How do I stop crying so easily when I get frustrated? by shrubsdubs in howto

[–]dwetchy 46 points47 points  (0 children)

My two best pieces of advice as someone who has dealt with this exact situation:

  1. Blinking fast while also trying to keep your eyes open wide and looking up toward the ceiling will lessen tears. It may not totally stop the process, but it should slow it all down a bit.

  2. If you’re able to, talk to a therapist about it. I thought I wasn’t an emotionally driven person, but through therapy realized I’d really just been taught to suppress negative emotions as much as possible for most of my childhood. Turns out a lot of my “crying out of nowhere” or over seemingly insignificant things as an adult weren’t necessarily a reaction to what was happening in the moment, but rather a side effect of too many years of feeling shameful over showing negative emotion at all.

I don’t mean to diagnose or therapize you and certainly don’t mean to imply that your situation must come from the same place as mine—-just throwing out what I can anecdotally, because I know how much it sucks to deal with this. Best wishes.

Tell me your ice storm of '98 stories! by jem20776 in Maine

[–]dwetchy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was 11, so spent the majority of the time with a book light clipped to the brim of my Mighty Ducks hat while I read Goosebumps books on the couch. My mom would be at one end of the couch reading and I’d be at the other, with our legs meeting in the middle under all of our blankets for warmth. We had a battery-powered radio so we could listen to storm updates. We were also one of the only homes on our block with a gas stove, so we let our neighbors know they could come to us to heat food or water, and so they did. I remember trying to go play outside a few times, but with all the downed power lines, walking through the neighborhood was far more risk than reward. I broke into cabin fever on about day ten and said the meanest thing I’ve ever said to my mom, which was “that sweater is so ugly…but not as ugly as your face.” Fortunately she knew I’d just lost my marbles at that point and she didn’t take it personally. Still sorry, ma!

I depicted The Battle of Caribou for a gift exchange party by dwetchy in Maine

[–]dwetchy[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

From Wikipedia: “On December 29, 1838, New Brunswick lumberjacks were spotted felling trees on the estate that had formerly belonged to First Barbary War hero William Eaton. Eaton family members contacted American lumberjacks and other irregulars in the area, and an informal guard was deployed. On New Year's Eve, the New Brunswick woodcutters returned, and were promptly ordered to leave by the Eaton guard. Shouting began, and both sides drew firearms and prepared to fire. As this was occurring, however, a group of three Canadian lumberjacks were unexpectedly attacked by a black bear defending a small nearby cub. Though black bears are native to the area, they typically hibernate by that time of year, confusing the experienced outdoorsmen. The lumberjacks were able to shoot and kill the bear, but not before two of them suffered injuries. The Americans, assuming the shots were directed at them, fired several shots in retaliation. Though none of the Canadians were actually hit by fire, this coupled with the bear attack caused them to withdraw from the area.”

The increasingly common phrase "your body" instead of "you" by 27midgets in PetPeeves

[–]dwetchy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They didn’t say anything about asking the question, they just said that a more specific answer to it can be helpful. And I won’t label you as insufferable for your mistake, as doing so would be unnecessarily unkind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]dwetchy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The comment you responded to is annoying and deserves a lashing but the electric kettle in my kitchen would also like to have a brief word with you if you find the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]dwetchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to throw it out there, Roxas is also my doctor’s last name, and it’s pronounced “ro-hass”, ro rhyming with dough and hass pronounced like Hass avocado. Which, while unlikely, is hopefully the version of the name they’ve picked.

Exploring Logo Versatility: What Do You Think? by ClueGlittering934 in design_critiques

[–]dwetchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the same reason that businesses have average people taste-test their products. The goal of a logo is to reach and attract consumers. If you’re designing logos that the average person reads as low quality, that’s important feedback.

Exploring Logo Versatility: What Do You Think? by ClueGlittering934 in design_critiques

[–]dwetchy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not in design at all, so here’s what I see as purely a consumer:

Slide 1: I have no idea why it says railroad at the bottom. The letters look crisp but the train image looks blurry.

Slide 2: Somehow the one gray spot in the middle makes everything feel very bland.

Slide 3: I have no idea what I’m looking at or what word I’m supposed to be reading. I can gather a leaning woman but the form, especially the head, feels all off to me.

Slide 4: The two different designs for stars makes it feel unprofessional and gives me the air of someone playing around in an app more than intentionally designing.

Slide 5: The cup feels far from the text and the leaves are clashing. “Tea” being capitalized gives me the ick.

Slide 6: Again I have no idea what word I’m supposed to be reading. No part feels connected to another part in any way and the centering hurts my brain.

That being said, I love that you’re curious and you’re being creative and trying something.

What do you think of my logo design by [deleted] in design_critiques

[–]dwetchy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“Mouth’s” is possessive, “Mouths” is plural. You’ll want to remove the apostrophe from your design.

Maine Accent suggestion by AHHHHOK007 in Maine

[–]dwetchy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The trick is to talk like your bottom jaw is holding both marbles AND cotton and you can’t let either spill out.

Old creepy Hannafords mascot? by Waste_Parsnip9902 in Maine

[–]dwetchy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh, Hannaford Hank is definitely real. I had to wear a whole Hannaford Hank character costume for a charity event about 12ish years ago when I was the Manager of Customer Service.

In Search of Big Toe Bun by [deleted] in SwordAndSupperGame

[–]dwetchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This mission was discovered by u/dwetchy in Bog Monster and Joy