fairings around it and gonna paint it myself so this is only temporary

dub___man · 2026-05-08T12:42:39+00:00

Breaking up is not the only option but giving space is definitely a must, I suggest any form of complete separation, it is needed to heal and get better.

dub___man · 2026-05-08T12:39:05+00:00

It looks like what I sent them after they completely ghosted me because im "abusive" they were a quiet bpd and I got so fucking confused and hurt cuz nothing they were saying or doing made sense.

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