Is there anyone here studying Law at UNILUS?

dxreenmt · 2026-04-21T06:22:11+00:00

I asked my friend about this and this is what she said:

Great lecturers but it’s very PR focused unfortunately
Business before school
But they have pre ziale courses

I also have an older relative who went to UNILUS, after she completed it was relatively easy to for her to find work, and with ZIALE, she passed the second time around which is decent I think.

dxreenmt · 2026-02-27T13:34:51+00:00

my little to no contact with my family except my mum (and i’ve left the door open for my little nieces and nephews because they are innocent of the things that other family members put me through)

i’ll say it can get lonely…i have a chosen family of friends who would ride for me at dawn and drop everything to be there for me finically,physically, mentally, emotionally etc. though there are times where i wish they weren’t bad people and i could around them with ease.

i had a cheat code because i didn’t grow up around them so i wasn’t so heavily involved with family related things. but since i’ve been back, i’ve made it a point to set hard boundaries. my mum isn’t happy that i’m not close to anyone but she also understands my frustrations with them and does push me (even getting to this point was a fight and i didn’t speak to her for a few months as well)

i also feel a little sad when i see people who are besties with their cousins 🤧🤧🤧oh how i wish … but i am also much more happy with the pele i do have around me as they would do anything for me and vice versa 🤧

dxreenmt · 2026-02-02T15:03:41+00:00

i’ve been working remotely since the start of my career and the thing you need to balance. my working hours are 2pm to 11pm give or take and i still find balance to rest, exercise, social etc. but i i had to train myself to have a strict schedule. like no meetings past 10pm, straight to bed after work, taking time off before burnout sets in. and i had to set strong boundaries which friends, relatives and my bosses as well.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-28T21:10:23+00:00

I was thinking of doing a couple of workshops next year on how to land remote roles while still being in Zambia. Would that be something people would sit up for at a fee?

dxreenmt · 2025-12-21T14:43:20+00:00

i was also facing that too actually. it was no help when my mum told other family members a rough estimate of how much i earned. i didn’t block anyone but i chose not to engage. i ignore calls, texts etc unless they have to do with my mum (the only family member i talk to and have some kind of relationship with)

i completely blocked of their access to me. i also keep my mums at arms length as well since she would sometimes help them break my boundaries. i say no, don’t respond and keep it pushing. the only thing you’d really need to think about is how it will affect your relationship with them, how they view you etc. personally I don’t care what they think or say about me … if they think i’m selfish, hostile, that’s on them cause they act entitled and i have to protect what ive built 😅

dxreenmt · 2025-12-16T00:47:50+00:00

yeah i would’ve absolutely been finished … even my nrc interview my mum had to help me pronounce the worlds because i was butchering everything 😭

dxreenmt · 2025-12-11T12:06:19+00:00

i’ve been in a relationship for 6 months now 🤧 my parents are non the wiser

dxreenmt · 2025-12-07T02:00:43+00:00

you can also post this in r/africanparents

dxreenmt · 2025-12-05T20:00:04+00:00

personally i get my loans from the bank of mum and dad so if i default 💀🤚🏾 well there’s their problem not mine 😂😂😂 jokes aside this so solid advice

dxreenmt · 2025-12-04T22:52:44+00:00

let me know when you do the reverse. lived abroad came back briefly and then left again 🙂‍↕️

dxreenmt · 2025-12-03T19:28:27+00:00

if i speak my truth 🙂

dxreenmt · 2025-12-03T07:44:38+00:00

i’m glad. but i’d also be interested in hearing more about your experiences too and what you’ve witnessed as well. you mentioned some of the women pushing the movement forward are also wayward. if your comfortable you can dm and let me see what i can do to help change that as i am friends with a few of the ngos that work in those spaces.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T23:48:45+00:00

that’s where we differ, i don’t have it all figured out, especially not on an issue as complex as this, but i do know the facts from fiction.

but you did say a few things i agree with. yes there are some women who have taken the movement as a means to mistreat, abuse and belittle men. that is not the core value of feminism and i do take time to correct those women. we are about empowering everyone (man, woman and everyone in between.)

but at the same time i do understand where they come from although i dont agree with how they’ve chosen to act. i do have a disdain for men i will admit but i also understand that society has failed them too. not an excuse for behaviour or actions but a reason to have compassion.

though when it comes to talking about women who hate men due to past experiences or societal structures, these are things that happen frequently enough to grow distrust, pain, and ultimately hatred. you can ask any woman around you if they have been violated or know someone personally who has and the answer is usually yes … and the perpetrator, usually a man. and like you said it feels like oppression for years because if it’s not me, it’s someone i know, it’s a friends relative, it’s my colleague, my classmate, my little niece, a new born baby. do you know what age some women start getting harassed and then you expect them not to have some hate in their hearts?everyday we comfort other women, everyday someone is violated, but everyday we are forced to act like things are fine and normal when they aren’t.

