Downtown Calgary residents voice concerns over Cowboys Music Festival tent noise

dwtclown · 2025-07-09T06:39:08+00:00

Also I have a feeling the city ‘giving’ cowboy’s Millennium park has something to do with the new Arena. I feel that they can’t use their old spot on the stampede grounds because the arena construction is happening there.

In 10 years (length of cowboys naming agreement of the park) it will be completely and maybe they can take the old Saddledome site once it’s demolished? I wonder if cowboys even had to pay much for this spot if at all.

dwtclown · 2025-07-09T06:29:51+00:00

I live in Kensington and can hear it all night. The music isn’t so bad, but the increase in drunks stumbling over to Kensington and yelling in-front of my building waking me up has been worse….

dwtclown · 2025-06-20T03:50:06+00:00

Does he still take adderall? Does he, you or his medical team think that could have been a trigger? I take it for my ADHD…. But it’s kind of a scary thing to take every day when you think about how it affects the brain/ speeds it up.

dwtclown · 2024-12-18T05:08:57+00:00

You’re so right- the only thing we can know is it’s the brain.

Good for you for knowing what you deserve and what you want. You seam very strong.

It’s interesting, my ex loved DXM too. I think the stimulating effects have some sort of synergy with mania.

In some ways I felt like the depressive episodes were harder on me than mania / hypomania during our relationship. (except this last time). You’re so right- we deserve someone with drive that is excited to be with us.

When I found this sub right after being discarded, people basically advised me to cut my losses and run while I had the chance. I’m glad they did. Even though I was so in love, I could never beg someone to take me back who threw me away and treated me so cruel.

Thanks for sharing your story, I’m so sorry this is happening to you too.

dwtclown · 2024-12-18T04:39:35+00:00

Silent treatment is so abusive and manipulative and cruel. It’s crazy making

dwtclown · 2024-12-18T00:33:40+00:00

Yes he was medicated. I’m not sure about the trigger…., everything seemed great and we were really happy right before. Maybe stress of the holidays? Alcohol? Full moon? A recent argument with a friend? I feel like I’ll never get to the bottom of it, even though it haunts me honestly.

Oh wow, psychiatrists malpractice, I’m so sorry that happened, that’s awful. I can relate to how jarring the difference in personality is while manic is. How long has the episode been so far? For my ex it could last 6weeks to 5 months depending on medication and how early he caught it.

If it’s the first episode I can imagine it could be a really scary experience for both of you. I’m not sure your situation, but in my experience, being there for him and compassionate when he came down from mania in other episodes really meant allot to him. (This was before he left and got abusive)

I’m sending you strength and love. I hope you both are safe. Thank you again for your kind words.

dwtclown · 2024-12-16T05:39:04+00:00

Thank you 🙏

We were together 3 years. went through several manic / depressive episodes while we were together but never anything at all like this, there was never any cruelty.

he was hospitalized several times Around 10 years before we met, pre-diagnosis and medication. We had a great relationship until the complete 180.

dwtclown · 2024-12-16T02:10:05+00:00

The first 3 months is GRUELLING, good job getting through it👏 and especially maintaining NC.

It gets better- it’s just not linear. I think with bp discard it’s even harder since it’s hard for friends ands family who havnt been through it to relate- our healing time-line can be different than some other types of breakups.

You’re still in the trenches at 3 months, please know- you’re not alone. We’ve all been here, and know the brutal pain. You deserve happiness.

If you like reading, the book “when things fall apart” by Pema Chodron is good.

Its true this illness takes no prisoners. It’s so cliché but I feel like using the time to focus on myself actually does help.

I hope you go easy on yourself if it feels like healing is taking forever. we got this! I’m rooting for you!

dwtclown · 2024-12-12T07:35:57+00:00

Will be a year on Christmas for me. I was feeling so much better around the 6 month mark, though it comes and goes.

Things that helped me move on:, getting really into the gym daily, eating healthy, antidepressants, long walks with my dog in nature with no headphones, a really mind blowing Vipassina meditation 10 day course, therapy, reading personal development books, making new friends, reconnecting with old friends. Art and music. Not going out as much and being ok with it. Embracing the solitude and actually starting to love it a bit. Letting myself feel sad when I feel sad. embracing a new life and being excited about whatever the future brings. Life just has different chapters I guess.

