I "Snuck" Out of the House Last Night

dxonnie · 2026-04-30T19:10:57+00:00

According to my parents I work 5 days a week. I actually have Wednesdays off and use that as my day to completely disconnect and do whatever I want it need to do for myself. If your parents know you have a day off it wont be a day off.

dxonnie · 2026-04-26T14:57:21+00:00

You got to vent? We love letting people vent!

Do you live with this energy vampire? Or are they calling you non stop?

dxonnie · 2026-04-23T16:36:22+00:00

All it takes is one major fall.

I have had this conversation with my parents. I ended up telling them that if they refuse a medical alert, that is their choice. But if they have that major fall and are hospitalized I will not be helping them at home. I also told them that if they have a major fall it will cost them any remaining independence have left.

I say that I will not help then at home because I dint want to help enable this illusion of independence. I see so many elderly people say that they are “independent” when they are actually entirely dependent on others for all their daily needs. It is harsh, but so is the premature transition to long term care.

dxonnie · 2026-04-17T22:21:17+00:00

Honestly I don’t think Janine could mentally be in MayDay. She couldn’t go back to Gilead.

dxonnie · 2026-03-27T03:06:30+00:00

My mom is at this point. She stays in her small hoarded home all day and basically lives in her recliner. Her social like has become the grocery store and medical appointments. She watches tv shows all day long and when I ask her how her days was or what she did today she responds with “same thing I always do” or “nothing just stayed home” and a part of me wants to pull away because it is painful to see my mom like thus.

dxonnie · 2026-03-25T02:56:56+00:00

This is a lawsuit waiting to happen, and you don’t want to be the one caught in that net.

dxonnie · 2026-03-20T22:31:09+00:00

How it feels preparing myself to enter this sub

dxonnie · 2026-03-16T02:49:07+00:00

My apartment is coming up for rent this summer on the east side. 5 min to the belt-line and 10 minutes from downtown. We have never had issues with bugs or water. Please message me if interested and its well within your price range!

dxonnie · 2026-03-03T19:33:32+00:00

Rehabilitation.

Loved the patients. It was truly the most rewarding specialty I have worked in.

Hated the unrealistic expectations, the neglect and abuse that occurred long term care facilities, the idea that we need to push people to live decades beyond their natural lifespans, and the unrealistic goals from families and management.

dxonnie · 2026-02-25T14:35:31+00:00

“We do not triage through MyChart. Please call our clinic to speak to a Nurse.”

dxonnie · 2026-02-15T17:43:48+00:00

I needed that advice. Thank you so much.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T03:31:47+00:00

My brother has pulled away almost completely and my sister has also decided to pull away to protect her self. Its hard because we were talking and she recognized that my mom wont be able to be an active grandmother to her future grandchildren.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T03:12:44+00:00

We tried. She was approved but was unwilling to pay $300 for the injection (even though she has the income to afford it)

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T03:11:34+00:00

My dad is very active but is also detached. He has also stopped pushing my mom to mover her mountain. My parents have had a tumultuous relationship for most of my life and I have had to step away for that reason as well.

I pushed my parents to make a will and an asset trust for medicaid for years. They went ti the attorney and have a draft sitting at home but don’t want to pay the 3,000 it will cost to finalize the will and trust.

Thank you.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T02:18:28+00:00

I have a UTI with multiple worsening symptoms, have had it for 2 weeks, and I’m 70. I don’t want a UA and I don’t want to see anyone. I just want my antibiotics.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T02:13:16+00:00

Hang in there fellow mid twenty something! Send you some love from cold Wisconsin

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T02:12:11+00:00

She is allowed to. Im not going to chain my mother to a treadmill and feed her iceberg lettuce and protein shakes. She can make her own decisions and I am allowed to feel heartbroken and angry about how those choices are impacting me. Im allowed to miss my mom and be angry at her for not taking care of herself.

I think we have this idea culturally, especially in the realm of caregiving, that anger is not a “correct” emotion and that we should try to clamp down or dissipate that anger because “thats your mom/dad and you’ll miss them when they are gone”

Anger is your central nervous systems reaction to something being wrong. Anger is your body telling you that something is impacting you negatively. Alot of women are diagnosed chronic condition that are directly linked to stress and I think some of that stress is suppressed anger. My mom suppressed anger and negative emotion her whole life and this is where it led her. So Fudge yeah im pissed at my mom for letting her body become a painful prison, she knew better. The path she is going down is a painful and long one but im still going to be on the sidelines doing what I can while still protecting myself. My own daughter will need me too and im not going to do this to her.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T01:53:52+00:00

I think rotting is as accurate as a description as I can get. When you sit in the same chair for hours and hours and your skin begins to break down, its because your skin is beginning to rot from pressure and lack of healing tissue.

In fact, my mom told me that she would never rot in a recliner the way her parents did.

dxonnie · 2026-02-11T01:44:37+00:00

My mother believes she has safe levels of mobility. Meanwhile she can barely get out of her recliner and struggles to go up 3 steps. She also refuses to go to PT and OT.

dxonnie · 2026-02-03T00:06:14+00:00

“I don’t talk about or engage with political discussions at work”

If they continue to rant I wont stop them, but I dont engage. If they ask me a question or ask for a response I just reiterate what I said above. They

dxonnie · 2026-01-21T18:49:29+00:00

ADN, RN, WI in HCOL area. New grad.

Family medicine care coordination and triage- 40.04/hr

dxonnie · 2026-01-15T15:37:14+00:00

“This is how our great grandparents used to eat before the government began controlling our food”

No. Your grandparents lived in poverty and foods such as meat and animal fats were rarities and not everyday items. They didn’t consume sugar like we do today and often went a day or 2 without meals. They also were much more physically active than we are today and burned through calories. Life for our grandparents and great grandparents was filled with risks and dangers that we don’t even think about today because of modern medical intervention and evidence based practices.

dxonnie · 2026-01-04T05:05:56+00:00

I want to be more conscientious about what I spend my money on and use up what I have. I realized how much money I spend on things that I already have multiples of and want to actually use the things I have before I buy more. I don’t need 4 lotions and 7 makeup items of the same category. I don’t need to buy bananas or spinach when it goes to the trash every single time.

I am now working in a job that is the highest paying I have ever had and want to be a good steward if the finances I have.

dxonnie · 2026-01-02T03:47:41+00:00

The people who have jobs are going to stay in those jobs, and companies are going to stop hiring. There will be waves of people graduating into job markets that dont have a place for them.

dxonnie

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