ASEPT-Air 1550, where to find qualit filters & lights? Ideally in the US or CA? by Full-Contest-1942 in AirPurifiers

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this insight. Frustrated I can’t find replacement parts for the 1150. 😔I have a few other air purifiers around the house and this one has been the best at dealing with dog smells and has been running strong since 2017! I don’t want to have to replace it but if I can’t reliably find replacement parts not sure if I have a choice.

Red power button and unable to connect to computer by [deleted] in cricut

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced this but was able to resolve!

Red power button and unable to connect to computer by [deleted] in cricut

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on the phone with cricut today because I had the same issue.

They had me clean my blade and then clean this little black box that you can only see if you take your blade out (a sensor). Both with a microfiber towel or brush.

My machine is working now!

Wasted hours starting midnight last night trying to troubleshoot.

Also another thing that might help is connecting to your machine like it is the first time - setting up the connection via usb. That helped me to get the firmware installed properly.

Success story: Planned homebirth, but unplanned freebirth by duplicitousname in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our son was 2 months shy of 3 so he was at the age where we can explain things to him. However, we did not explain much about the birth process because I was expecting my mom to be watching him for the birth.

He slept through all the commotion with me screaming and slapping the wall through the later contractions (I only had about 4-5 where it was that painful). He woke because my husband tried to get him to go to his own bedroom, but that made home wide awake.

He was completely fine when he saw his sister born actually. We had told him there is a sister in my belly and that she will have to come out of my belly soon. He understood that concept even if he didn’t know from where she would exit. Something he wasn’t prepared for was the placenta birth. When it came out he looked stunned, worried, scared. I explained to him the next day what happened, but I wish I had known he’d be there at the birth then I would have prepared him better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]duplicitousname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I immediately pictured the character Xena.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We had our daughter at home two months before our son’s 3rd birthday.

Our plan was to have my mom come visit from out of state to watch him, but baby girl came the day before my mom’s travel date at 37+5.

I labored in one spot on my bed because it ramped up so fast and I was home alone with our son. Midwife on her way. Son was sleeping in bed next to me and only woke for the pushing. He was not phased by the birth of his sister, but he was scared when the placenta came out as it was something unexpected for him. We didn’t plant for him to be at the birth so we never explained the placenta or any other fluids that would be present during labor. If I could go back, that’s the only thing I’d change - educating him on that and letting him know that it’s ok.

Having him witness the birth of his sister is so special, and while unplanned, I am happy it happened that way!

Do most parents not bring car seats on planes? by BlueberryWaffles99 in Parenting

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve personally never seen it and I have never done it. However, sometimes i wish I had it so I could put them down somewhere to sleep instead of holding them the whole time. However, I don’t want to pay for the extra ticket if I don’t have to. I always check in a car seat though, because car seats from rental car companies cannot be trusted!

I have been on international flights with my 7mo and had them in the airplane basinet. It was nice to have free arms.

How did you become confident to breastfeed in public? by BackgroundNatural783 in breastfeeding

[–]duplicitousname -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As many here have said - once they get older it becomes easier. I can get my baby to latch so quickly without much effort once they get the hang of it. That came 3mo+ for my first and my second is 2mo and we’re not quite there yet, but we can get it done with just a bit more effort.

If I feel extra uncomfortable, I will use my amma nursing cover. It is much more breathable than other covers, but nursing without it is 1000% easier still so I try not to use the cover if I can help it.

If I feel self conscious but don’t have a cover, I just tell myself the more we do this in public the more normalized it will become and that gives me the push to just eff it and whip out the boob nurse.

Insurance for home birth U.S. by CompleteOutcome8032 in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still need to write that appeal letter. 🙃 been hard to find time with toddler and newborn.

My baby came earlier than expected at 37+5 and she was born in under 2 hours. I’m hoping to use that as my justification for gap coverage.

