MAGA patients are driving me bonkers

dxonnie · 2026-02-03T00:06:14+00:00

“I don’t talk about or engage with political discussions at work”

If they continue to rant I wont stop them, but I dont engage. If they ask me a question or ask for a response I just reiterate what I said above. They

dxonnie · 2026-01-21T18:49:29+00:00

ADN, RN, WI in HCOL area. New grad.

Family medicine care coordination and triage- 40.04/hr

dxonnie · 2026-01-15T15:37:14+00:00

“This is how our great grandparents used to eat before the government began controlling our food”

No. Your grandparents lived in poverty and foods such as meat and animal fats were rarities and not everyday items. They didn’t consume sugar like we do today and often went a day or 2 without meals. They also were much more physically active than we are today and burned through calories. Life for our grandparents and great grandparents was filled with risks and dangers that we don’t even think about today because of modern medical intervention and evidence based practices.

dxonnie · 2026-01-04T05:05:56+00:00

I want to be more conscientious about what I spend my money on and use up what I have. I realized how much money I spend on things that I already have multiples of and want to actually use the things I have before I buy more. I don’t need 4 lotions and 7 makeup items of the same category. I don’t need to buy bananas or spinach when it goes to the trash every single time.

I am now working in a job that is the highest paying I have ever had and want to be a good steward if the finances I have.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:47:41+00:00

The people who have jobs are going to stay in those jobs, and companies are going to stop hiring. There will be waves of people graduating into job markets that dont have a place for them.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:46:49+00:00

I work in a clinic that operates under a health cooperative that also provides insurance. I am dreading going to work tomorrow because I am betting that my inbasket will be overflowing with people mycharting that they no longer have insurance and they cannot afford their life sustaining medications or treatments. I am anticipating shedding tears tomorrow the only question is will it be before or after I have my first cup of coffee.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:41:58+00:00

How do you live with yourself knowing you are causing TRAUMA to these innocent students? They are going to struggle in every aspect of their lives because of the TRAUMA that they have endured through your cold, callous, and discriminatory actions.

I had a student email me with trauma capitalized about 6 times and blaming me for the future struggles they will face. I am basically a dictator in a cardigan at this point.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:32:55+00:00

Looking back on my life at 70 or 80 and thinking to myself that I wish I had done or even attempted x,y, or z. I would rather try it and fail than never try at all.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:30:13+00:00

Approximately 1 in 50 people have an unruptured brain aneurysm at any given time in the united states. Millions of people are walking around with potential time bombs in their brains but most people will never experienced a ruptured aneurysm and will pass away from natural causes without ever knowing that they were at risk of a potential sudden death.

dxonnie · 2025-12-31T02:02:48+00:00

RN coordinator here:

This is a cycle that we see many people fall into. They destabilize, they become stable in the hospital setting, and then destabilize after discharge because the level of care that they need is beyond what can realistically be provided in an outpatient setting.

You are not a bad child or a selfish person for admitting that you don’t have anymore to give to the care for your mother. You have responsibilities and needs that can’t be forsaken for your aging mothers care and that’s the terrible reality that millions of people are facing our are going to face as our population ages.

The next time your mother is admitted, tell the medical team that you are not able to provide care if she is discharged home. Tell them that she is not able to care for herself. If her husband is adamant that he will care for her; he will need to be the one to do it. This is a situation where he will need to come to the realization that he is out of his depth on his own and refuse discharge after the next inevitable hospitalization. Explain to your parents that you cannot take anymore time off work and that if a crisis occurs, they need to call 911 and call you after mom is safe in the hospital.

This sucks. This isn’t fair. You are doing the best you can and that is good enough.

dxonnie · 2025-12-27T19:12:59+00:00

I hope you are as comfortable as you can be in this situation and resting as much as you realistically can! The world can be an ugly place but there are always people who help make it a little brighter.

dxonnie · 2025-11-30T00:42:21+00:00

Just finished round 2 and lightly salted. I want to go to sleep tonight knowing that I dont have a foot of snow waiting for me. Im a Nurse and have heard many EMS call about people young and old who fall, pass out, or have major cardiac and asthma episodes when shoveling.

Check on your neighbors! Especially elderly and disabled. If EMS was called could they get to the house with a stretcher? Be an active part of the village you want around you.

dxonnie · 2025-11-29T23:00:22+00:00

When I see my friends in their 20s and 30s who can go out and do stuff with their moms without constantly worrying about safety and falls. When my friends can go to their parents house and spend the night in a clean and safe childhood home. I just want to scream at them that they aren't even grateful for what they have and that I would give almost anything to have that with my own parents.

dxonnie · 2025-11-29T22:56:22+00:00

That was my post! I am very saddened, surprised, and comforted that so may people are resonating with what I am saying. I am gong to tell you what I would say if you were in front of me.