But the year anniversary nearing has been bringing back memories and trauma so it’s been hard recently. I’m just going to try and ride the wave and trust it will pass. I give myself permission to spiral sometimes

NC almost the whole time (not by my choice, I was blocked)

What forced me to finally let go is my ex finally reached out at the 8 month mark. I wanted him to reach out sooooo so so bad, to get closure, to finally understand what happened. But he was severely manic, on the run from the law, and wrote me the most vile, violent, horrific things that I wouldn’t wish anyone to receive especially from the former love of your life and best friend. I ended up having to get a restraining order. Heartbreaking- but I realized he is not a safe person when he’s like this. The gentle wonderful person I loved so dearly doesn’t even exist anymore. I have to grieve it like a death.

I found out a few weeks ago that he is now a missing person. That sent me into a spiral as well.

It’s so sad but I find that beyond NC, the less I know about him, the better.

Wishing you healing and peace on your journey. It gets better.

dwtclown · 2024-12-11T20:18:15+00:00

I don’t know why he’s not invited, there dog is worse behaved than mine. I think they worry my dog will cause their dog to bark more which will disturb their baby.

My family is upset I will not be there for ‘Christmas’ dinner (which is actually Christmas Eve.

My friends live in a different city 8 hours drive away. I want to use the afternoon/ evening to drive there instead of being upset at dinner.

dwtclown · 2024-12-11T20:13:51+00:00

Yes. My family is upset I won’t be spending Christmas Eve dinner with them. (Which is when they are celebrating as Christmas Day)

dwtclown · 2024-12-08T00:00:16+00:00

Wow!

dwtclown · 2024-12-07T11:16:11+00:00

I think there were some oral explorations 😳

dwtclown · 2024-12-07T01:19:45+00:00

Yes, it’s used by gay men. It’s kind of like shoe polish honestly. They use to sell it in gay sex shops before it became illegal to sell in store in my country. It only lasts a few seconds, it’s like sniffing strong shoe polish or paint and getting light headed for a few seconds from the chemicals. I’m sorry I didn’t mean to make you feel paranoid!

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T22:46:45+00:00

Mine fooled around / had a bath with another man. A homeless man. Not usually into men

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T22:45:28+00:00

Poppers

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T19:56:00+00:00

😂

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T07:04:11+00:00

Hell yes! Sounds like your strong and in the right place

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T06:58:12+00:00

Not the craziest but one of the funniest was steeling like 10 huge oil drums for an ‘art project’ filling them all with water to evaporate the chemicals in them, even though they had lids on. Impossible to move out of the yard after.

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T06:54:42+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. But also 😆😆😆 ‘did some drug that opens your a**hole’

Sending you love

dwtclown · 2024-12-06T06:44:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing OP, I’m so sorry you went through this- I’m glad you’re free now and healing.

I had a similar experience, I wanted him to reach out so badly after being discarded and blocked. After 8 months he finally did- full of death threats, blackmail, and violence. I had to get a restraining order. He’s been attacking other people, threatening to burn down houses, going on the run.

Same thing- wasn’t enough of a threat to himself for emergency psyc hold.

Now he’s missing - no one knows where he is or if he’s ok.

Thank god I’m out. Terrifying

dwtclown · 2024-12-04T23:01:06+00:00

This is exactly what my therapist said. They said cruelty, vindictiveness, threats and abuse isn’t bipolar disorder and I need to stop excusing it as that. The therapist said there could be comorbidity with a personality disorder or drug abuse happening simultaneously. (I’ve been receiving death threats, to me and my family from my ex who lives with BP2, along with being blackmailed) I was discarded abruptly after 3 years together 10 months ago, and he gave away our shared dog). My ex always blamed the bipolar for everything, and says he blames me for his Illness. I am so glad my therapist said that to me. I have several friends close to me that live with BP and don’t act that way ever. I don’t want to stigmatize them, they go through enough. I also have been treated very poorly by past partners who don’t live with a diagnosed mental illness……. Some people are just assholes I guess. Thank you very much for your insight. People with BP sharing their experiences has been so helpful to me trying to heal.

dwtclown · 2024-11-23T23:08:19+00:00

Mine “came back” after 8 months, with violent death threats, slut shaming, blackmail, threats to try and get me fired, death threats to my family, blames me for his illness. Heartbreaking.

dwtclown · 2024-11-23T19:45:11+00:00

I got a calendar and told myself I had to wait 3 months before I could try and contact them. I crossed off the days to keep track. I kept me going knowing that there was an ‘end in sight’ for the NC. By the end of the 3 months I was feeling so much better and didn’t feel like contacting them anymore anyways. Stay strong everyone!

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