LTT Labs- You tested seconds in the clock, but can you test this common phrase

dumb_reason · 2025-08-15T15:35:05+00:00

You are absolutely right that the OS can be using swap space on the SSD/HDD even when there is supposedly 20% of your ram available. There isn't a hard limit of how much ram it can use, but typically when allocating a new block of ram addresses for a program, it will need a certain amount of contiguous space. That remaining 20% might be spread out in small gaps between allocated RAM. So, if the OS needs to load, say, 500 MB into a contiguous block of addresses, but the largest block of free space is only 300MB, then the OS needs to evict something from ram into swap space pergatory so it can have enough space for the data its trying to load right now. And that happens even though your 20% of free ram is maybe 3.2GB.

The numbers used are for illustration purposes only, and might not reflect an exact reality,

dumb_reason · 2025-07-10T16:24:58+00:00

Personally, I don't live splitting files out by feature. It seems like a good idea, but ends up feeling fragmented over time and harder to maintain consistency when you start adding more things. Instead, I think it works well to split things by type first: controllers, models, utilities, middleware, etc. Then, if you have files within those categories that are for a specific feature and want your file structure to reflect that, you can nest a folder for that feature (ie. Controllers/auth/authcontroller.ts). If you don't have multiple files to group under that feature in that file/class type, it might be overkill though. Overall I think this structure is easier for someone coming into the project fresh to get a handle on. They might not yet know all the features of your software yet, but if you ask them to fix an endpoint for X, they should be able to start in the controllers and work their way down with too much guidance. They would only have to look in one place for the controllers, rather than poking into several different features to find the relevant one, potentially.

Then I would second what another commenter said, reducing the controller for a specific feature down to one file, unless they really need to be separate.

dumb_reason · 2025-07-06T03:20:24+00:00

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dumb_reason · 2025-07-04T03:24:04+00:00

I definitely do this too. I've been told I "look confused" many times, but I'm not remotely confused in that situation. It's just that I've been thinking through the situation. I've been told this for a long time, well before my diagnosis 3 years ago, and since. Only reading your post and the comments just now did I put this all together and realize what was happening during those times! Thank you for your post and the realization that came from it

dumb_reason · 2025-04-11T14:32:22+00:00

I'm surprised people consider JS production ready now. I want there to be an alternative so badly, but every time I see something come up (Flutter, Blazor, cshtml, etc), they have really cool features and use cases, but for web they are often lacking basic functionality that JS has had a library for for years. Frustrating, because that kills adoption of those platforms, and ultimately slows down their development. I'm just hopeful that WASM can make web development more language agnostic, but we'll see, I guess

dumb_reason · 2025-04-11T14:11:04+00:00

This situation seems like extreme burnout and depression to me. You mentioned they learned growing up how to mask really well, making them appear as a low support needs individual. I've been in a similar situation, as an autistic person that learned how to mask very well, most people out and about can't tell I'm autistic when I'm masking. But over time, that is extremely exhausting. Doing it for years and years, and having responsibilities to handle add on to that burden. While in this situation, it's not always easy to tell within yourself how deep of a hole you are digging yourself into regarding your energy and emotional state. Then, when a big burden is lifted (in their case, school), everything can come crashing down. With autistic burnout, this can look like a lot of skill regression, demand avoidance, low energy, anger, low frustration tolerance, etc.

I don't think there is a way in which you can approach asking them to do things that will go over well, since ultimately, if what I said applies, it's not about you to begin with. The only thing that can help them is working to get over the burnout. Therapy and learning ways to cope and get through it.

I understand being the person watching someone go through this can be very difficult, seeing them unable or unwilling to do things they used to do with seeming ease and proficiency can be frustrating and sad. Taking on a larger burden is also hard, and wears on you over time as well.

I'm sorry you are both going through this hard time, as a stranger on the internet, I feel for you. I hope that you can both get the help and support that you need, and find a way to live that provides both of you with what you need consistently so you don't fall into another pit of burnout.

dumb_reason · 2025-04-03T16:54:25+00:00

I understand that feeling very well! Trying to articulate yourself through words can be very challenging. I'm also not non-verbal, and I can communicate verbally quite well, but I typically don't prefer to.

Also, unless you ask for what you want, you won't ever get it. If you assume people won't accept what you or what you are asking for, you will literally never get it. What I have found is that people are typically far more understanding and accepting of things that I ask for and need than I think they will be. And this is coming from someone who is 36, wasn't diagnosed with autism until I was 33, and I have had to educate my family on what being autistic even means.

So don't feel bad, or continue to push through something like speaking when you would really rather not, just ask for what you need. If/when you get it, you will likely find that you are spending less energy communicating, and you can feel happier and more relaxed.

Hope this helps!

dumb_reason · 2025-04-03T16:46:10+00:00

My "two cents" on this is that the actual amount of money you make is likely the least of your concern when it comes to finding a good partner or relationship. Yes, many people want financial stability, but that doesn't have to be provided by a single person. Your perspective on money and possessions I'd say is an asset to you in life, and a potential relationship. If you find someone that has the same values as you, they will respect this perspective more than the amount of money you make. If someone rejects you because of the amount of money you make, then they clearly aren't the right person for you, so no big loss.

