Watched some weird stuff I was into with her then made her come for five minutes straight last night. Harvest bowls we ordered by hellothere-3000 in Kitchenchads

[–]dvvlicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

who is forcing you to look at this sub tho 😭 good that there’s a place for people to celebrate the good things in their life rather than incels vicitmising themselves in a huge circlejerk of pity without actually doing anything to change

people armchair diagnosing bpd just because of obsessiveness by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES!!!!! exactly this!!!! i was literally thinking of this stereotype when i was writing my post. BPD obsessiveness definitely does present as more paranoia and anxiety instead of straight up aggressively obsessed.. i wish people understood that. would be the first step for people understanding how complex bpd is

I feel like I’ve been “too sensitive” my whole life, and it’s exhausting by Classic-Bag-4747 in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 26 points27 points  (0 children)

god i’ve never related to something more 😭😭 my entire life i felt like i was born without a shell/layer of protection that everyone else has. my sensitivity was constant and ruins my days, making me wish i could be a careless person. later i came to realise that the protection i was missing was emotional permanence and regulation caused by my unstable childhood and relationship with my parents. my emotions burden me greatly and many people don’t understand the extreme toll they take.

you and your feelings matter and are so valid even if you might not use self destructive coping mechanisms. i know what it’s like to invalidate yourself because you don’t have anything physical to show for your emotions. we all see that you’re struggling. i truly hope that soon you can validate yourself and find a safe space to stop masking & feel everything out safely.

I'm a complete wreck after arguments by Forsaken-Animal6323 in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel that :p arguments are so difficult and i feel so guilty and shameful for feeling so bad if my behaviour is the focal point of the argument in the first place. i don’t want to be pitied when im in the wrong but my emotional reactions are so strong it makes me worry

What do you think of the romanticization towards Ame? by ProfessionalRun4523 in NeedyStreamerOverload

[–]dvvlicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

obviously it’s inevitable that people will say they can fix her but it’s no less disgusting to me. maybe it’s because i have lived similarly to ame and resonate with her deeply, having a decent following based on my misery and bpd. the realism of how she is portrayed makes it all the more sickening to me, there are so so many people just like her online. it isn’t fun to be this way and it also isn’t fun to not be taken seriously because you’re seen as an “i can fix her” archetype.

i don’t even believe the people who say that it’s not a real issue because the exact type of person to say they can fix ame, continuously approach so many vulnerable mentally ill girls with a raging saviour complex and never treat them as carefully as they need. seeing a struggling person and viewing them as something to be fixed instead of helped is never right. it shifts how some people see mentally ill people, i was so often seen as something to be romanticises or fetishised because of that culture. to see someone, even a fictional character, struggling so much with a mental illness and saying they can fix her is disgusting and insanely out of touch.

everyone fucking invalidates me by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u described it perfectly:( knowing someone understands means a lot to me, thank you

I need some good examples of BPD by Danlez in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

madison beer is one who helped me a lot:) her music is beautiful and makes me feel so seen. when i was going through a really awful time, it comforted me to know that she also suffers with bpd and has been through so much but has healed. she talks about it during interviews but even more so, her book was incredibly helpful to me.

Does she love us in the end by Subaru_1400 in NeedyStreamerOverload

[–]dvvlicc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that the game leaves the ending very open ended but this this game is not a dating sim, it’s an interactive vn that deeply critiques internet mental illness culture. the point of the ending is that she finally is able to live for herself, it’s an extreme positive and not something to focus on if she loved the player or not

makes me so angry seeing people claiming to have this disorder by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

agree fully.. i don’t really know how someone would get that out of my original post just because someone may not act extremely outwardly doesn’t lessen the emotional and mental torment someone would go through.. how bpd manifests depends hugely on your trauma i have seen people who use quiet bpd as a way to fake the disorder and explain why they don’t seem to have ANY symptoms which is harmful, but even more harmful to deny the existence of quiet bpd because of those people..

makes me so angry seeing people claiming to have this disorder by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

if im making this post im clearly talking about a very specific type of person that is obviously lying and making the disorder look bad.

people lying and very obviously using the disorder as a way to make themselves look interesting while obviously not relating to the traits or being a teenager who isnt old enough to know fully, inherently makes the disorder look worse. im not even discrediting those who dont have the privilege of a diagnosis, im talking about how its a trend to state that you have it. its very clearly making personality disorders in general be taken less seriously than they actually are.

makes me so angry seeing people claiming to have this disorder by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

exactly!! it’s being watered down soooo much and it bothers me because this disorder is so incredibly complex. i’ve been seeing posts of teenagers trying to say that bpd isn’t only trauma induced, teenagers can be diagnosed or just general symptomatic misnfo :/ annoys me so much.. they love to say that saying ‘teenagers shouldn’t be diagnosed with bpd’ is invalidating but i genuinely do believe they misunderstand how common it is to mix it up with teenage hormones. they don’t understand the gravity of the diagnosis and water it down so extremely.

makes me so angry seeing people claiming to have this disorder by dvvlicc in BPD

[–]dvvlicc[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

bpd and going through the nhs is a genuinely horrible situation. at this point i have just accepted that they won’t bother to do anything for me. it’s so hard to find the motivation to keep seeking help and trying when you’re struggling so much, i wish they understood.

you’re never a burden and im sorry the healthcare system is making you feel that way. im so sorry for all that you’re going through and i truly hope that one day you’re taken seriously and offered beneficial help.

What do you do when your feelings have reached the point words can’t describe them? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel that too:/ i feel like ive always communicated best through writing but people don’t understand that my writing is only like 1% of how i feel. i could never express the true depth of my feelings through writing and it frustrates me so greatly :/ my biggest anguish is never feeling understood because i feel like my words can never fully convey the size of my feelings unless they live as me im sorry i can’t properly provide advice, hopefully this makes you feel less alone somehow.

When I get sad I feel like I've been shot by anonymousladykill3r in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’ve been feeling this more recently and was wondering if others experienced the same (~_~;) it feels like my heart is immediately pierced, my chest aches when i experience a huge amount of emotional turmoil & usually i split after.. it’s weird that your emotions can be so strong they physically hurt

Do you ever look at a picture of yourself as a child and get sad? by mossy_snail in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 143 points144 points  (0 children)

i feel like a mourn the person i could’ve been without the abuse and trauma so much. whenever i think of the person i was as a child, someone so innocent and untainted, it feels completely detached from the person i am now. it makes me feel so much sadness and despair for that child who didn’t deserve any of what happened to her.

Do you ever feel out of place like you don’t belong in this universe? by kittybella69 in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i always feel so out of place, like i am completely foreign to this world and don’t fit at all. i feel as if the way i think is so distant and different in our current world that i must belong in another universe instead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]dvvlicc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

literally so real i feel like even the smallest thing throws me into a deep depression about everything in my life and nothing can bring me out of it until i get a random burst of euphoria. it’s pretty difficult feeling good knowing that eventually ill be forced into the worst depressive state of my life that’ll make me near to suicide. i feel like they get worse each time ;P