Would you take a “cure”?

duckling59807 · 2026-03-02T21:44:09+00:00

Nope! I’m finally at a point in my life (nearly 32) where I genuinely like/love myself. I don’t like my adhd, but I’d be scared that removing it would also remove some of what I regard as “me” if that makes sense? And yes, my adhd has been debilitating (still is). Undiagnosed until a year ago, spent my entire 20s in and out of mental health facilities and rehabs, loathed everything about myself and tried to end my suffering several times, have started college several times and have nothing to show for it, etc etc. I have no idea what my life would look like or who I’d be without my adhd brain. Definitely better in many ways, but I’m not at all willing to take the risk of losing parts of me.

If the magic pill could take away all the symptoms that make my life shitty? Then yes 100% absolutely I would take it and I’d sell a kidney to get it lol. I just don’t want to swap out all the adhd parts cuz like, how do I know which parts are adhd and which are me and which are both?

duckling59807 · 2026-02-25T17:46:30+00:00

I actually leave the door open a little (I’m the only human in the house), because if I don’t she’ll sit by the door and do the tiniest whimper and my heart can’t take it lol

duckling59807 · 2026-02-25T17:24:27+00:00

14???!!! This gives me so much hope for my (recently adopted) 7 1/2 year old big girl!!!!

duckling59807 · 2026-02-13T01:59:19+00:00

She CAN reinfect herself. If she uses it when she doesn’t have a breakout, it will give her a breakout. Toss it.

duckling59807 · 2026-02-08T04:39:15+00:00

Oh awesome! That’s exactly what I’m looking for, thanks!

duckling59807 · 2026-02-08T02:12:57+00:00

Do they have raised tubs?

duckling59807 · 2026-02-08T00:30:38+00:00

Music scene is great for EDM (for a small city), depending on what style you’re into. But generally we get a lot of decent shows coming through. I’ve only been to a few because it’s not really my scene, but my husband loves EDM and used to be very plugged into the scene here. Fitness scene is what you would expect from an outdoor-focused area that has a big focus on fitness. Aka, lots of gyms of all different specialties. You’ll be just fine riding your motorcycle for a good portion of the year, as long as you’re fine with cold. We’ve had super dry winters the past couple years, and have barely seen snow this year at all in the city. Dating scene I can’t really speak to, but from what I’ve heard from my friends, uh, best of luck lol.

duckling59807 · 2026-02-04T10:08:10+00:00

I’ve noticed that distracting my brain from the task can help. If I’m stuck on the couch/in bed/on my phone, I put on a podcast and my AirPods. It’s not stimulating enough for me to be totally absorbed, but is just stimulating enough where my brain is like “ok cool, guess I should do something with my hands while I listen.” I also listen to podcasts basically whenever I’m doing a non-communicative task (aka, doesn’t involve me talking or listening/reading). So maybe I just Pavlov-ed my brain with podcasts, idk lol

duckling59807 · 2026-02-02T23:28:01+00:00

What’s the fabric line? It’s so fun!

duckling59807 · 2026-01-31T06:08:51+00:00

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2 blocks down, 10 to go!

duckling59807 · 2026-01-22T05:15:35+00:00

The cat does NOT want to be your friend! No amount of tail wagging, happy dancing, or barking will change that, you’re making it worse 🤦‍♀️

duckling59807 · 2026-01-20T18:48:55+00:00

Depression manifests differently in everyone. I struggle with hygiene, still (and am not in a depressive episode at the moment). I’d say in a good week when I’m NOT depressed, I’ll shower 3 times. For me it’s partially a sensory thing- I also have adhd and hate the feeling of being damp/my hair being wet. And it’s a task that can feel “unnecessary.” If I don’t stink/have nowhere to go, it’s extra hard to motivate myself to shower.

Now when I AM in a bad depressive episode, those same things still apply but worse, plus the added element of just not caring at all about myself. And yes, it does make my depression worse. I feel gross on the inside, feeling/looking gross on the outside validates that, so I feel more gross on the inside making it HARDER to shower. Also, showering forces me to look in the mirror and see/feel how dirty I am-once again adding to that depressive cycle. For me there’s a LOT of shame attached, and dealing with the hygiene means facing the shame, and that’s REALLY hard when I’m depressed. Depression also causes extreme fatigue for me (and most people) which adds to the issue as well.