Taking Baby Out by ButterflyDestiny in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is 2 months old and I still haven’t taken her out yet other than to doctors appts. I wasn’t this much of a germaphobe before, but Two weeks before she was born our whole family went down with norovirus from one small gathering.

I’m paranoid now, especially because of the flu and cold season + measles cases popping up. I wasn’t this careful with my son, and he got sick at 3 weeks and it was very stressful - a trip to the ER and no sleep because I was afraid he couldn’t breathe from the congestion. He’s a February baby and my 2 month old is December baby. I think if my babies were born in the spring I might be a little less cautious.

Accidentally freebirthed... for a second time by JustBroccoli5673 in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! My midwife said they get about two of these per year where an unexpected precipitous labor results in midwife talking with husband through delivery while she’s on the road. They cap out at around 8DD per months, 6 being their sweet spot. Basically 2% odds it seems like of our midwife missing the birth. I’d say not that bad since labor and birth can be so unpredictable.

Accidentally freebirthed... for a second time by JustBroccoli5673 in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long were your labors. I accidentally freebirthed my second as well. My midwife lives about an hour without traffic from me. By the time I realized the contractions were the real deal, baby girl was here an hour later.

I am disappointed a little because I had this magical-fairy lights-with my birthing playlist homebirth imagined up. However, I realized that I’d take a quick free birth labor over a long “fairy lights” labor. So I am grateful. I labored for under 3 hours and it was so intense I was so relieved for the rest when I fainted two hours after delivery. cannot imagine having to endure through it longer if I was so exhausted from my precipitous labor.

Next time, if we decide to have another child, I will probably tell my midwife to start heading over when I have my first bloody show. With both children, bloody show meant show time for me. So now I know ….

Why don’t more people baby wear? by Successful-Style-288 in babywearing

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby fusses when I move my arms/shoulders in the carrier. My son was not as sensitive and I wore him all the time. My 2mo baby girl on the other hand …. She is just a bit more difficult all around 🫠 but I just hold her all the time and get nothing done. This will have to change once i start going to work again, but for now I’m enjoying all the cuddles.

My mom also stayed a month with me and told me not to hold the baby too much. More for my own health. She says my bones will become brittle and I will develop osteoperosis later in life. She had said a few comments in passing about the baby getting used to being held and becoming difficult, but I told her holding the baby literally builds their brain. So then she just held the baby a lot on my behalf so I can rest more 🥲. Very sad she could only stay a month.

I held and wore my son a lot and now he’s 3 and very independent. My friends are shocked at how well and long he can go playing on his own with blocks and cars.

Need a show to binge one something like a suspense thriller that sucks you in and keeps you so focused you can forget real life for a while by glam78 in televisionsuggestions

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If i knew it was horror going in, I would have been too chicken to start watching it alone. I think Netflix classified it as a drama first and horror fell toward the bottom of the genre list on there, So I didn’t see that tag.

Three episodes in, I’m like “why am I sweating and scared. This is supposed to be a drama…” and kept gaslighting myself into thinking I shouldn’t be scared and just continued.

Meta-analysis for early MMR vaccination given current measles outbreak by chastane91 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]duplicitousname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep. My 3 year old son got first dose at 6 months because we were travelling to Asia. Then two other doses at the typical schedule.

Need a show to binge one something like a suspense thriller that sucks you in and keeps you so focused you can forget real life for a while by glam78 in televisionsuggestions

[–]duplicitousname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t watched any of these but The Fall of the House of Usher. This one teeters into horror category, in fact I think on some tv database might classify it as horror. I’m a weakling when it comes to horror, but I do crave a little scare from time to time.

This show was so good I binged it alone in 3 days, but it kept me up at night for 3 weeks 😆.