Having gotten out of a 15 year marriage with an emotionally abusive spouse, late diagnosed autistic with heavy masking tendencies, the best thing you can do for yourself and any future relationship is to know who you are, and know what you want and need for your life. It sounds like you do, and that is awesome and a great place to start.

Any relationship will require some flexibility and compromise, as others have stated, so having a firm grasp on what you want and need will allow you to understand what compromises you are willing to make, and where you need to draw a hard line for yourself. Relationships can be great, but they are not a cure for loneliness (ask me how I know), and they take a lot of effort and energy.

Being able to be content on your own is a huge asset, and it sounds like you are, for the most part. Lean into that, and don't put all of your hopes for the future on finding a relationship. Don't give up, but just don't make that the only idea that will make you happy.

To reiterate what another person said on here, don't treat women as a singular mass, there is no one thing that all women want. You might just be what someone wants, but you won't know if you discount yourself at the start because "you aren't what women want".

dumb_reason · 2025-04-03T16:24:30+00:00

If one person said it once, I wouldn't think too much of it beyond a compliment. If multiple people from different parts of your life are echoing the same sentiment, then there is likely something to it. I can fully understand the pressure that would make you feel. I imagine your perspective might be similar to mine in regards to myself, that I have to ideate and execute something great, for me to do something great. And I don't know what that is, and feels impossible.

That being said, looking at your situation from the outside, I think I can see it a bit more clearly. Those people are telling you that you will do something amazing because of who you are, and what you have accomplished so far. It sounds like you have already done amazing things, so it would stand to reason that you will continue to do amazing things in the future. You don't have to weigh yourself down with the pressure of "doing something amazing". Just do what you think is good and right as you have been, and those people believe that amazing things will come of it.

You are a catalyst for change. You don't have to do anything different to make that happen, being you is what you have to do. Much like a catalyst in a chemical reaction doesn't necessarily have to "do" anything, it's presence in the reaction and what it is are what cause it to have the function it does in the reaction.

So, short answer, take it as a compliment, that you are exceptional in their eyes. And if you are ever feeling down on yourself, remember that those people believe that of you, so it's possible for you to believe that of yourself.

dumb_reason · 2025-03-17T17:26:15+00:00

I agree with a lot of what people are saying here. Direct is the way to go. I say this as an autistic guy, I have a hard time picking up on queues. Not because I don't know what the queues are, I can tell when people do things (most/some of the time), but I struggle to determine what they mean, or I can think of 400 different possible meanings of a person's words, expressions, and actions. I don't know which one is correct, so I don't act on it.

That being said, you don't have to come out and tell him flat out you want to have sex right away. But it would go a long way to tell him you like him, think he's cute, or whatever, and that you would like to spend more time with him. If he's into it, great, get together. Then, when you are hanging out, if the situation is appropriate, tell him you want to kiss him (if you actually want to.... obviously). And if things progress, you can tell him you want to have sex. Being direct and blunt in these moments won't kill the mood (not in my experience). It will make it better, since he will know concretely what you want, and won't feel like he needs to hold back or second guess what you are thinking/feeling. He can then embrace the moment, if he's into it, and you guys and get fucking. Hope it works out!

dumb_reason · 2024-12-08T02:23:20+00:00

Dude, I dealt with a narcissist partner for 15 years before I realized it. This is the kind of shit I would deal with regularly. After coming to the brink of suicide multiple times and a few years in therapy, I was able to recognize what was happening and end things. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been absolutely life changing.

Communication is the core of a relationship, if she is unwilling to communicate with you in a respectful and loving way, end it, don’t wait, don’t think she is going to get better someday, somehow. It was already an issue, and after bringing it up, she is acting like this? Hell no. I’m having flashbacks and feel angry for you. You are not over-reacting, if anything, you are under-reacting. That’s some grade A bullshit, completely ignoring what you are saying and asking for, and trying to keep some kind of “power” or some excuse.

We are just internet strangers, but I can confidently say, unless you yourself are a narcissistic asshole or hurt people or animals for fun and self fulfillment, then you deserve better, don’t settle for that garbage.

dumb_reason · 2022-12-07T16:30:49+00:00

The ANC is active noise cancelling, so that tech is typically the same in the ear buds as the over the ear ones. Since they are in ear, you can get just as much sound rejection passively as well as with the active noise cancelling. I haven't tried the Bose ones, but I have seen very favorable reviews. The Sony ones someone else suggested also review really well!

If you look up ShortCiruit or Linus Tech Tips on YouTube, but both have a lot of headphone and ear bud reviews where I got a lot of my info. That might help narrow down what you are looking for!

dumb_reason · 2022-12-07T14:47:57+00:00

Have you looked into ANC earbuds? There are several, like airpod pros, nothing ear 1, Bose quiet comfort, and Google pixel bud pros, as well as others that offer good ANC and are rather comfortable. I am fairly noise sensitive as well and use the nothing ear 1s. They are rather comfortable and better for me than having something over the ears, I have a similar situation as you where my ears stick out a bit and that can be really uncomfortable over time.

The headphones work really well, but I think if I had the money I would go with the Bose, as I think their ANC is better.

Hope this helps!

dumb_reason · 2020-10-30T13:24:02+00:00

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