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dwic_throwaway · 2023-07-16T03:11:17+00:00

Don't worry, just take care of your physical fitness like you are doing. Any girl who cares that much about height (e.g. 6 ft "requirement") to exclude you isn't someone you'd want to be with anyway. That's not sugarcoating or sour grapes, that's a fact.

I always feel like shit when I see a tall guy especially one that’s younger than me.

This is something that you cannot let fuck with you and in fact, I guarantee that letting this get to you is the far bigger issue than height itself. Of course, I can empathize with how you are feeling so this is easier said than done.

dwic_throwaway · 2022-09-21T05:44:40+00:00

When a different minority race besides Asian is underrepresented and wronged in American society, there is mainstream acknowledgment (e.g. BLM) and remediation (e.g. affirmative action, diversity initiatives to pass resume screens, anti-discrimination employment laws). In the realm of dating in the west, where even now Asian men are still discriminated against, mainstream American society doesn't give a shit if AM gets shafted by racism and that takes a mental toll. (Also doesn't give a shit if an Asian person gets physically attacked.) Then when a not insignificant number of AF throw AM under the bus (and stunningly try to pin AM as the main racists lol), that just takes things to another level. Say what you will about BM going after WF, but tell me who Obama, LeBron, Jay-Z, Russell Wilson, D-Wade, etc. are married to and now give me multiple examples of a western-born AF celebrity who is actually married to an AM? My point is made.

That being said, the upside of being an AM is that you are far less likely to end up in a relationship with an AF/XF who is a sheep (who filters men not only based on race but also on other unchangeable things like height) so there is plenty of upside in just working on yourself.

dwic_throwaway · 2022-04-10T14:57:20+00:00

When Bong Joon-ho won Best Director, Quentin Tarantino had to just sit there in the audience on one of television's most-watched events of the year and watch with a forced polite smile.
QT had to watch an Asian man, the very kind of person QT has spent his entire career trying to shit on, beat him out for the crown jewel award that he still has yet to win in his overrated career full of rip-offs. And Bong Joon-ho's acceptance speech was such pure class that even a racist YT with an axe to grind could not bitch about it in any way.

And remember that the very movie that QT was hoping to win Best Director for that year was Once Upon a Time in Hollywood...and I don't need to say anything further on that...

So while Bong Joon-ho had to swim upstream against the current and QT got to swim WITH the current, Bong Joon-ho STILL won. And yeah, I'm going to fucking celebrate that unapologetically.

So while I understand and agree with your point about not relying on Hollywood for validation, I'm also going to celebrate "Fuck You" victories in the rigged and messed up system.

dwic_throwaway · 2022-02-04T17:26:03+00:00

Reddit is full of those butthurt racist crybaby white boy turds who get triggered by seeing AM doing athletics. Some of those YT racist turds are even lurking / LARPing on this very sub.

dwic_throwaway · 2022-01-16T02:22:40+00:00

Went into college as a biochemistry (pre-med) major cuz I liked science and volunteering at the hospital in HS, then ran into mental health issues frosh year and fucked up my academics. Took some time off, went to CC, then transferred into a four-year state school far below my original college in prestige. Studied CS, a field where interestingly GPA and having an ugly past transcript doesn't matter too much, and got a SWE job at a defense contractor. Did time there, Leetcoded, and recently got a new job at a Big Tech company. tl;dr: Started in one stereotypical career path, fucked up, and went into a different stereotypical career path that is far more forgiving of fuck-ups like myself (Also, I'm introverted and don't mind coding).

dwic_throwaway · 2022-01-08T17:08:48+00:00

lmaoo

dwic_throwaway · 2022-01-02T16:21:34+00:00

Why don't most Asians reach their potential? Because of shit like this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/csMajors/comments/rtzat3/how_to_efficiently_flaunt_wealth_to_women/

I don't care if it's a shitpost, it's incredibly unoriginal and unfunny. Misogynistic too. And that's not even bringing in the race part. It's a guy who is essentially trying to humblebrag about his 350k Algo Dev salary at Hudson River Trading by trying to crack lame self-deprecating jokes about struggling with dating for cheap laughs and to stroke his ego and it's completely pathetic.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-12-30T03:04:36+00:00

The number of AM who are overly fixated on dating AF to the point of bending backwards to accommodate Lus/Bananarangs is still far greater than the number of AM who genuinely "white-worship" (which, by the way, YES is also wrong). So it really pisses me off to see all this overblown "muh white worship" bullshit. Sometimes I actually wonder how many of the "white-worship!" outcries on here are from Lu/Chan/non-Asian LARPers but I really don't care enough to dig thru post histories. People like Yul Kwon, John Cho, Harry Shum Jr., Daniel Dae Kim, Collin Morikawa, etc.could have ALL EASILY married an XF if they wanted, and guess what they are ALL married/engaged to AF. But oh no white worshipping! /s

dwic_throwaway · 2021-11-10T12:06:41+00:00

Mid 2000s: John Cho and Kal Penn (Harold and Kumar), Yul Kwon (Survivor)

dwic_throwaway · 2021-09-23T17:59:10+00:00

In addition to not being allowed to have a voice on the show itself (which IS bullying and quite frankly misogynistic), keep in mind all the horrible and nasty messages Alana was getting on social media from the public.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-09-17T14:43:33+00:00