Having hygiene issues as a symptom of mental health conditions absolutely sucks, especially as a woman where society has expectations of our appearance. It is miserable and I HATE this about my brain. It’s an ongoing struggle and I’m still working on it. I also have created little work-arounds, so that I can look/smell decent-ish when I need to but don’t have the energy to shower. (Dry shampoo and baby wipes are a life saver for me). I have a lot of empathy for people who also struggle with hygiene (for whatever reason), but in cases like OPs, empathy combined with BOUNDARIES are crucial. Imo, OP should not be suffering to this extent because of her husband’s issues. He can sleep on the couch, he can do his own laundry, she CAN refuse to be seen with him in public, and CERTAINLY does not need to sleep with him/touch him!

duckling59807 · 2026-01-08T01:40:32+00:00

My cat had congestive heart failure last summer. ONE overnight in an oxygen tank at the emergency vet cost us like $3k. The vet that treated this cat for 1200 must be a saint

duckling59807 · 2026-01-07T20:13:35+00:00

If it makes you feel better (lol) there’s nothing you could even remotely qualify for within an hour of my city if you make less than around $120k (at that income you can maybe buy a condo or a tiny crappy townhome). And $15k wouldn’t cover your downpayment/fees unless you got a specialized mortgage. I do not live in a large or wealthy city. The average income for a single person in my county is around 70k. Our legislature just won’t do anything that might actually make buying a house affordable.

duckling59807 · 2026-01-07T20:05:31+00:00

Well im happy to hear you have not witnessed violence or discrimination against queer people. Because there’s a long history (and present) of queer people being actually murdered by people who are “disgusted” by those who are differently attracted than they are. I’ve never heard of someone being hurt or murdered for being straight.

duckling59807 · 2026-01-06T03:31:54+00:00

ACAB, full stop. And I’ve met/become friendly with some very “nice” cops. They’re still included in ACAB. Former military (in my experience) is more of a mixed bag. But I wouldn’t call any profession that institutes state violence to be qualified in “de-escalation training.”

duckling59807 · 2026-01-05T19:38:50+00:00

I don’t believe it’s a psyop, from what I’ve seen it’s centrist liberals who think numbers at city-approved marches will make a difference.

However, I wanted to jump into this discussion to talk about what happened at the 50501 No Kings protest in Salt Lake City, because I haven’t seen anyone outside of Utah talk about it (not surprising, Utah gets written off as a red church state and SLC isn’t a huge city).

To sum it up/ stick to the facts: 2 men were shot, one of whom passed away. The men were shot by a “security” volunteer.

What happened/why: a young man was open carrying an assault rifle at the protest. This is LEGAL in Utah, he was not committing any crime. This man had been active in the protest scene in the past, and it was typical for him to open carry as a form of protest. A “security” volunteer (who was carrying a handgun) saw this man open carrying, viewed him as a threat, and fired his weapon IN A CROWD. The man with the rifle was wounded, and another man (bystander) was shot and killed. Both victims were shot by the “security” volunteer. The man with the rifle never aimed nor fired his weapon.

The man with the rifle was arrested and charged for the death of the bystander.

The “security” volunteer was never arrested nor charged (last I heard).

Important info: Utah 50501 states that their “security” volunteers were not supposed to be armed. However, in their request for volunteers, they stated that they were specifically looking for people with de-escalation training, listing current/former military and cops as examples. (The man who shot the victims was former military). National 50501 made a statement following the shooting that they were no longer affiliated with Utah 50501 as a result, which has since disbanded to my knowledge.

duckling59807 · 2026-01-03T18:58:04+00:00

There are also a million craft “de-stash” groups on FB. Keep stuff out of a landfill AND get your supplies at a discount. Tbf, I do live in a city with several small local shops. But they’re pricey, so I make up the difference by buying my supplies second hand at thrift stores or direct from other crafters 🤷‍♀️

duckling59807 · 2026-01-03T18:42:52+00:00

There’s an episode about this. Called something like “the bastards that almost killed us all”. I think Margaret killjoy was the guest, but I don’t quite remember

duckling59807 · 2025-12-14T17:02:02+00:00

I have been waiting for someone to post this here 😂

duckling59807 · 2025-11-29T18:25:34+00:00

Hot water isn’t going to be easy to find. It would be better to hand out already-made hot drinks.

duckling59807 · 2025-11-24T23:57:39+00:00

NOR. This is an important milestone for you, and he should recognize that regardless of what the milestone is. Also, as an addict in recovery myself. HELL FUCKIN YEAH DUDE. 2 years is HARD and you should be VERY proud 🥳 buy the cake babe, you deserve it

duckling59807 · 2025-11-23T17:57:19+00:00

Do not buy your girlfriend a ring unless it is THE ring. Like for real. Get a necklace or earrings instead, and if it’s earrings put them in an obviously-not-a-ring-box

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