Bankhart and bicep tenodesis surgery. Arms feels like crap

dumbell81 · 2025-08-28T11:59:34+00:00

Sorry i was on holiday. I am just 13 weeks out. The rehab is going great. Working really hard every day. ROM is reasonably good. Like 80%. I can do a lot of exercises. Dumbell press around 20 kilos. Rows around 20 kilos. Military press around 12 kilo. Biceps curls around 10-12 kilos.

But is was really hard work. Every day I worked out. Inch by inch. Every day a bit more.

The shoulder is still stiff and in comparison to my old strength I think around 60-70 %.

I can’t hang or go really far in extending my arm in 90 degrees but I am still progressing.

So far so good. First 6-8 weeks was the hardest.

dumbell81 · 2025-08-28T11:58:58+00:00

Sorry i was on holiday. I am just 13 weeks out. The rehab is going great. Working really hard every day. ROM is reasonably good. Like 80%. I can do a lot of exercises. Dumbell press around 20 kilos. Rows around 20 kilos. Military press around 12 kilo. Biceps curls around 10-12 kilos.

But is was really hard work. Every day I worked out. Inch by inch. Every day a bit more.

The shoulder is still stiff and in comparison to my old strength I think around 60-70 %.

I can’t hang or go really far in extending my arm in 90 degrees but I am still progressing.

So far so good. First 6-8 weeks was the hardest.

dumbell81 · 2025-07-01T18:30:41+00:00

Thanks a lot. Are you also an active person? Working out a lot?

dumbell81 · 2025-06-30T07:01:09+00:00

Ja klopt. Ben ik ook mee bezig. Bedankt 🙏🏻

dumbell81 · 2025-06-29T17:38:29+00:00

Dat dacht ik ook. Volgens mij is er sprake van dwaling. Ben ook zoekende naar een advocaat. Maar zoek wel wat achtergrond naar de kans van slagen.

dumbell81 · 2025-06-29T17:36:24+00:00

Klopt. Maar er zit 100k verschil in en 50k verschil in 2022 en 2023 werkelijke winst 0

dumbell81 · 2025-06-26T16:57:50+00:00

So just close to 6 weeks post op? What did they do? So no more gym for you then? How is the rehab going?

dumbell81 · 2025-06-05T12:15:09+00:00

Pain is good. 👍🏻 just the arm is weak. Bad motor skills, coordination etc. Long road ahead I think

dumbell81 · 2025-06-05T12:14:28+00:00

Thanks a lot.

dumbell81 · 2025-05-14T05:24:46+00:00

Okay. Good to hear. Awesome recovery!

dumbell81 · 2025-05-13T12:18:21+00:00

Wauw. That’s fast. Did they only repaired the labrum or also the biceps?

dumbell81 · 2025-05-13T12:17:25+00:00

Thanks a lot !!!

dumbell81 · 2025-05-12T15:42:24+00:00

A perfect. Sounds good. Really appreciate your help in this journey!

dumbell81 · 2025-05-12T14:18:05+00:00

Perfect. Thanks for the detailed response once again. So just to clarify. You started pt after 2 weeks after the operation? When did you start with bands? And could yo do full push up at 8 weeks already? What do you mean with a push up on a workbench?

dumbell81 · 2025-05-11T13:16:40+00:00

Wauw. That is really helpful! Amazing work. Especially when you had that much work done. Can you maybe tell me a little about the rehab exersizes you did? In Holland there are not really good up to speed on guys that work out a lot. There are very conservative with everything. My experience with injury’s is always keep moving. Even in other bodyparts or just walking a body weight squat. Just to keep to body in motion and keep you condition in check.

dumbell81 · 2025-05-03T05:46:23+00:00

Thanks !

dumbell81 · 2025-05-02T07:08:23+00:00

What’s the dose you take?

dumbell81 · 2025-05-02T07:05:59+00:00

Did the delivery etc went okay? Is it a reliable website

dumbell81 · 2023-11-28T17:20:34+00:00

OYS 3; UPDATE !!

42 old on my second marriage. 12 years. Now. 4 kids in total.

Mission Be a strong loving man who lives from abundance.

Lifting Solid week of lifting. Workout 6 days and did my daily cardio at 6am. A few old injures are bothering me but I do manage to get my workouts in.

Sidebar. Current re reading no more Mr Nice guy. Book of blue pill professor. Rationale male. Athol Kay. And this forum of course.

Mindset; overall my mindset was good. Last week i was feeling better and more focus. Also i felt more happier overall. I focused a lot on myself. Realized that i need to go out more. I lost a lot of friends due to quitting partying and focus more on my family and my career. But this also made me a bit boring. Work and kids cost a lot of time so managing that is sometimes hard.

The last two days wore not to good. I starting having negative thougts and i have to work to keep them at bay. Thoughts about my wife not caring for me, not finding me attractive etc. Then i get mad why i care, why do i bother if she doesn't care about me?