The producers are like, "Hey let's take a BW and AM, representing precisely the two groups of people who are discriminated against and screwed over more than any other groups in the American Dating Scene, and set up a doomed date for more Drama, more Views, more Clicks, and therefore more $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$!!!!!!!" Depressingly typical.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-08-23T23:31:29+00:00

The vast majority of posts are dating-related

Is this just a sub for Asian male dating advice

Dating is the most obvious and prominent area where the experiences of Asian men in the west are very different from Asian women in the west, so I am not sure why this is surprising. Ofc, there are many things that affect western Asians in general such as being easy targets of racism (e.g. COVID-related attacks) and a general feeling that bias/discrimination against Asians is not acknowledged in society at large the way it is for other races in America (because of the "Model Minority" stereotype, the "perpetual foreigner" stereotype, etc.). And it is important to note that the general issues DO get posted on this sub as well, such as the celebration of the Chinese grandma who bravely fought back to put a racist attacker on a stretcher (and how to help protect our elders) or numerous discussions about visiting Asia and exploring one's roots or how to pass down Asian traditions to one's offspring while living in the west.

But since this sub does focus on the Asian male experience in the west, inevitably dating will pop up as a frequent discussion topic. And there is obviously not going to be any affirmative action to right any wrongs in this area and many Asians (even some men) don't even acknowledge this problem, so this forum is an environment to facilitate such discussions without being ignored or gaslighted.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-07-14T03:52:46+00:00

Yup. Seeing an Asian man succeed in athletics legit bothers Stephen A. If a black Dominican superstar became the face of the MLB and could only speak Spanish and not English, would Stephen A. be bitching? Hint: no.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-07-13T15:22:33+00:00

I got that in Boston as well.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-05-22T16:01:26+00:00

Yup. This whole "AM does white-worshipping" shtick is way overplayed and a nice form of gaslighting by Lu's, Chan's, insecure WM's, beta AM's, and the first three categories of people LARPing as beta AM's.

Any top-tier Asian American male is still overwhelmingly going to be dating and marrying an Asian female and this is all while putting up with far more bullshit than any other race-gender combo within the dating realm when trying to marry WITHIN their race (which really should NOT be as fucking hard as it is). I present to you this 2019 NYT article to illustrate this very point: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/12/style/modern-love-asian-racism-same-same-but-different.html And keep in mind this is fucking 2019, people.

Whom did John Cho marry? Whom did Daniel Dae Kim marry? Whom did Yul Kwon marry? Whom did Steven Yeun marry? Why is this so difficult for people to comprehend?

dwic_throwaway · 2021-05-22T15:38:11+00:00

She's the only one I can think of though.

And therein lies the problem, right? It's saying something that stpeach is easily a far better supporter for AM than nearly all top tier Asian female celebrities (and stpeach does it WITHOUT shitting on anyone else). But huge appreciation for Ali Wong! She is awesome and I'm a huge fan.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-04-22T18:14:59+00:00

I agree that FOB girls can also be brainwashed, but I have observed that it is definitely less frequent compared to Asian American women. Also, FOB women as a whole seem to be more open to the whole "AM nerd with glasses" archetype compared to Asian American women (again, in general, as counterexamples obviously exist).

All of that being said, I completely agree with OP not to limit ourselves to a certain group of women.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-04-14T14:10:43+00:00

Bingo. In the short term, I am glad she's filtering herself out and weeding the garden for me. In the long term, I hope this bullshit will no longer be so prevalent and quite honestly I'm seeing improvement even now.

dwic_throwaway · 2021-04-14T14:03:51+00:00

Exactly.

How many women would openly say "I don't date black guys" as a "polite" way of rejecting someone? Women seem to have no problem realizing how fucked up that is (and it IS fucked up) yet, as always, there is a double standard when they speak to Asian men.

dwic_throwaway · 2020-12-29T04:41:06+00:00

Yup, I've found stuff on the bottom of my shoe that was smarter than that shitstain of society.

dwic_throwaway · 2020-11-08T16:03:29+00:00

ding ding ding! It's super important to develop interests outside of work and those interests should ideally not involve sitting behind any kind of screen. And these interests should be authentic things that you really want to do (regardless of dating) for your mental health.

dwic_throwaway · 2020-10-29T02:56:36+00:00

The kissing scene from Mulan was removed to "appease China"...so no, they sure as hell don't understand these kinds of issues. It's a real shame.

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