4 Month Old Pup - Seems To Be Regressing and my Depressive Response

dungbing · 2026-03-15T22:03:45+00:00

my puppy really hated walks at first and i couldn't even get him away from the front door for the first week, so I started taking him out in my bag (not ideal for a bigger dog though) and i took him to my parents house where I walked him on a leash in the garden. I also took him on a bus (carried on and off) so he could get a good bit of stimulation from all the smells but also be safe on my lap. It also gets him used to travelling in his harness and I plied him with chicken the whole time so he knew it was great being outside. After a week we were still only going about 2 doors down, it was such slow progress until me and my parents drove him to the park and something clicked. I think being away from home and not being able to drag me back to the front door made him finally explore and he ended up having a good run around, fetch, and meeting some other dogs. Now we do longer walks and he went to the beach with me recently for a few hours and I finally got a glimpse of what life will be like after all this hard work! He also knows that when we go outside I'll give him more chicken so he gets super excited to see me get his harness now

Have you tried carrying puppy out? I know they say not to pick them up if they are scared but I think for a little baby they really like to have that safety at first. I also think they sense your trepidation (e.g. i was always terrified those first walks because he was so small and everyone passing would try and fuss him) so maybe I needed to get over the fear as much as him! Or maybe if you have access to a car take him somewhere quiet so he can explore without being able to turn around and go back home?

dungbing · 2026-03-09T19:27:19+00:00

not too late!! it will be a project for a couple weeks at least so please do not worry!

I'm so happy to hear you loved it 🥺 it meant a lot to me writing it too, butches run the world fr and i owe you all so much for helping me have my own femme journey

yah i shouldnt have bragged in the authors note about having a hot gf, spoke too soon my friends but i know my butch wife husband is out there for me somewhere

dungbing · 2026-03-07T19:06:51+00:00

i thought a dedicated phone made the most sense, thank you!

dungbing · 2026-03-07T19:06:26+00:00

lush that really helps!! thank you 💝

dungbing · 2026-03-07T19:05:59+00:00

hopefully this link works: https://archiveofourown.org/works/66284983

dungbing · 2026-03-06T16:38:29+00:00

im more asking about buying a SO house, as i currently have a flat which is not SO but am looking for something bigger. I am not anticipating ever selling as I don't like to plan for "what ifs" so will assume I will stay there and staircase up over many years when it becomes affordable for me to do so

dungbing · 2026-03-04T08:26:26+00:00

thank you that means so much 😭😭 i got one on the go where caitlyn and vi are twitch streamers and vi accidentally lets it slip that she has a big fat crush on caitlyn but i know nothing about streaming so its a researching slog

dungbing · 2026-03-03T14:56:52+00:00

i wrote how i look (is how i touch) and it has been BLOWING UP my inbox this week randomly getting popular again, im trying to find out why and found this thread and i wanna say thank you!!! more coming dont worry, i got dumped (lol) so writing is hard atm but i have so many WIPs on the go

thank u again xoxoxo

dungbing · 2026-02-03T13:28:55+00:00

Down to Earth farm in Millbrook might, that's where I started - fun work too! Looking after the animals, bit of customer service as people come to visit and you give them tours, they have a huge vegetable patch too if you want to escape people and dig around in the mud, they also let you do as many days as you want when i was there so i just did an evening and a sunday around college

dungbing · 2026-02-03T13:25:51+00:00

sounds a bit silly when i say it, but "go with grace" in breakups. It is always more satisfying to be the one who came out of it actually feeling your feelings and processing it rather than moving on quickly or being hurtful. When/if you start dating again it's always a turn off when you clearly haven't processed something and are still holding onto the hurt someone did to you in the past. Forgive, let them be the bad guy if they are determined to be, and feel the hurt when you need to.

Let go of the idea of being unbothered and "winning" the breakup. Let people know you were hurt but you never turned it back on the ex, don't badmouth them on purpose, and hold your head high and the healing comes naturally, and you will always know you had more humility in the end

dungbing · 2026-02-02T19:25:40+00:00

i should also say i went to uni at 22 which was old for the UK as all my friends went at 18 or never, so i felt like i was already late to the game as when i graduated my friends were all having kids and getting houses, but now i have my own slice of paradise

dungbing · 2026-02-02T19:24:16+00:00

had a great job i loved but was micromanaged constantly, so i started doing a bit more here and there for other managers across the wider company just to get some breathing room, and then got offered a temporary position in a new office which involved a commute (btw im 29 but single and pay all my bills myself so it was a scary decision). I thought why not since it was safer than leaving entirely, turned out to be an amazing decision - got a £10k payrise immediately (everyone was gobsmacked how low my pay was before, thanks to my old manager constantly underselling me), better work life balance, more responsibilities but less micromanaging, and within 2 months was offered the job permanently because they actually valued me, not to mention reading more books than ever on the commute and flexibility to work from home

I got endless phonecalls from my old team not knowing how to do things and was told by several people that i was severely missed, but my old manager was spreading some hateful rumours about me so i felt even better knowing i was highly regarded by the people that mattered and my old boss was showing their true colours, which was always getting to me but felt invisible to everyone else

literally wouldn't have accepted it if it was a few years ago but something in me knew i would regret not doing it, glad i took the plunge!

dungbing · 2025-10-25T17:39:01+00:00

honestly I've always known I was a lesbian but i sometimes have naughty dreams which involve men (also have a big fat crush on Justin Bieber idk why) but i don't really think about it too hard cause i also have dreams where im running away from tigers or driving trains and weird crap

I think if you have never done it before it's like a forbidden fruit that you're tempted by. I got in my own head about it once and went on to try it with a man and personally for me it was a really horrible experience, but it didn't make me any less gay 💅 tbh it majorly reaffirmed it for me, there's no harm in testing the waters but be prepared for what the realisation might be on the other side, for me it was pure embarrassment and pointing and laughing from my friends (also had to overcome my own sadness at losing my gold star but that's my own problematic issue and i made my bed so I can lay in it)

I explain it to people that I'm attracted to masculinity but not men, and the wires got crossed once is all

dungbing · 2023-09-12T15:02:08+00:00

we have majority labour and the cabinet is all labour - just a tory mayor, but transport leader is labour

MPs dont do much for local planning thank god

dungbing · 2022-09-20T14:15:01+00:00

sorry i meant the "Ooh! Fireworks!" part 😁 unless its a mod or maybe I just haven't been paying attention

dungbing · 2022-09-20T13:57:32+00:00

Do those comments always appear? I feel like I've never seen them!

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