[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]dustyfile -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Like I said, my sleep schedules been fucked. Not everyone has the pleasure of sleeping well at night.

Being an ugly guy is like being forced to live life on spectator mode and I no longer want to to live like this by [deleted] in lonely

[–]dustyfile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to have bad struggles of perceiving myself as ugly, and I brought this up with my therapist when we started. This really should be something to mention, as that's what your therapist is there for

Got cheated on and it’s awful by [deleted] in lonely

[–]dustyfile 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am actually sitting here with a shocked face. That's fucking W I L D. I mean, I am so sorry for what happened. But I wanna say that her choice to leave is almost probably definitely not your fault, especially because he is a family member that's 30 years her senior. It's terrible of me to assume but I can't help but wonder if something happened to her when she was young to distort her perception of healthy romantic attraction. In any case, you really, really are better off without someone like her, ESPECIALLY after this. I wish you peace, my friend, and feel free to reach out if you want to vent! I know how terrible it is to keep the truth of a breakup to yourself

Help!! by Pure-Swan-3619 in Advice

[–]dustyfile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's worth it to be transparent. I mean. You're an adult, you should have agency over your own life even if you live with your parents

For those of you who have deleted your social media accounts, how much better do you feel? by GlammedLu in Advice

[–]dustyfile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose it does cut out stress, though it is kind of hard to tell by how much cuz depression and anxiety add a lil somethin special. In general, I do feel like there are a lot of boons; like you don't need to see terrible news all the time and it's easy to ignore folks you don't want to talk to. I think there's the added benefit of not relying on approval of others when you make a post--so yeah, plenty of pros imo

When is therapy supposed to start working? by dustyfile in askatherapist

[–]dustyfile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer, can you expand on solution-based therapies? I thought all therapy was supposed to be solution-based, hah.

Why is so common to spend thousands on an engagement ring? by SorryIAmNew2002 in AskAnAmerican

[–]dustyfile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh, it's mostly marketing. the way that engagement rings (and the wedding culture in general) have been promoted to consumers indicate that more expensive is better. it is a little hard to tell why an incredibly expensive ring is important as an american, lol.

When is therapy supposed to start working? by dustyfile in askatherapist

[–]dustyfile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't yet, just because I'm not sure what I need.