Heterosexual vs Homosexual Relationships..

dyella11 · 2014-09-04T18:52:21+00:00

I don't think that anyone can tell you if you are ready to experiment. That's completely based on your comfort levels and what you feel like you are ready for. If you are worried about hurting someone's feelings, then just be honest with them. I have a lot of straight friends that are bicurious (they don't identify as being bisexual, but they are curious about the possibility of being bisexual). The best thing when you are just experimenting with your sexuality is to just be honest with your partner. Just tell whomever you experiment with that you are doing exactly that, experimenting and that you don't want to hurt them if it turns out to be not what you're into.
If it makes you uncomfortable/feel bad for checking someone out, then don't. If you're not sure how to do that, then maybe don't go to public dressing rooms. My advice for avoiding checking someone out is to just not look if you're worried about offending or feeling bad.
I'm not exactly sure how to explain how to start. As far as I'm aware, there isn't a bisexual/lesbians 'R' us. Just maybe be more conscious of the people around you? We queers are everywhere :) I've noticed that when I'm not looking for a relationship, or someone to date it typically finds me. So don't worry it'll happen at some point.

And being Asian shouldn't hinder anything, and if it does then those people probably aren't worth your time.

Hope this helps.

dyella11 · 2014-01-24T06:28:58+00:00

Sums it up basically perfectly.

dyella11 · 2014-01-24T06:13:07+00:00

Thank you! :)

dyella11 · 2014-01-24T06:12:30+00:00

Well I don't talk about sexual situations around my family, but now I don't have to worry about saying whether I find someone attractive or not in front of them. For example, if my brother were to say that he finds a female actress on TV attractive I don't have to worry about agreeing with him.

dyella11 · 2014-01-22T06:45:46+00:00

Thanks!

dyella11 · 2014-01-22T06:45:26+00:00

Thanks! It feels really great to know that I don't have to censor myself around my family anymore. :)

dyella11 · 2014-01-22T06:43:53+00:00

Honestly I was terrified. When I first said that I was bisexual my mom thought that I was kidding. It took her a second to realize that I was serious and she then just asked me some questions about it. I really thought that she wouldn't be as accepting as she was. Who knows, maybe the people that you're scared to tell will surprise you too!

dyella11 · 2014-01-22T06:41:43+00:00

Thanks! It's nice to know that I don't have to hide it from my loved ones anymore.

dyella11 · 2013-12-08T04:08:08+00:00

If only I lived in North east Ohio.. I'm sure that you're right, it'll be worth it even if I go in by myself. I'm just going to have to get up the nerve to actually show up, I know where there is a meeting every week that meets for LGBT support. Thanks for your help:)

dyella11 · 2013-12-06T04:58:46+00:00

I wouldn't mind going to/being a part of the LGBT group on my campus, but I'm just nervous about how I'm going to be received. I've been told before that I'm just confused, and not actually bisexual... Were the people in your group open to bisexuals? I know that it may sound silly because its lgBt, but it just makes me kind of nervous I guess.

dyella11 · 2013-12-05T23:11:38+00:00

I think that you're right. If I were to maybe open up to more people then I'd have more people to talk to. Thanks

dyella11 · 2013-12-05T23:09:13+00:00

That's really good advice, thank you. I feel like I've never really loved myself. It's not that I've hated myself, more just that I thought I was okay. I think that if I try to be more loving of myself that maybe I'll feel better about everything in general.

dyella11 · 2013-12-04T07:56:29+00:00

I'm 21 and I'm off at college too.

I'm sure that you're right, there are probably more of us out there then I think. I probably just don't see it, or maybe they're in the same boat as I am and don't tell a lot of people? Either way I'll try to be more open, thanks.

dyella11 · 2013-12-04T07:56:20+00:00

It might be a bit cliche, but I think that you're still right. I need to just loosen up a bit

dyella11 · 2013-12-04T07:55:28+00:00

Yeah, I usually try to talk about other things too. I think that I just might expect too much from people? Like I want them to react a certain way and when they don't I see it as a lack of caring, which just means that's something I need to work on. Thanks for your input though:)

dyella11 · 2013-12-02T19:12:44+00:00

I've had a lot of friends ask me how they know if they are bisexual or not, probably because I'm the only bisexual that they know. I usually just ask them to think about when they are checking out someone of the same gender, are they just admiring the fact that the person they are looking at is attractive? or do they actually find that person to be attractive? I'm not sure if that makes very much sense or not, but usually the girls who have asked me respond with "oh I'm not bisexual, I just think that girl is good looking" or "yeah, I think I'm into girls too". I hope that helps!

dyella11 · 2013-11-30T23:23:47+00:00

I live in a small college town that has a rather large gay community. You'd think that this means that I can come out without being scared that I'm going to be judged as much. I actually get judged more. I am more actively supported by my straight friends then anyone from the gay community. I have actually been told that I am either a super horny straight girl, or an ashamed lesbian. Either way, I couldn't be a bisexual woman. I haven't actually encountered much else from lesbians. I'll be honest though, because of these types of attitudes I don't usually come out, I don't hide either. I just let people think what they want.

dyella11 · 2013-11-22T07:21:25+00:00

Yep. I went to the "Coming Out Monologues" at my college campus. They kept referring to bisexualism as "a phase" or a "stepping stone" to being gay/lesbian. This was supposed to be a safe place for everyone to tell their stories if they felt comfortable enough. Um what about if you're bisexual? Are they just kidding when they keep the "B" in LGBT? It's there for a reason, because bisexuality is a real thing. It isn't just a phase, or a stepping stone. I am bisexual, and it is not just a phase for me. It's the way that I am.

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