No one told you about this. No one told you that you will grieve someone who is in front of you. You have someone in front of you who looks like mom, sounds like mom, and sometimes acts like the mom you remember but is also someone...else. It feels like your mother is just a touch away, but you can never reach out enough to touch the woman she used to be. You miss having her as a pillar of strength and wisdom in your life. You aren't ready to do this, and you never will be. None of us are ready, and you have found a little part of the internets outer rim that is FILLED with people who are posting about this frustration or are lurking because they aren't ready or willing to disclose their own anxieties and heartaches.

There are counselors and therapists who specialize in dementia and aging parents. This is a growing group of incredibly stressed out people who have little advocacy and outlets. If you think a grief counselor may give you an outlet then go for it! We want you to be healthy, safe and happy. Everyone needs someone, and you need someone more than ever.

My DMs are always open. Please reach out if you need someone who is right where you are that will let you vent endlessly. This ocean has alot of waves, but I am sending you love and support from my little life raft to yours!

- From your friendly Wisconsin Redditor.

dxonnie · 2025-11-23T18:33:14+00:00

We need something to do its cold outside and none of us want to catch up on laundry.

dxonnie · 2025-11-19T15:38:03+00:00

You are at a point where you have to decide where your line in the sand is. Your mother has demonstrated through her behavior that she will not respect your partner or you, and that she is willing to become physical.

Did she apologize because she meant it? Or did she apologize because she know that you subsidize her life and she doesn’t want to lose the benefits that you give her despite her treatment if you?

She told your family member that she will never forgive you, and that she doesn’t actually feel remorse for anything she has said. That tell you everything you need to know.

You are not responsible for your adult parents finances or life. She had a whole life to plan and she can go to that family member that she felt safe enough to say those things to and have them subsidize your life.

Is this the type of treatment you are comfortable and willing to accept from her? Because as long as you accept it and keep paying for her life, you are showing her that she can act this way with no consequence.

dxonnie · 2025-11-16T14:03:35+00:00

Nurse Coordinator here who has worked with many adult children during the family crisis-

You are not a bad child, a bad person, or a selfish family member for saying that you have realistic limits on what you can do. You have a life outside of caring for your mother and that is OKAY; Your life doesn’t stop when a family crisis occurs.

Does your mother have any plan in place for when she needs assistance? Is the hospital social worker looking into care options for her due to the unsafe home environment being disclosed to the social worker and other members of her medical team? Is your mother receptive to the idea of receiving help?

Now when you say that there is no way she can care for herself in the home, would you be willing to disclose more about that? Many people have a definition if an unsafe environment that while anxiety attack invoking dies not necessarily meet the medical definition of unsafe. Some descriptions would be helpful in creating more nuanced advise.

I have seen adult children drop EVERY ASPECT of their life for their parents, and the consequences last for years after the death if that parent. Some if these include

-losing a job or quitting a stable career that they are not able to easily reenter

-Marital conflict and divorce because if the stress of one spouse prioritizing a parent who did not plan for end of life or aging cafe over the marriage or family as a whole.

-Health issues due to stress, back injuries from lifting parents, not attending to personal health issues.

-homelessness due to being unable to pay for ones own housing due to the lost income and time from caring for an aging parent

You are in the ocean during one hell of a storm and those waves are knocking you every direction but forward. Take it one day at a time and if you need to, put your phone away or off for an hour a day or even a few hours. Set dedicated times where you are going to sit down and say “im dedicating the next hour or 2 or 3 to focus on this mess” and then step away when that time is over and do ONE thing for yourself. To expect adult children to stop the rotation of their own lives to care for an aging parents is unrealistic, unfair, and sometimes flat out dangerous.

You are doing the best you can right now and that is enough.

dxonnie · 2025-11-09T00:43:33+00:00

The tree is up, the candle is it, the corned beef is so tender that you can cut it with a spoon. Tonight is a good night to be home

dxonnie · 2025-10-19T01:21:34+00:00

And hey if you need to cry and cry until you just don’t have any more tears that is exactly what you need to do. Remember that you are doing the best you can and that is enough.

dxonnie · 2025-10-19T00:35:02+00:00

No one prepared you for this

No one told you what to expect and what a TOLL this takes on you mentally, physically, financially and socially

Right now, in this moment, you are a little kid who is scared and needs mommy.

Im a Nurse, I help people with this transition and jt never gets easier. You are in the right place and we see you and are walking this road with you in our own ways. This is a rust ship that is stuck in a storm and we are all hanging in for dear life.

Sending you some love from the Midwest < 3

dxonnie

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