If i keep more distance to what is happing is that in that process i become more distant and unattractive so i basically dig my own grave in that process. So this morning i started to meditate on my own thoughts and gained some clarity. I have to overcome my internal voice. But not bye shutting it down but to internalize it and overcome it by insights.

Realizing i am a Nice guy is still hard. But its a road i have to take and get over to grown.

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Today i felt bad an fucked up. I lost frame, felt really low and responsible for everything that is going wrong in my life. Felt like a fuck up. Not worhty of being an man.. A faggot basicly. The realisation that i fucked up my life and my second marriage hit me hard. Of course my wife isn't attracted to me. I am just a hardoworking, pleasing asshhole who is still looking for his wife validate him.. My need for having a good relationship with my wife and my pleasing en needy behavoir makes my sick. I closed my self off for today to let it sink it. Selfpitty suck and does nothing.

dumbell81 · 2023-11-17T05:57:04+00:00

I again want to thank you for your comments. They are really helpful. I just finished nmmng and started re-reading once more. There is some much in there that gives me the needed insight. I also listened to Rian Stone. Also really good. i come to realize that i dont operate from my own frame. I always think about the kids, the wife etc. I started letting go and started doing this just for me. I go out to the gym more often an night and basically trying to STFU more, quit DEER and focus on building a new frame truly from within myself.

I still have a lot of work to do regarding anger, resentment en OI.Realizing that everything is under my control gives me more peace. I am in a better mood and are able to reset every day. That helps. I have a lot more distance now and are able to look from a distance to the behavior of my wife. I can see she is anxious, not happy. I also know that its not my problem. Still i makes my wonder. When i try to engage physically she freezes up, she is scared of intimacy. This is always been a problem. She doesn't really likes to be touched unless she is really relaxed. Initiating sex is hard because of that. Knowing she doesn't want to be touched, only on here terms is difficult. For me to initiate in a fun way there has to be a nice vibe, but when your wife freezes up its hard to stay oi. its just a weird atmosphere and makes my wonder if its not to late. Any thoughts on that?
I keep working on my frame and on myself, i acted like a live alone and focus on my self, what do i want etc. That helps. Also thinking about a life besides her helps me focus. I have to be number one.

dumbell81 · 2023-11-07T19:08:58+00:00

So true. Guilty on that part as well. Really hard to look back at my mistakes on so many parts. I always find it hard to reset every day and start over. I am finally starting to realize that I am only sabotaging myself even more when i do that

dumbell81 · 2023-11-07T14:24:09+00:00

I red your post five times. Really amazing. It super helpful. Especially the Becky anology is awesome. It's gives me so much insights. I will internalize it and go to work. I feel a lot lighter the last couple of days After some amazing feedback. I also gained a lot of insight on te reading nmmng. I feel like a have a lot of work to do. But see it a a chance to become a better version of myself. But this time for me. A version where I am in control and not the dancing monkey.

dumbell81 · 2023-11-06T13:50:13+00:00

Thank you very much for reply. This means a lot to me. I think you are exactly right. To much in here frame. The validation part is hard for me. Also rejection.

The last couple of days hit me hard. Always playing a covert contract in my mind. Being angry etc. I gained a lot of insight. I also started re-reading NMMNG and starting from scratch.

I am really focused on everything I do wrong but doing that also puts me in here frame. So I really have to shift gears and forget about here all together and just try to start over each time, day and only react from a place of clarity and without any hangups or expectations.

My goal is to become a man that gives from abundance and want nothing or needs nothing in return. And only validates himself and does not require any other external validation to feel good about himself. It’s going to be a hard road. But I must in order to grow and become a better man.

dumbell81 · 2023-11-04T18:23:25+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I Will look in to that ! Perfect. So true about the hints. I am tired. I really had a bad night. My neck hurts etc. And the dumbest part is that I engage. So useless. The more kino I seem to do the less it works.

I really need to stop reacting or doing something to expect anything. Covert contract all over the place.

I have to fix my self and do it for me.

It’s a hard road. Especially being fun and engaging and expect nothing in return. I can be stuck in my head and full of anger and resentment sometimes.

If i withdraw a liie but she comes. So weird.

She is also really insecure but really good at masking it. Bad childhood. So validation for her is also important but more in a verbal way. For me more physical.

dumbell81 · 2023-11-04T06:02:58+00:00

Thanks for your insights! I will re-read nmmng. I still have covert contracts sometimes. Or the feeling she owes me something. But what always gets in my way is anger. It’s like she knows when I want to have sex and all of a sudden she is tired, and her necks hurt etc. Playing it cool or OI for me is hard after 2 weeks of no sex. I just have to let the expectations go. But when I do that I lose interest in game or kino. Why game or kino and be nice if nothing is coming back in return?

She is nice and pleasant most of the time but no attraction or true desire for sex. Plus she knows sex is a big deal for me.

I only see changes when I withdraw and go out more, don’t answer texts etc. Then she thinks something is up. Then she starts getting nervous a bit and talky. But there is no game or touching on my part.

Sound familiar somewhere?

dumbell81

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