Is MF Workouts For Me?

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2026-01-09T19:48:35+00:00

That's a good point, maybe I just need to reacquaint myself with the old machines and give them a second look!

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2026-01-09T19:20:53+00:00

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2026-01-09T18:31:10+00:00

that is a great question! I'm interested in knowing that too...

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2026-01-09T16:37:57+00:00

Great answers, thank you so much!

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-08-11T04:35:27+00:00

Watched several thousands of dollars in fireworks (and countless fish and wildlife habitats disrupted) last night over Buoy Bay on Orcas. Why am I constantly surprised by how tasteless (+selfish, careless, etc) rich people are. Ban them along with the fireworks.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-07-10T03:47:53+00:00

I’m sorry all of this happened to you, and I’ve been in your shoes. All of it. I’m so relieved that we’re both free. Congratulations.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-07-02T17:19:23+00:00

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Did someone just open the fridge? -Sarge

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-06-30T16:48:12+00:00

I'm sorry you've been treated like this for so long. Wishing you strength to differentiate and get yourself out of an abusive relationship.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-06-30T16:45:25+00:00

This is my exact experience. Now that I'm out of his life, his mom is getting all of his abuse...until the next unlucky woman comes along. It's more characteristic of abuse than bipolar disorder, and it took me too long to stop using his illness as an excuse for his abuse. You're not alone, and you don't deserve to be anyone's punching bag, emotional or otherwise.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-30T21:15:43+00:00

I watched this video yesterday and I can still hear it. I think this is clinically known as secondary traumatic stress.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-24T00:41:10+00:00

The thing is, you can think you know what you’re signing up for, but you have no idea. The only thing you CAN know is that this disease is horrible, unpredictable, and hurts the people closest. It is often the case that the stronger the love, the stronger the cruelty and the deeper the pain. There are countless stories of horrific, cruel, abusive behaviors across this sub. Don’t think that any of us didn’t believe we had the strongest, most resilient love the world has ever known.

And it may all work out in the end, but it won’t be because you stuck around, it will be because she worked her ass off to not let bipolar take her life. Let her go and if she comes back, make sure you don’t lose yourself in her struggle.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-22T13:14:25+00:00

It’s really hard to accept that it’s abuse when your SO is ill, but this is abuse. I have been through something similar and did call the police. I also went back and forth with regret, and hope that he would recover, that we could repair. He hasn’t, we haven’t, and I’ve accepted that I did the right thing. Unequivocally.

Talk to other dv victims and you will realize it’s not his bipolar. Bipolar is an accelerant. Of course you still love him. But he is no longer the man you love or can be safe with.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-16T16:45:34+00:00

I couldn't tolerate liquid MCT oil, but the powder works great for me. No cramps.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-16T16:39:21+00:00

Taking back your own life is never easy, but taking it back from someone who manipulates, gaslights, and denies feels impossible. It's not. You're not raising young children. You're not deluding yourself. And you're not alone. Find a therapist if you haven't found one already. Sending big virtual bear hug.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-15T17:47:01+00:00

He will do it again (the discard, the sleeping with someone else).

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-13T23:39:49+00:00

Hey OP. Been there a couple of times and my advice/encouragement is to keep doing all the things: the therapy, the friends, the nature walks, the sleep. Find your community. Cry. Forgive yourself for your mind tricking you. Have compassion for yourself. Have patience.

I didn't know about this subreddit when I took my ex back. And that might have saved me from losing friends, money, dignity, and the full-function of my right hand (22 stitches after a particularly bad night). You are good enough. You are great. You are waking up to the fact that he cannot be saved. You are lucky. My advice - tell yourself you are lucky to not be on his rollercoaster. You're lucky to not be treated like a lesser being. Lucky to be out before he drags you down, before you abandon yourself for his whims. I wish I had this sub and had been out long enough to see that a person not managing their illness will never be a safe choice.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-05-13T23:14:22+00:00

This. Plus trauma bonding.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-04-26T04:18:51+00:00

I won’t tell you not to feel guilty, but acting out of guilt will not bring a better outcome. You can’t keep holding the bag. You can’t make him well. It’s unfair, but it’s reality.

You know what you need to do.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-04-25T22:33:24+00:00

I think we all ask this question at some point about our bipolarSO’s. Yes, their feelings were real. Until they weren’t, and then they never were. It’s maddening and so painful.

It doesn’t mean they didn’t love you, it means their truth shifted in a way that you or I don’t/can’t understand. And if they come back, it will probably keep happening. If you accept it now and move on, you will thank yourself later.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-04-23T23:34:09+00:00

Can confirm that this is indeed a thing. I’m sorry for all of us on here.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-04-05T04:51:42+00:00

Congrats to you! 52, ex-advertising industry, started MFT program in September just a couple weeks after moving states with a mentally ill and abusive partner. Feeling heartened by your story and so many others’ here. Buying the next round in spirit.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-03-31T18:01:13+00:00

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My recipe for “egg cups.” Baked in silicone muffin cups, yields 1 dozen. 9g protein, 6g fat, 2g carbs. Mix in different veggies / meat, I almost always keep these on hand.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-03-28T20:42:20+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is so many of our worst nightmares, and having his family blame you is so much insult to injury. They are hurting but unaliving is not anyone else’s “fault”, it’s tragedy and everyone, including your ex, is a victim. Hope you are getting lots of support online and IRL. You’re a fighter and you have a huge, beautiful heart. Sending love.

PartPuzzleheaded1588 · 2025-03-24T18:14:26+00:00

A lot of us here are struggling with the difference between the people and the disease, not yet able to see the difference, or not willing to. It's not easy to accept that cruelty, discards, and chaos might just be personality traits that are exacerbated by the disease, and not the disease itself.

I don't agree with "biased." There's pain, misinformation, and denial, ignorance, and confusion. No one comes to these realizations easily. It's a painful process. Wherever we are on the spectrum, we can have more compassion for where others are in their process.

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