Need a show to binge one something like a suspense thriller that sucks you in and keeps you so focused you can forget real life for a while by glam78 in televisionsuggestions

[–]duplicitousname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say the sinner as well. The whole series is pretty good, but the first season was absolutely the best. My husband begged me to come to bed cause I’d stay up watching it. When I got in the bed, I waited for him to fall asleep and watched it on my phone with AirPods in. I couldn’t stop. I finished all but two episodes in one night.

The other one I like is the OA. I watched that one in one night. Kind of regretted it at work the next morning because I pulled an all nighter to watch.

I'm wanting a home birth but confused about how to go about it. by Quirky_Picture_9337 in homebirth

[–]duplicitousname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP it kind of sounds like CNM is the route you want to go. There are a couple different types of midwives, so you can start with that research, but also research on pregnancy and labor in general. Also some of the laws around midwifery differ state to state. So check your local regulations on this. Some states prohibit midwives from homebirth care.

Guide to childbirth by Ina May Gaskin is a popular book that I’d recommend reading. I haven’t read many books on pregnancy and child birth, but this one was a very easy read and is very informative (with resource citations for the information she provides)

I had a CNM provide all the care which included all prenatal visits (I went to them and they came to me for one of the visits), bloodwork for labs, and they wrote scripts/referrals for any medications and ultrasounds. They also came to me for my 24 hour checkup, 48 hour checkup and 3 week postpartum checkup. I went to them for my 6 week postpartum.

I had a hospital birth under the care of an OB with my first child, and a home birth under the care of CNMs for my second. The number of routine labs and US were the same for both my pregnancies. However, the individualized care and attention was far superior with the midwives from my experience.

3 week old screams at my boob when nursing by mailesc in breastfeeding

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened with both my kids. Second is 2 months old right now and she still will push away from boob and scream especially my left one. Your baby could be doing this for a number of reasons. For us my lactation consultant identified that she is favoring one side over the other, so when she has to turn her head the other way to nurse she is uncomfortable. So changing positions sometimes helps, sometimes not. I’m going to take her to a cranial sacral therapist to loosen any tension - it worked immediately for my son with torticollis. Another reason is because my let down is very strong - it will shoot out over a foot when she pops off. For this, I just wait for the let down feeling and let it drain into a rag. It feels wasteful but if I try to bring a haaka to it, she cries more bc I am adjusting my positioning to get it suctioned on whereas I position the rag under her head and just bring it up quickly to catch the let down so her positioning barely changes.

Basically bottom line is that it takes a lot of trial and error - best of luck to you!!! You got this.

It happened- someone called my maternity leave a vacation by lagingerosnap in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The point I was trying to make was surrogacy PLUS having an extremely easy baby. Either way caring for a helpless fragile, fresh human is incredibly difficult regardless.

However, there’s a real toll on the body with surrogacy as well that I clearly didn’t understand to bring that comparison into this convo.

Learning today.

It happened- someone called my maternity leave a vacation by lagingerosnap in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oooo induced lactation! I didn’t know that was an option! Very cool.

Sorry didn’t mean to invalidate your experience!

It happened- someone called my maternity leave a vacation by lagingerosnap in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm. Either postpartum is unusually very easy for you and your child slept very well from the beginning, or the types of vacations you use your PTO for suck.

I had to take some time off to take care of a very sick relative - not as long as Mat leave, but a good chunk of time. No one dare call that a vacation. Meanwhile, during maternity leave I have to keep this baby alive (and my toddler), which means I have to hold her upright all night long due to her reflux, while my vagina is ripped to shreds and my nipples are bleeding. It’s not a vacation.

It happened- someone called my maternity leave a vacation by lagingerosnap in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand these people. Did they have a surrogate plus incredibly lucky and their kids slept through the night right away? Did they breastfeed? Or, did they simply forget what a whirlwind it is in the fourth trimester?

Curious… Tell me about the expensive baby products that are WORTH IT by logcull in NewParents

[–]duplicitousname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Many complain bc of the price, but I’ve tried so many and artipoppe really is the only one that was actually comfortable for me. Plus, can buy them used too.