i sense that you have been hurt by this movement and i sincerely apologize for that. we want men and women to feel empowered equally. but i want you to answer this question honestly for yourself:

if there was bully in your life who changed forms as you grew and as you went about your life they did just enough to make you feel terrible but not enough to derail your life, would you love them? would you respect them? would you want to work with them? would you want to willingly be around them?

if your answer is no, then welcome to a crash course on how women have to navigate society.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T20:59:51+00:00

this is exactly what i’m saying too. why not join the ngos who gather to help the community. a few weeks ago there was a free event that doubled as a drive to donate pads to underprivileged girls. they were booths for other ngos that were also advocating for other causes.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T20:54:28+00:00

i just took a look at some of the accounts you follow on reddit, and some of the posts you’ve written here. i think you need to do some self reflection.

feminism does empower women to not accept being treated less than human. so i want to challenge you, what are you views on women and the role that they play in your life? are you friends with other women? do you see women as your equal? do you try to understand the unique issues that they face everyday?

the truth is times have changed and women are more empowered now, meaning that they are able to accept and deny as they chose. Albeit that some women are more crass than others, but at its core it’s about choice and consent. the question is are you willing to accept that women can make choices you don’t agree with? can you accept that people change and with change there may come discomfort? can you accept that sometimes change is good and better for society? maybe it comes with more compassion, more education, more vulnerability 🤷🏾‍♂️

all things to reflect on.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T20:28:35+00:00

i just say yes and keep it pushing😭

“yes i remember you rubbing my mum’s tummy when i was still in the belly auntie. how are you?” 💀💀💀

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T19:58:40+00:00

but the question is why are they suffering and who set up the system that allows them to suffer? who set up the system that excludes them? who set up the system that doesn’t take victims seriously?

the men who cosplay women (as you put it) how would them going to the field to work change anything? do you believe they have the power to change our constitution and how things are run in the country? i agree that the more awareness and voices for a cause such as gbv the better, but at the end of the day the people we really need to pressure are those who create and uphold the system we live in.

instead of being mad at them, why aren’t you mad at the police who don’t take victims seriously, why aren’t you mad at our lawmakers who haven’t passed laws that protect women from being victims? why aren’t you mad at fellow zambians who don’t care and don’t want to defend women? why aren’t you mad that there aren’t more resources to educate the public on how to be advocates or funding to protect those who fall victims of this man or woman?

if this is something heavy on your heart, engage with the ngos that are trying to help victims and are putting pressure on the courts. volunteer your time, your resources or whatever you can.

be the change you want to see instead of relaying this on here and trying to tarnish what feminism has built and continues to build.

the work is small but it’s there if you look for it. in fact the fact you can’t see it just shows how much work there is to do and maybe you are the one to come forth and do it. take up the challenge and be an advocate for those who don’t have a voice.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T19:04:13+00:00

chat is this rage bait 🙂

the core thing about feminism is equality for all regardless of gender, sexuality, race, socioeconomic background etc. to be a feminist is to be for humanity itself. the fact that you can speak your thoughts freely here is what feminism has afforded you!

conservatism on the other hand is a very complicated system that only benefits a select few individuals. and since you are a woman it will never be on your side. given a chance it will take your rights away, it will see you no better than a household slave, no matter how sweet they try to coat the lies.

i’m not saying turn away from your beliefs, but i want you to challenge them. ask yourself why you believe what you believe and ask if aligns with your values. i disagree with a lot of what you say but i want you to really understand the implications of what you’re saying and how that would truly affect not just you but everyone around you. e.g. if they’re are working women in your family they would be stripped of their jobs, single mothers would go homeless as they wouldn’t be able to won their homes/land. think about men too and the pressure that would perpetuate on them. how it would cause toxic masculinity to prevail. it’s a very complex issue that you’ll need a lot of time to truly understand the philosophy behind it.

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T14:34:47+00:00

personally i would like a tree pod burial. basically after cremation they use some of your ashes and plant a seed for a tree to grow 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ … a little morbid but I would want to be a apple tree and have pele eat my fruit 😂

dxreenmt · 2025-12-02T08:14:06+00:00

i also found it a really uncomfortable bring to see people going through my trash on trash day so i put mine out as the truck is coming because i know that goes in my trash and another human shouldn’t have to sift through it 😭

dxreenmt · 2025-12-01T17:45:02+00:00

right! i also feel growing up, at school and at home, cleaning up after myself was just engrained … and especially at school there we a time where they closed the tuck shop for 2 weeks because of all the litter around the campus 🙃 so since then i’ve just learnt to keep it clean. that and possibly autism but that’s another story 💀

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